Guest guest Posted August 27, 2006 Report Share Posted August 27, 2006 I got an email from one of the board members that I ask the same questions over and over and that I must not want my implants out cause I keep putting it off..... Well I thought we were all here to help one other...and if I have bothered any of you I AM REALLY SORRY . I was just so happy and relieved when I found you girls to talk too...you have all been so nice and so helpful and I really needed to lean on you.... I'm just a worrier and I'm scared... Also I haven't put off my surgery...Dr Kolb had to post pone it cause she hurt herself, I want it so LIKE NOW that I have even checked into other PS"S. I plan on after explant on helping who ever I can get thru this...when I say I'm sorry I mean it....I'm hurt to think I bother you girls...maybe I shouldn't post for awhile..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2006 Report Share Posted August 27, 2006 About ALL of us come to the message board (and find it) because we're upset and confused -and don't know which direction to turn. We are anxious, worried, scared, and mentally exhausted -looking for hope. Our friends and families do not understand -it seems no one else understands except those who have been in our shoes. We have no doctors to turn to, so we have to thank God we can benefit from the knowledge of those who have suffered before us...And thank God these women were strong enough to build a foundation for women like us to find them... and then willing to take their time and energy to pour what they've learned in their trials and errors into us. (God knows, we appreciate it! The founders and "anchors" of this board save lives!) We all know it's exhaustive for our board monitors and regulars to keep up with our questions, and to take all the time it takes to reply to them. Especially having to answer the same questions over and over as each new person finds the message board. It would have to get frustrating ---but to these people, I ask that you please understand that this is very new to some of us. While I know many of you still fight illness and don't feel very well even after explant, there are those of us still fighting this toxic hell head on (in our bodies). It's a very confusing ordeal, and all of you are our only hope at educating ourselves so that we can get well. You don't "owe" anything to us, but we do surely appreciate your help. You are saving us... we are grateful! God knows every post is valuable, but sometimes there are just so many to go through on a daily basis, or sometimes it's impossible to read them all -- we may miss things that were already mentioned, then ask again. What happens to me a lot is that something may not be relevant to me one day, then the next week --- I'll think "Oh, I just saw this!" Then, I try finding it or searching the posts ---but sometimes there are just too many to filter through! I've tried finding posts from Rogene and Patty before using their name and had over 5,000 hits so it wouldn't list them! (What dedication!) Sometimes it's the same way if you're searching terms we commonly discuss. I also try to "save" messages that are important information to me... and sometimes can't even find it in my mess on my computer! So anyway, I also end up asking a few of the same things so I can know which new replies to watch for. Perhaps a "commonly asked question" area on the archives would be in order? Especially about detoxing and other frequented issues. Then instead of typing up long replies, we can just be directed to that section on the message board home. As for 's explant --- there are a few of us still trying to work it out. It doesn't mean we don't trust the information here or that we don't want them out. Everyone's lives are different, and for some it's harder to manage than others -though I'm sure it's been easy for no one. Then when you factor in a doctor with a broken arm, or the fears of picking the wrong doctor -these are valid issues to take your time to make the right choices. Many of us rushed into surgery to get implanted to begin with, and are so fearful of the thought of another surgery that it makes it hard to be confident going into yet another surgery. Even though it is for the greater of our health, there can still be complications. knows this... I know this... and all we can do is pray for guidance. For what it's worth, I pray for all of you and your health, your finances, and your strength. I know many of us take more than we can give back, and so our prayers are maybe the only thing we can give back. Love and healing to all, Brigite PS: , hang in here with us!!! We're going to get well together!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2006 Report Share Posted August 28, 2006 There is no reason to be sorry, . I don't think anyone is angry with you. I just hope you can get your explant scheduled. I am glad to hear you have an appointment scheduled. I know Dr. Kolb was injured...I read your post. I only hope that you can get through all this, get an explant scheduled and be on the road to health. > > I got an email from one of the board members that I ask the same questions > over and over and that I must not want my implants out cause I keep putting it > off..... Well I thought we were all here to help one other...and if I have > bothered any of you I AM REALLY SORRY . I was just so happy and relieved when I > found you girls to talk too...you have all been so nice and so helpful and I > really needed to lean on you.... I'm just a worrier and I'm scared... Also I > haven't put off my surgery...Dr Kolb had to post pone it cause she hurt > herself, I want it so LIKE NOW that I have even checked into other PS " S. I plan > on after explant on helping who ever I can get thru this...when I say I'm > sorry I mean it....I'm hurt to think I bother you girls...maybe I shouldn't post > for awhile..... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2006 Report Share Posted August 28, 2006 I just got back from seeing Dr. Kolb on Friday - she DID hurt herself and is unable to operate... she broke her shoulder for any who are thinking you are putting it off... not that this should need to be explained by you as I understand what it feels like to be scared before surgery and I am sure I did the same thing... After meeting her... if I were you I would keep your changed surgery date and stick w/ Dr. Kolb.... I have never met a doctor more into this issue before and more caring than she was - never. My appointment w/ her to discuss my health problems was hours long.... she went over everything with me - all my concerns and questions and it looks as if I am headed for another surgery as well - I will make the trip to see her and wait for her to heal as there is not a doctor I have ever met that has treated me as well as she did Friday... I have been offline as I have been ion Atlanta since Thursday so I need to get caught up on my posts but I have not noticed what you are mentioning and even if you are asking the same questions - maybe you are looking for answers from a different person.... who knows - I have been on this board for years and I see every posts that comes thru here.... there is a lot of mail I go thru everyday - some I just skim over if they are directed at others or do not pertain to me or a question i do not think I can answer.... please do not leave - everyone needs to stick together here - the more information you have going thru this the better.... if I had the info i do now - i would have gone to Doc Kolb in the first place then I probably wouldn't be headed under the knife again and probably would not still be sick - hindsight is 20/20... but lie some have said - I was so anxious - I rushed to get them out - as quickly and inexpensively as I could... now I am paying double... Doc Kolb will be up and running again in no time - when did they re-schedule your surgery for? Are you going to stay there or do you live in the area.... i have a lot of question myself as I may be headed back up when she heals.... don't worry ask as many questions as you need to - whoever can answer them will.... stay here knowledge is power..... good luck!!! shari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2006 Report Share Posted August 28, 2006 > > I got an email from one of the board members that I ask the same questions > over and over and that I must not want my implants out cause I keep putting it > off..... Well I thought we were all here to help one other...and if I have > bothered any of you I AM REALLY SORRY . I was just so happy and relieved when I > found you girls to talk too...you have all been so nice and so helpful and I > really needed to lean on you.... I'm just a worrier and I'm scared... Also I > haven't put off my surgery...Dr Kolb had to post pone it cause she hurt > herself, I want it so LIKE NOW that I have even checked into other PS " S. I plan > on after explant on helping who ever I can get thru this...when I say I'm > sorry I mean it....I'm hurt to think I bother you girls...maybe I shouldn't post > for awhile..... >You haven't bothered me one bit, you are nervous that is normal, Plus before explant I couldn't remember anything so if you have asked the same questions it is likely you don't remeber, I don't remember you repeating yourself.Don't go away Terri P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2006 Report Share Posted August 29, 2006 Gosh, I am sorry you got a letter like that. I've seen that happen on occasion (it happened to me too, on Ilena''s board!), but please don't let one person's words speak for the whole group. Sometimes people have a hard time getting through their own emotions about all of this, and at times are uncharitable towards others. It's not very pretty and creates unpleasant feelings within us, and that is totally contrary to what our group is about. We want you to continue to feel welcome here and to ask the questions that you need to ask. I know that sometimes we have to repeat ourselves. But that happens in every part of life. Doctors have to repeat things over and over to their patients. School teachers have to repeat things over and over to students. Lawyers have to go over legal issues many times, over and over to their new clients. Preachers have to keep on teachign God's word over and over to new believers. Every person in a position of educating has to repeat things over and over and over. That's just the way it works. We're trying to put together a Frequently asked Questions section, but it's a work in progress, and let's face it, there will still be questions. So, never feel bad about asking questions. I will never feel bad about having to repeat myself. Because if we are going to be heard, that is just what we are going to have to do. PattyGMCLADY98@... wrote: I got an email from one of the board members that I ask the same questions over and over and that I must not want my implants out cause I keep putting it off..... Well I thought we were all here to help one other...and if I have bothered any of you I AM REALLY SORRY . I was just so happy and relieved when I found you girls to talk too...you have all been so nice and so helpful and I really needed to lean on you.... I'm just a worrier and I'm scared... Also I haven't put off my surgery...Dr Kolb had to post pone it cause she hurt herself, I want it so LIKE NOW that I have even checked into other PS"S. I plan on after explant on helping who ever I can get thru this...when I say I'm sorry I mean it....I'm hurt to think I bother you girls...maybe I shouldn't post for awhile..... Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2006 Report Share Posted August 30, 2006 , you haven't bothered me at all. To me, it sounds like your anxious. My oldest son has a huge anxiety problem and I have struggled with that all my life, as well. The only way I can " let things go " is by giving them to God. Easier said than done some days! Also, with my brain fog the last few years, I can hardly remember what I asked people day to day! I always have to check with my family.... " have I already told you this??? " Thank God they are supportive and don't call me a loonie! (Well, that wouldn't be so bad...it's a beautiful bird!) lol I really hope you don't quit posting. I have enjoyed your spiritual support immensely! Also, your colorful emails. Keep your chin up and your eyes to the sky! Love & Healing Hugs, Sunny > > I got an email from one of the board members that I ask the same questions > over and over and that I must not want my implants out cause I keep putting it > off..... Well I thought we were all here to help one other...and if I have > bothered any of you I AM REALLY SORRY . I was just so happy and relieved when I > found you girls to talk too...you have all been so nice and so helpful and I > really needed to lean on you.... I'm just a worrier and I'm scared... Also I > haven't put off my surgery...Dr Kolb had to post pone it cause she hurt > herself, I want it so LIKE NOW that I have even checked into other PS " S. I plan > on after explant on helping who ever I can get thru this...when I say I'm > sorry I mean it....I'm hurt to think I bother you girls...maybe I shouldn't post > for awhile..... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2006 Report Share Posted August 30, 2006 Brigite, now you've done it! There are tears dropping on my keyboard as I type. What a beautiful post...I needed to hear alot of what you said in that message. It's been very emotional for me lately....grieving the loss of all those years taken by poor health. Ya know what, though?? God can now use me to help others go through the same pain. My son always bugs me when I entertain guilt about the past, raising my children. He says, " How does the chicken soup taste today, Mom? " And I reply, " Good.. " Then he says, " Well, why change the recipe?? " Good point. Our family has a background with addictions, alcoholism & sexual abuse. We've broken the chain with this generation! He is studying to become a Youth Pastor, and will he every be able to relate to other addicted youth, right? I don't know how I got off on that tangent...however, let's all stick together through thick and thin. I guess I was thinking about hard times that we go through...it seems to prepare us for helping others and building character. God bless the ladies on the site who has stuck with it for so many years. Talk about dedication! It takes a very big heart to do this. Love, prayers & butterfly kisses, Sunny > > > > > About ALL of us come to the message board (and find it) because we're upset > and confused -and don't know which direction to turn. We are anxious, > worried, scared, and mentally exhausted -looking for hope. Our friends and families > do not understand -it seems no one else understands except those who have > been in our shoes. > > We have no doctors to turn to, so we have to thank God we can benefit from > the knowledge of those who have suffered before us...And thank God these women > were strong enough to build a foundation for women like us to find them... > and then willing to take their time and energy to pour what they've learned in > their trials and errors into us. (God knows, we appreciate it! The founders > and " anchors " of this board save lives!) > > We all know it's exhaustive for our board monitors and regulars to keep up > with our questions, and to take all the time it takes to reply to them. > Especially having to answer the same questions over and over as each new person > finds the message board. It would have to get frustrating ---but to these > people, I ask that you please understand that this is very new to some of us. While > I know many of you still fight illness and don't feel very well even after > explant, there are those of us still fighting this toxic hell head on (in our > bodies). It's a very confusing ordeal, and all of you are our only hope at > educating ourselves so that we can get well. You don't " owe " anything to us, > but we do surely appreciate your help. You are saving us... we are grateful! > > > God knows every post is valuable, but sometimes there are just so many to go > through on a daily basis, or sometimes it's impossible to read them all -- > we may miss things that were already mentioned, then ask again. > > > What happens to me a lot is that something may not be relevant to me one > day, then the next week --- I'll think " Oh, I just saw this! " Then, I try > finding it or searching the posts ---but sometimes there are just too many to > filter through! I've tried finding posts from Rogene and Patty before using their > name and had over 5,000 hits so it wouldn't list them! (What dedication!) > Sometimes it's the same way if you're searching terms we commonly discuss. I > also try to " save " messages that are important information to me... and > sometimes can't even find it in my mess on my computer! > > So anyway, I also end up asking a few of the same things so I can know which > new replies to watch for. Perhaps a " commonly asked question " area on the > archives would be in order? Especially about detoxing and other frequented > issues. Then instead of typing up long replies, we can just be directed to that > section on the message board home. > > As for 's explant --- there are a few of us still trying to work it > out. It doesn't mean we don't trust the information here or that we don't want > them out. Everyone's lives are different, and for some it's harder to manage > than others -though I'm sure it's been easy for no one. Then when you factor > in a doctor with a broken arm, or the fears of picking the wrong doctor -these > are valid issues to take your time to make the right choices. Many of us > rushed into surgery to get implanted to begin with, and are so fearful of the > thought of another surgery that it makes it hard to be confident going into yet > another surgery. Even though it is for the greater of our health, there can > still be complications. > > knows this... I know this... and all we can do is pray for guidance. > > For what it's worth, I pray for all of you and your health, your finances, > and your strength. I know many of us take more than we can give back, and so > our prayers are maybe the only thing we can give back. > > Love and healing to all, > Brigite > PS: , hang in here with us!!! We're going to get well together!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2006 Report Share Posted August 30, 2006 And everybody said, AMEN!!! > I got an email from one of the board members that I ask the same questions over and over and that I must not want my implants out cause I keep putting it off..... Well I thought we were all here to help one other...and if I have bothered any of you I AM REALLY SORRY . I was just so happy and relieved when I found you girls to talk too...you have all been so nice and so helpful and I really needed to lean on you.... I'm just a worrier and I'm scared... Also I haven't put off my surgery...Dr Kolb had to post pone it cause she hurt herself, I want it so LIKE NOW that I have even checked into other PS " S. I plan on after explant on helping who ever I can get thru this...when I say I'm sorry I mean it....I'm hurt to think I bother you girls...maybe I shouldn't post for awhile..... > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 31, 2006 Report Share Posted August 31, 2006 , Please don't stop posting. I think you just want someone to tell you that you're going to get better, and so you are looking for reassurance. I know how badly you want to get better, and I also know that it takes time and we're all different, so there's no magic pill - but there's alot you can do for yourself after explant. From my experience, even though my body is still on the mend and I do go up and down with symptoms, I'm no longer getting new symptoms week after week, which is what was happening while the implants were in. I felt like a ticking time bomb. I also have inner peace that I didn't have with the implants. I knew something was wrong, just as you know, and the relief I felt when they were out was huge. Just put yourself in the hands of a higher authority and allow things to unfold. Sis > > > > I got an email from one of the board members that I ask the same > questions > > over and over and that I must not want my implants out cause I > keep putting it > > off..... Well I thought we were all here to help one other...and > if I have > > bothered any of you I AM REALLY SORRY . I was just so happy and > relieved when I > > found you girls to talk too...you have all been so nice and so > helpful and I > > really needed to lean on you.... I'm just a worrier and I'm > scared... Also I > > haven't put off my surgery...Dr Kolb had to post pone it cause > she hurt > > herself, I want it so LIKE NOW that I have even checked into > other PS " S. I plan > > on after explant on helping who ever I can get thru this...when I > say I'm > > sorry I mean it....I'm hurt to think I bother you girls...maybe I > shouldn't post > > for awhile..... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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