Re: Adding a note on needs

[Guest guest]

>Now I will tell my age and let you know that we still enjoy our needs but

because of pain and the meds, I admit we have slowed down. My husband and I

have been married for 56 years, soon to be 57 on Jan. 3rd. We are 74. We are

both in pain but besides the actual total fulfilment, we enjoy telling each

other several times a day that we love each other and a kiss as we pass in the

kitchen or whatever room we happen to be in.

Hi Lois

There are a thousand ways to make love to our partner, but the most important

part is the sincerity. It's wonderful to know that there are couples who stay

together, through all the ups and downs of 57 years.

Thanks for sharing.

Kaylene

[Guest guest]

Lois wrote:

> This is long and I apologize for that but I am opening up a new

> subject and wonder if anyone is even interested in that part of your

> life when you get to it. If not, then just say what you think about

> what I wrote.

>

>

Lois.

When i was seventeen through 30, I worked in the medical field,

cancer ward, and with people with shortened lives. I learned that you

need to do what when you can, as the ability to do it can be taken away at any

time.

So, i have tried to enjoy life early by traveling the world, exploring new

subjects, as I knew could end anytime. I never thought I would be one of those

" people " . My husband was the type that always wanted to wait until later but was

glad we took the opportunity to do the things we did.

A kiss and hug now means more to me than sex. It is just where i am in life.

Bennie

[Guest guest]

When I was a young adult in college, I could relate better in

some ways with my grandparents, great grandfather, and older

teachers better than my peers. I think what drew me to them was

the amount of experience they had. I also enjoyed reading

anything I could get my hands on. I am glad to know when anyone

is able to enjoy life whatever their condition.

We are forty-four and have been married since we were twenty-six.

That part of our lives has suffered recently because she cannot

sleep in a bed. Not only does her breathing stop, her throat

collapses and it takes a while to get it open enough to breath

normally. We have been sleeping in recliners beside each other

for about six months now. Like you, we try to express our feelings

in other ways.

The worst part is that we cannot be sure it will get any better

before it gets worse. We do what we can.

Jerry

[Guest guest]

Lois wrote:

We are both in pain but besides the actual total fulfilment, we enjoy

telling each other several times a day that we love each other and a

kiss as we pass in the kitchen or whatever room we happen to be in.

Lois

Lois,

Thank you for sharing the fact that the " needs " of senior citizens

continue. It is insightful to know that our desires don't stop as we

age.

I also love the way you describe the deep bond you & your husband

have together so that kissing each other as you walk into another

room is just another method of pleasure.

My husband & I have been married 24 years, 25 on February 24th. My

husband realized when I first began going through the pain process

that his touch & slight kisses actually could help ease my pain. We

are 43 & 44 so we still have a good amount of time together.

Lori

[Guest guest]

Jerry wrote:

> We are forty-four and have been married since we were twenty-six.

> That part of our lives has suffered recently because she cannot

> sleep in a bed.

Jerry, if you'd like, I'd be happy to give you some suggestions (off

line) on how to make this work, despite the unusual sleeping

arrangements.

[Guest guest]

jennifer wrote:

>

> Jerry, if you'd like, I'd be happy to give you some suggestions (off

> line) on how to make this work, despite the unusual sleeping

> arrangements.

>

>

I do appreciate the offer. As I mentioned, I do have a creative

imagination. While it is not what it was, we can come up with ways. So

I will decline your kind offer. Please don't let this discourage you

from offering advice or creative ideas to others.

Jerry