New group member

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I joined this group because my mother has bpd. I'm 31 and married

three years ago. She was always difficult but her negative behaviors

escalated to a new and scary level when I got married, which I guess

makes sense from what I've recently learned about bpd. I've always

been the " good one " the books talk about, the one who was more like a

parent to her, so when I finally " officially " moved on with my own

life she flipped out. It was very confusing because she always talked

about me getting married like any mom would, and even pushed for it

while I was dating my husband. But then she just came unglued as soon

as the engagement was made. I became very depressed and began seeing

a therapist a couple years ago, which is how I learned she is

probably bpd. I've learned about boundaries and detaching, which

helps me feel better and less guilty, but I'm being " punished " for it

on a regular basis and see signs of emotional abuse for my younger

brothers who still at home. The stress is awful. Most recently she

posted a horrible comment on my web site, where I share photos of my

baby with family and friends. Everyone I know saw this comment that

accused me of treating her like a dog, etc. I'm so angry! I've never

been humiliated like this. I know she probably looks like the crazy

one, but few people know my mom has these problems so it was probably

pretty shocking. My dad (who is divorced from my mom) and one friend

have said something to me about it. It felt good to be able to

address it, but I don't know what to do about the rest of the people

(includes a wide range of people from friends to coworkers). Do I

just " take the high road " and not say anything or do I explain to

people? I don't think most people would understand and may not want

to know my personal problems. I guess that's why I decided to join -

to hear some feedback from people who do understand.