Guest guest Posted October 26, 1999 Report Share Posted October 26, 1999 Hi everyone I am having the worst day..... The dh. informed me last night that his job is not going very well at all, and that it looks like he might loose his job in the next few months. We don't know what to do..... We bought a house early last year, and have a morgage that we can barely afford, so if he does loose his job, we are going to have to sell the house, and I don't know where we will go then. Off-course our parents will be happy to have us, but after 5 years of marriage, I just don't think that we can go home now. You get so used to being independant, and not having to rely on your folks, and in a way I do believe in the saying that once you leave home, you can never go back. We have had financial problems for as long as I can remember, and this is sort of just the last straw. I honestly just don't know what to do any more. I am working part time now, but my salary is not nearly enough to support us. Sometimes I just want to run away.... there is no hope for him to get a job again with the way things are in our country right now, with affirmative action and all, you have to be either black or a woman if you want to find a job, and even then there just isn't enough work for everyone. We spoke about the possibility of moving to England, because that is one place where you can find work, but we have to think of our son. Taking him away from his grand parents, and all his family, and then to risk not finding anything when we get there.... I don't know anymore. I am sorry for raining on everyones parade, but I just feel totally useless right now. sonja ______________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 1999 Report Share Posted October 26, 1999 Dear Sonya, I'm sorry to hear about your husbands job. That is a very tough situation to be in. You should go where the jobs are, but then you'd be leaving your family. Maybe your husband could go to London on a job search trip and get something secured first and then ya'll could follow after. I know that any advice right now probably doesn't sound good to you because you don't want things to change or move so take some time to adjust first before rushing into something. Maybe once you and DH have come to terms with the situation you can sit down and formulate a plan. I'm sure when this is done you will feel a sense of relief. It may not be the plan you want, but at least it will be something so you know that your future is secure. Hang in there Sonja, I'll keep you and your DH in my prayers, I know you did not need this added stress in your life right now. Take Care, Stacey McCoy really bad day >Hi everyone > >I am having the worst day..... >The dh. informed me last night that his job is not going very well at all, >and that it looks like he might loose his job in the next few months. We >don't know what to do..... We bought a house early last year, and have a >morgage that we can barely afford, so if he does loose his job, we are going >to have to sell the house, and I don't know where we will go then. >Off-course our parents will be happy to have us, but after 5 years of >marriage, I just don't think that we can go home now. You get so used to >being independant, and not having to rely on your folks, and in a way I do >believe in the saying that once you leave home, you can never go back. We >have had financial problems for as long as I can remember, and this is sort >of just the last straw. I honestly just don't know what to do any more. I am >working part time now, but my salary is not nearly enough to support us. >Sometimes I just want to run away.... there is no hope for him to get a job >again with the way things are in our country right now, with affirmative >action and all, you have to be either black or a woman if you want to find a >job, and even then there just isn't enough work for everyone. We spoke about >the possibility of moving to England, because that is one place where you >can find work, but we have to think of our son. Taking him away from his >grand parents, and all his family, and then to risk not finding anything >when we get there.... I don't know anymore. > >I am sorry for raining on everyones parade, but I just feel totally useless >right now. > >sonja > >______________________________________________________ > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ > >eGroups.com home: /group/ectopicpregnancy > - Simplifying group communications > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 1999 Report Share Posted October 26, 1999 Dear Sonja, I am sorry for the way things are going right now. I am going to say a special prayer tonight just for you and your family. Things may improve with your DH's job. Don't loose hope yet. As far as moving away goes ... when Olivia was 2 and a half we moved from our home state of Florida, where our entire family lives (both sides) and relocated to Ohio for a better job opportunity for my DH. It was hard and we felt really bad about taking Olivia away from the family. But, looking back over the past 2 yrs, I know it was the best thing that ever happened to us. Take Care and Chin Up to you!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 1999 Report Share Posted October 27, 1999 Sonja - I am so sorry to hear about your problems...'s family business went out of business last year right around the holidays and we thought we would never get through them. Thankfully my mother was kind enough to let us move in with her, got a new job fairly quickly - but not in the field he went to college for - and we are getting ready in a few weeks to move into our own house. I guess my point is, don't rule out taking help from your parents. We actually enjoyed being with my mother and sister - has a great relationship with them both and my step-daughters really got to know their " step " grandmother and aunt....it was nice ofr all of us - we are now a very close family and we really weren't before. Anyway, after all of our bad luck we have decided that everything happens for a reason and we just need to let go of things we can't control. I'm sure this won't make you feel better but everything will work out in the end. Good luck, we are thinking of you, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 1999 Report Share Posted October 27, 1999 thanks for thinking of me. My mom has a flat in out town that she is currently renting out, and we have just found out that the tennant will not be renewing her lease at the end of the year, so if it comes to that, we can move in there by January. It is a very nice place (on the beach!!) but it is on the second floor, and the balcony is somewhat of a worry.(I can see our son taking a flying leap off there!) But if this is an option, we will just have to put up a security gate to stop him from going out there. Anyway, atleast we know that we will have somewhere to live. We have decided that regardless of what happens with his job, we will anyway sell our house, because the financial strain of the high mortgage is just becoming too draining. We never have money to do anything, so if we sell the house, atleast we will be able to live a little bit. We will off course invest that money, so that when we are on our feet again, we can afford a decent down payment on a new house. I feel that owning your own house is very important, especially if there are kids in the equation, because you have something to leave them one day, but right now, we are just not in the position to handle that comfortably. I really do appreciate all of you getting back to me, and all the support you give us. Thanks guys. take care sonja >From: FJDarcy@... >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >Subject: Re: really bad day >Date: Wed, 27 Oct 1999 11:08:53 EDT > >Sonja - I am so sorry to hear about your problems...'s family business >went out of business last year right around the holidays and we thought we >would never get through them. Thankfully my mother was kind enough to let >us >move in with her, got a new job fairly quickly - but not in the field >he went to college for - and we are getting ready in a few weeks to move >into >our own house. I guess my point is, don't rule out taking help from your >parents. We actually enjoyed being with my mother and sister - has a >great relationship with them both and my step-daughters really got to know >their " step " grandmother and aunt....it was nice ofr all of us - we are now >a >very close family and we really weren't before. Anyway, after all of our >bad >luck we have decided that everything happens for a reason and we just need >to >let go of things we can't control. I'm sure this won't make you feel >better >but everything will work out in the end. Good luck, we are thinking of >you, > > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Learn2 Avoid Junk Mail. Learn2 Shop for Bargain Airfares. Learn2 >Weatherize Your Home. Learn2 Speak Wine. Learn2 Get by in French. >Learn2 Negotiate a Raise. http://clickhere./click/965 > > > >eGroups.com home: /group/ectopicpregnancy > - Simplifying group communications > > > > > ______________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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