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Tara

scroll please.... ttc. mentioned.

right, where was I.....

According to my dates, AF should be arriving tomorrow in force. As I've

said before, I very much doubt that this month has been one to count on,

so I am expecting her arrival, but no signs yet. I usually start getting

crampy about 2 days before, and always have breakouts starting about 4

to 5 days before the old hag shows, but nothing yet, so I recon that the

possibility is there that once again my cycle has gone bananas. No luck,

hey? I will hold on till Tuesday, and if nothing yet, I will once again

see my doctor, and do the usual tests and sonars, and whatever elses. It

is getting a bit boring, this unpredictability ( ironic is'nt it?

unpredictably boring)

For now, I am patiently waiting, and hoping that she won't let me down,

so that next month can be one for the books, I worked out that if she

does arrive tomorrow, my " O " date for December should be the 24th. how

perfect that would be..... conceived on Christmas Eve, a true

blessing... sorry, that's me dreaming again.

How are you hanging on? Still waiting patiently? I really really really

hope and pray that she will leave you be, and we can all celebrate

another miracle soon. Let me know. I will be patiently waiting.....

Have a good weekend,

sonja

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Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to ask if ya'll could keep me in your prayers.....I have

my

ultrasound in the morning to find out which side I am going to ovulate

from. It will be day 12 tomorrow and I am starting to feel anxious. I

am

praying that it will be on the right side because that is where I have

my

remaining tube. If it is on the left side the RE doesn't even want us to

try this month. I would appreciate it and I'll let ya know after the

appointment what the outcome is.

I also wanted to respond to 's post. I can understand why she is

leaving and that is what is best for her. I can also understand too

that

this site is for EP and most of the time the conversations are about

charting, ttc, ovulation and other topics surrounding pregnancy. I know

for myself when I joined the group it was very soon after my last ep and

surgery. I needed the support of this group to help me through the hard

times that nobody else seemed to understand. As time has gone on we have

all grown together and now several months later our situations have all

changed. Some are now able to ttc again, others have come to the

decision

to wait or adopt, and some thank the Lord are even pregnant. As the

group

changes so have the discussions (which is only natural) . I know that I

look forward to the variety of posts from the ladies who are in all

situations. Even though I don't chart I read all about it because some

day

I might decide to do so. Adoption may also be another possibility

someday

as well as IVF. I enjoy learning about each of these areas and feel

comfortable knowing there is support here for lives trials and

tribulations

(DH job, living situations, insurance problems, in-law headaches etc.)

When

a new member joins our group we re-visit those feelings we had when our

loss occurred and are able to share the sorrow and welcome the newcomer.

I

work hard to be positive and look to the future, and I love that I have

all of you to share my hopes and fears with. Looking forward to the

possibility of being pg.. again is so exciting and terrifying and all of

you know first hand what I mean.

I don't know if I got my point across very well, I agree we need to be

sensitive to the fact that not all of us are at the same stage, I don't

know exactly how to do that, I guess that is why we have subject lines

and

scroll spaces, hopefully that is sufficient enough and we are not

hurting

anyones feelings.

Sorry to ramble, I'll let you know how the ultrasound goes tomorrow.

Have a great day!

Stacey

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Sonja,

TTC mentioned

Scroll

Almost There

OK

Well, maybe the lack of AF signs is a predictor that she's not coming. I

will pray for that rather than that she is all screwed up again.

Anyhow, if not, a Christmas baby would be a wonderful thing. I will keep

my fingers crossed for you hon.

I am hanging in patiently, or at least trying too. I had to hear a lecture

from dh last night about my eating habits (or lack of them - I'm very picky

and naturally thin). The old " my child will need the proper nourishment

bs " . I just burst out laughing at him. He was so serious. I said as if I

wouldn't take care of myself. His point is I need to expand my selection

of food, which will probably happen b/c of cravings. Men, they can be

frustrating. I mean we're not even sure I'm pg yet! He's from an " eat

eat " family. So I don't fit that mold. I drive my MIL nuts b/c I won't

eat most of the foods of their heritage. I'm really not that into a

variety of meats. So I'll normally pick at homemade bread and rice and

drive them all nuts at once. I dread the dinner table at her house once

the baby is on the way - LOL. She'll be talking about me in her language

flailing the arms and lecturing dh -what fun.

Keep us posted on AF's arrival or lack of. Good luck!

Tara

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Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to ask if ya'll could keep me in your prayers.....I have

my

ultrasound in the morning to find out which side I am going to ovulate

from. It will be day 12 tomorrow and I am starting to feel anxious. I

am

praying that it will be on the right side because that is where I have

my

remaining tube. If it is on the left side the RE doesn't even want us to

try this month. I would appreciate it and I'll let ya know after the

appointment what the outcome is.

I also wanted to respond to 's post. I can understand why she is

leaving and that is what is best for her. I can also understand too

that

this site is for EP and most of the time the conversations are about

charting, ttc, ovulation and other topics surrounding pregnancy. I know

for myself when I joined the group it was very soon after my last ep and

surgery. I needed the support of this group to help me through the hard

times that nobody else seemed to understand. As time has gone on we have

all grown together and now several months later our situations have all

changed. Some are now able to ttc again, others have come to the

decision

to wait or adopt, and some thank the Lord are even pregnant. As the

group

changes so have the discussions (which is only natural) . I know that I

look forward to the variety of posts from the ladies who are in all

situations. Even though I don't chart I read all about it because some

day

I might decide to do so. Adoption may also be another possibility

someday

as well as IVF. I enjoy learning about each of these areas and feel

comfortable knowing there is support here for lives trials and

tribulations

(DH job, living situations, insurance problems, in-law headaches etc.)

When

a new member joins our group we re-visit those feelings we had when our

loss occurred and are able to share the sorrow and welcome the newcomer.

I

work hard to be positive and look to the future, and I love that I have

all of you to share my hopes and fears with. Looking forward to the

possibility of being pg.. again is so exciting and terrifying and all of

you know first hand what I mean.

I don't know if I got my point across very well, I agree we need to be

sensitive to the fact that not all of us are at the same stage, I don't

know exactly how to do that, I guess that is why we have subject lines

and

scroll spaces, hopefully that is sufficient enough and we are not

hurting

anyones feelings.

Sorry to ramble, I'll let you know how the ultrasound goes tomorrow.

Have a great day!

Stacey

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Thanks Tara

I'll let you know what happens.

have a good weekend, and good luck! May the old hag leave us both be

from here on!

have fun

sonja

p.s how lucky to be thin! I miss those days........

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Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to ask if ya'll could keep me in your prayers.....I have

my

ultrasound in the morning to find out which side I am going to ovulate

from. It will be day 12 tomorrow and I am starting to feel anxious. I

am

praying that it will be on the right side because that is where I have

my

remaining tube. If it is on the left side the RE doesn't even want us to

try this month. I would appreciate it and I'll let ya know after the

appointment what the outcome is.

I also wanted to respond to 's post. I can understand why she is

leaving and that is what is best for her. I can also understand too

that

this site is for EP and most of the time the conversations are about

charting, ttc, ovulation and other topics surrounding pregnancy. I know

for myself when I joined the group it was very soon after my last ep and

surgery. I needed the support of this group to help me through the hard

times that nobody else seemed to understand. As time has gone on we have

all grown together and now several months later our situations have all

changed. Some are now able to ttc again, others have come to the

decision

to wait or adopt, and some thank the Lord are even pregnant. As the

group

changes so have the discussions (which is only natural) . I know that I

look forward to the variety of posts from the ladies who are in all

situations. Even though I don't chart I read all about it because some

day

I might decide to do so. Adoption may also be another possibility

someday

as well as IVF. I enjoy learning about each of these areas and feel

comfortable knowing there is support here for lives trials and

tribulations

(DH job, living situations, insurance problems, in-law headaches etc.)

When

a new member joins our group we re-visit those feelings we had when our

loss occurred and are able to share the sorrow and welcome the newcomer.

I

work hard to be positive and look to the future, and I love that I have

all of you to share my hopes and fears with. Looking forward to the

possibility of being pg.. again is so exciting and terrifying and all of

you know first hand what I mean.

I don't know if I got my point across very well, I agree we need to be

sensitive to the fact that not all of us are at the same stage, I don't

know exactly how to do that, I guess that is why we have subject lines

and

scroll spaces, hopefully that is sufficient enough and we are not

hurting

anyones feelings.

Sorry to ramble, I'll let you know how the ultrasound goes tomorrow.

Have a great day!

Stacey

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Tara

scroll... ttc. and other stuff mentioned.

o.k.

I am so sorry that this wasn't the month for you. Are you o.k. though?

Let's just hope that next month will do it for us both, who knows, we

can have 2 Christmas babies, hey? So let me know when AF gets there, and

we can go through the next cycle together. I am now CD#4, so we are

still very close together in our cycles, it's nice to be able to share

with someone. You guys have been such an absolute life saver for me, and

I know that it is getting to a difficult stage now, with some of us

going into the ttc. field, while others are only just starting their

journey, but that is why we can help each other. I still have moments of

grave sadness, and many tears for my little lost baby, and even though I

am now moving on, and ready to start again, does not mean that I am

'over' my whole experience, or that I don't want to or can't discuss it

any more, I just feel that where I am now, can help others' on their

road to recovery. I hope that no one feels like the ttc. field is busy

taking away from the whole reason for this group, and if anyone feels

saddened, or uncomfortable with this topic, please, say, I don't want to

cause any unease. You all mean so much to me, I don't want to lose any

of you.

take care

sonja

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Well ladies,

I have been away for a few days and wanted to catch you all up.

Scroll

Ttc mentioned

Ok that should do it.

I have not been feeling very well myself. As you know AF is expected

for

me on Fri or Sat, no later than Sun. Well since I was feeling yucky, dh

convinced me to take a hpt at 14dpo. Well, it was very definitely

negative. So I guess this month is out for me.

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Tara,

I feel bummed out for you. I guess that puts us in the same boat again. I

won't know till Christmas. I very seriously doubt it, though. Keep your

chin up...

L

[Guest guest]

I haven't. Sorry!!

Amy

[Guest guest]

Sonja,

It's day 30. Temps still high and AF nowhere in sight. I hope it

stays this way. I'm so paranoid though. I can't stop feeling like I

have cramps. I actually think it's butterflies from being so nervous.

I bought 2 more hpts. I got the CVS brand. They read at 25ml. So

maybe tomorrow am if temps stillup I will pee on the stick again.

Ta

sonja kershaw wrote:

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173

> Tara,

> so how are you doing? AF still staying away? The pms symptoms are gone

> this morning,and AF is still not here, so who knows? I am still

waiting

> it out till day 36 though, which would be next Friday.

>

> take care

> sonja

>

> No Subject

>

> O.k. so I don't know what is going on , but I think that AF will show

up

> within the next day or so, as I have suddenly hit that 'I hate

> everybody' stage where everything and anyone seems to be against me

> feeling. You know what I mean? Don't know why, but this always happens

> to me shortly before she shows.I just get really irritable and

> frustrated and feel really fat and all that pms stuff.

> What I find strange about the female body, is how can you feel all

these

> things,know it is only hormonal, but still not be able to change the

way

> you feel.I say to myself " sonja, this is pms, don't take things so

> seriously " but I still do,and everything still feels 10 times more

> drastic than what they really are.

> Anyone else have this, or is it just me?

> And we call men weird.....

>

> have a good evening girls

> sonja

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Nora - and I went through some really hard times late last summer. We

worked it out but it was a process. The ladies who have been in the group

since then, know - he actually posted to the group a few times to tell

everyone how he felt etc...please talk to us....or email me privately

fjdarcy@... -

[Guest guest]

Nora - I hate to be intrusive but I'd like to help if I can...with ,

talking never worked, because he would cut in before i finished, I woudl get

angry....writing things down when I am feeling them and letting him read was

much more effective before we came to realize and accept that we both have

different communication styles...I like to talk about a problem unitl it is

solved. doesn't let things stree him out - he waits for a solution to

come. So, as you can imagine we both had to compromise a lot.

I don't think anyone in the group knows that I was married before . For

a whole 4 months (too long) and I can honestly say they day I made the

decision to leave a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders. I had to be

selfish and think of myself, my feelings and what I wanted from life and a

relationship. I have never looked back - and I met and fell in love with

2 weeks later, and we were married 6 months after that.

I guess I just wanted to give you two opinions from someone whose expereinced

it all! Tell me to shut up if I am over stepping my bounds.

Thinking of you,

[Guest guest]

,

We have seeked counseling. It doesn't seem to work. Sometimes I think we

are just on different wave lengths. I has been so hard the past few months.

We have been best friends long before we dated. We have just grown apart

and he has put other people and things ahead of us. I am just tired of

being the last thing on his mind. Oh well. I am stuck here. I made my

mistake along time ago now I have to live with it. I hope all of you are

having a good day. Take care.

Nora

Re: No Subject

>Nora:

>

>I really don't know what your situation is, and I hate to oversimplify

>things, but have you and your dh considered any type of counseling or

>intervention to help improve your relationship/marriage? Even if he won't

>go, it might help you feel better just to talk to someone so you can make

>decisions rationally.

>

>Please know that we are ALL here for you, and that I am praying for you and

>your family

>

>

>

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,

There are so many things that is wrong with our marriage and too many

reasons for us not to split up. I love , I just can't take the

rejection and feelings of guilt that he has thrown at me. It seems like our

interests are so different. His priorities aren't the same anymore.

Sometimes it is just the little things that I miss and then there are much

bigger things. We have been thru alot with each other but it hasn't brought

us closer. We just seem like we are two different people. I feel like I am

living with a stranger sometimes. I am hoping that his mind will change and

he will realize that we have a problem and will be willing to talk again.

Take care.

Nora

Re: No Subject

>Nora - and I went through some really hard times late last summer.

We

>worked it out but it was a process. The ladies who have been in the group

>since then, know - he actually posted to the group a few times to tell

>everyone how he felt etc...please talk to us....or email me privately

>fjdarcy@... -

>

>

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Nora:

I am so sorry, for some reason I thought you and your dh had several

children. My apologies for making such a mistake. I hope you aren't upset

with me.

I am sure this is all a very confusing and frustrating thing. I can only

imagine being in a similar situation. How long have you been married? I

seem to recall you mentioning some things that lead me to believe it has

been a number of years. I am glad you are seeing a counselor...even though

you don't feel you have made much progress, I am sure just having someone to

talk to helps you to some degree. Don't give up on yourself! You are gonna

make it through this! Since you seem to be especially down right now (I

suppose things have really come to a head in the last couple of days, since

you are posting about it) have you or are you planning on seeing your

counselor for some extra sessions?

You don't have to keep posting back to the list...you don't have to keep

talking to me about it at all if you don't want...but you are welcome to

email me through the list or privately anytime.

Love you sweetie,

@...

[Guest guest]

Sonja,

Thanks so much for your support. I am just going to wait and see if I can

find a way out. Until then I am going to try my best just to be content.

Have a great day and take care!

Nora

No Subject

>

>

>Hi Ladies,

>

>I am having such a terrible day. I am so upset. The dh and I have been

>having problems for months. It just seems to get worse. I think I am

>going

>to leave and never look back. I want you all to know that I love each

>and

>everyone of you very much and will miss you all if this comes to pass.

>Take

>care

>

>Nora

>

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