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I am so sorry for your loss. It is such a life altering event to be

pregnant, and your connection to the baby and your sig. other is so

incredibly wonderful, the end of these precious gifts are so devistating. I

have somehow survived 2 mcs. My advice to you is to take your time to

mourn. You will feel a loss very close to losing someone you have known and

loved all your life. Make sure you feel whatever your body is forcing you

to feel and do not gloss over those feelings for anyone. If your

significant other is like mine, he wanted to make everything all better. It

drove me crazy to think I had to give up my grief and look good on the

outside for him and everyone. He didn't realize that I needed that time.

Make him understand from the start. I also was upset because it didn't seem

he was upset about the loss of our baby. Man grieve in different ways. The

best advice is to force him to talk about it. It will be good in the long

run for the both of you. And if you feel, after a period of time it's not

getting better, please talk to someone or seek counselling. The grief and

loss you feel is very real and deserves it's own respect. I was sad for a

long time. The first 2 months were unbelievable. The pain and want for a

child kicked in after that. It has been 1.5 years since my first mc and I

yearn for another opportunity to be filled with that hope for the future

again. I think it's something you carry with you, like a badge, for all of

your life.

I wish you inner peace, continued strength, love, and your baby to join your

family when you are ready.

bad news (m/c mentioned)

I lost the baby... I spotted for 2 days and then last night I had

massive cramps and bleeding. I was 6wk3d.

If there is a positive point to all of this, I know my body is capable

of pregnancy, now the trick is to learn how to carry it.

If you have miscarried, how have you gotten through it?

Any suggestions would be great.