IUI vs. IVF

[Guest guest]

Hi ladies,

Dana, I wanted to welcome you to our group, sorry it has to be under

these circumstances, but I hope you find the suport here you need!

Well tomorrow is my follow up appt. with the doc. and pg. test. I

tested today because it has been more than 2 weeks since my HCG shot

and 13 dp IUI. It was negative. I accept this and am not going to

trick myself into thinking by tomorrow a blood test will offer any

different kind of answer. I found it difficult to get out of bed this

morning after taking the test (got back in bed). On Friday I just

" knew " that I was not pg and the IUI didn't work. DH is finishing up a

big project at work so he wasn't home until 9:00 pm. He asked me on

the phone what was the matter and I told him that I knew I wasn't pg.

He suggested that we save up the money for IVF (my clinic wants 12,000

up front) and do it next year. I couldn't even believe my ears and I

was so outraged I managed to say goodbye and hang up. I began to feel

like I was having a panik attack. I was having to talk to myself out

loud to try to calm myself down. I know this sounds " mental " but it

all crashed at one time. My head was pounding because of the stupid

progesterone suppositories that I am taking for a baby that isn't

there. I had to get in the tub in complete darkness to settle down and

make my headache bearable. When DH got home I was already asleep.

It's amazing how a few simple words that he said without thinking (wait

until next year) destroyed me. Finally yesterday I was able to get it

out what was so upsetting. How dare we finance a car or a house or

take trips to Puerto Vallarta but when it comes to having a baby he

wants to " save up " ...... screw that. Little did he know I had already

done my own research and called the bank and talked with them about a

loan. He said that he was sorry that he hadn't thought about taking

out a loan, but that he would be more than willing. I just can't

imagine putting my life on hold for another year!!! I won't do it!!

THis morning has brought some new ideas and my parents have been very

involved in our lives and ttc. Well my mom has always said " whatever

we can do to help...... " well I figured out a way they can

help..........I think I am going to ask my parents if we can borrow

some money from them to help with the IVF. I know they will say yes

and be happy to do it. We just don't want to owe the bank so much. We

will be able to come up with a few thousand and then with my parents

help (that they don't know about yet) we shouldn't have to borrow

toooooooo much!

I am going to the doctors with a plan and I know she will suggest

another round of IUI and I am refusing to do that!! What if I am in the

same boat next month and we have spent 6,000 dollars on IUI's and then

decide to do IVF. It's to much of a risk for me to take.

Wish me luck tomorrow my appt. is at 2:45 and I will post about what

happens then. I'm just hoping she doesn't try to sway me. I'm feeling

so emotional right now that I'll probably loose it.

Angel thanks for the info on the IVF seminar, I'm going to check out

that web site.

Ya'll have a good rest of the weekend!!!

Stacey M.

[Guest guest]

Dear Stacey,

Man, what a bummer! But, I'll hold out hope until I hear your beta results!

If you do end up going the IVF route, I'll be here to go through it with

you!!!

Take Care,

PS: I was also a little anxious about having IUI with a history of EP's.

I'm no doctor or anything, but I do agree with what Krista said about all of

those eggies ans sperm hanging out around the tubes!!! I also had one AI

done sometime through out my journey, but I didn't do the injectibles. Good

luck anyway honey!!