undieting

[Guest guest]

I don't know if anyone has posted this but I found it interesting.

How to make failure your friend

Many attempts at dieting have taught us to try and

adhere to rigid rules. The last thing we want to do is

put ourselves into diet-mode by creating a whole new

set of rules. Diets themselves have proven that

perfection, rigidity, and undereating are not

successful.

Undieting works best if you allow yourself to fail a

lot. It's a process of experimentation.

The paradox is that failure leads to success.

Failure enables you to discover what works best for

your body. Learning is most effective when you allow

yourself the freedom to make " mistakes " .

You get to try lots of different things with

absolutely no guilt and no judgment.

Think of this process as a time to objectively notice

what you do...

~ Test different levels of hunger and satisfaction.

~ Decide what foods make you feel best.

~ Become aware of which favorite foods you may not

even actually like.

~ Notice which foods make you feel horrible after you

eat them.

You won't always eat the perfect food in the perfect

amount at the perfect time. NO ONE DOES. That's okay.

It's how real life works.

Accepting that you sometimes eat the wrong thing, or

the wrong amount, is part of how this program leads to

a normal relationship with food.

People who eat normally sometimes eat too much. They

eat from mouth hunger. They eat a wide variety of

foods including some junk.

Former dieters tend to want to ban all such behaviors

100%. That is diet thinking and it's too rigid to be a

way of life. Give up the need to be perfect and allow

yourself to be human.

Undieting is based on moderation. It is making choices

based on self-love. Take good care of yourself, learn

from your mistakes, and you will succeed.

Allow yourself to fail without guilt or punishment.

Letting go of toxic " diet thinking " is an essential

part of success. Undieting will guide you every step

of the way with a simple 11-step roadmap.

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Carol! I needed to read that! I especially liked this part: Give up the need to be perfect and allow yourself to be human.

Rhonda

undieting

I don't know if anyone has posted this but I found it interesting. How to make failure your friendMany attempts at dieting have taught us to try andadhere to rigid rules. The last thing we want to do is put ourselves into diet-mode by creating a whole new set of rules. Diets themselves have proven that perfection, rigidity, and undereating are not successful.Undieting works best if you allow yourself to fail a lot. It's a process of experimentation. The paradox is that failure leads to success. Failure enables you to discover what works best for your body. Learning is most effective when you allow yourself the freedom to make "mistakes". You get to try lots of different things with absolutely no guilt and no judgment. Think of this process as a time to objectively notice what you do...~ Test different levels of hunger and satisfaction. ~ Decide what foods make you feel best. ~ Become aware of which favorite foods you may not even actually like. ~ Notice which foods make you feel horrible after you eat them.You won't always eat the perfect food in the perfect amount at the perfect time. NO ONE DOES. That's okay. It's how real life works. Accepting that you sometimes eat the wrong thing, or the wrong amount, is part of how this program leads to a normal relationship with food.People who eat normally sometimes eat too much. They eat from mouth hunger. They eat a wide variety of foods including some junk. Former dieters tend to want to ban all such behaviors 100%. That is diet thinking and it's too rigid to be a way of life. Give up the need to be perfect and allow yourself to be human. Undieting is based on moderation. It is making choices based on self-love. Take good care of yourself, learn from your mistakes, and you will succeed.Allow yourself to fail without guilt or punishment. Letting go of toxic "diet thinking" is an essential part of success. Undieting will guide you every step of the way with a simple 11-step roadmap.

[Guest guest]

I heard somewhere, not too long ago, that if you've *chosen* to give up certain

foods for *self-love*, then it's not really " restricting " or " dieting " , or even

" diet-thinking " . You're doing it as a CHOICE, and out of love for yourself.

Technically, if you're giving up a particular food because you've discovered

that your body doesn't feel good after you've eaten it, than you're listening to

your body, which is basically what IE is: listening to your body.

So, for me, I don't see my giving up caffeine as " diet-thinking " because I know

that it makes my body feel awful, and it keeps me stuck in this up-down pattern

of failure & success, and I don't want to keep going in circles. This is what

I've discovered works for me, even though I know that I don't *need* to give up

caffeine to be an intuitive eater, or to lose weight. It's something I'm doing

for my health and my sanity. )

The thing I *am* working on, though, is learning not to feel guilty when I *do*

slip up, when I eat out of boredom/stress instead of true hunger. I am a

perfectionist at times, so it's hard to not condemn myself when I slip up. But,

I've also learned that I need to use GRACE -- and a good, healthy dose of it,

too! -- to keep pressing on. There's a prize waitin' for me at the end of this

journey, and I look forward to it. )

Jenn

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-----Original Message-----

>You get to try lots of different things with

>absolutely no guilt and no judgment.

>Former dieters tend to want to ban all such behaviors

>100%. That is diet thinking and it's too rigid to be a

>way of life. Give up the need to be perfect and allow

>yourself to be human.

>

>Undieting is based on moderation. It is making choices

>based on self-love. Take good care of yourself, learn

>from your mistakes, and you will succeed.

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[Guest guest]

Thanks Carol, this is just what I have

been experiencingl. It is good to see it in writing. Now I am interested in

the 11 step road map.

Vicki

From: IntuitiveEating_Support [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Carol

Sent: Wednesday, October 11, 2006

1:46 PM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject:

undieting

I don't know if anyone has posted this but I found it

interesting.

How to make failure your friend

Many attempts at dieting have taught us to try and

adhere to rigid rules. The last thing we want to do is

put ourselves into diet-mode by creating a whole new

set of rules. Diets themselves have proven that

perfection, rigidity, and undereating are not

successful.

Undieting works best if you allow yourself to fail a

lot. It's a process of experimentation.

The paradox is that failure leads to success.

Failure enables you to discover what works best for

your body. Learning is most effective when you allow

yourself the freedom to make " mistakes " .

You get to try lots of different things with

absolutely no guilt and no judgment.

Think of this process as a time to objectively notice

what you do...

~ Test different levels of hunger and satisfaction.

~ Decide what foods make you feel best.

~ Become aware of which favorite foods you may not

even actually like.

~ Notice which foods make you feel horrible after you

eat them.

You won't always eat the perfect food in the perfect

amount at the perfect time. NO ONE DOES. That's okay.

It's how real life works.

Accepting that you sometimes eat the wrong thing, or

the wrong amount, is part of how this program leads to

a normal relationship with food.

People who eat normally sometimes eat too much. They

eat from mouth hunger. They eat a wide variety of

foods including some junk.

Former dieters tend to want to ban all such behaviors

100%. That is diet thinking and it's too rigid to be a

way of life. Give up the need to be perfect and allow

yourself to be human.

Undieting is based on moderation. It is making choices

based on self-love. Take good care of yourself, learn

from your mistakes, and you will succeed.

Allow yourself to fail without guilt or punishment.

Letting go of toxic " diet thinking " is an essential

part of success. Undieting will guide you every step

of the way with a simple 11-step roadmap.

[Guest guest]

The 11-step roadmap is the 11 step list I

sent out the other day that comes from the Undieting book :

Never

diet again. Make it a firm commitment

Love

and accept the beautiful body you were born with.

Redefine

who you are. You are, by nature, a normal eater living effortlessly

at your perfect weight.

Be kind

to yourself with each choice you make each day.

Lower

your standards. Let yourself make mistakes as you learn.

Trust,

and follow, the brain in you belly.

All

foods are equal. Eat what you love

Eat

when you are physically hungry

Savor

and enjoy each bite.

Stop

when you are full.

Play

more. Have more fun.

- From Undieting by

Hill

Helen Young

From: Vicki

Sent: Thursday, October 12, 2006

1:33 PM

To:

IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: RE:

undieting

Thanks Carol, this is just what I have been

experiencingl. It is good to see it in writing. Now I am interested

in the 11 step road map.

Vicki

From: IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Carol

Sent: Wednesday, October 11, 2006

1:46 PM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject:

undieting

I don't

know if anyone has posted this but I found it interesting.

How to make failure your friend

Many attempts at dieting have taught us to try and

adhere to rigid rules. The last thing we want to do is

put ourselves into diet-mode by creating a whole new

set of rules. Diets themselves have proven that

perfection, rigidity, and undereating are not

successful.

Undieting works best if you allow yourself to fail a

lot. It's a process of experimentation.

The paradox is that failure leads to success.

Failure enables you to discover what works best for

your body. Learning is most effective when you allow

yourself the freedom to make " mistakes " .

You get to try lots of different things with

absolutely no guilt and no judgment.

Think of this process as a time to objectively notice

what you do...

~ Test different levels of hunger and satisfaction.

~ Decide what foods make you feel best.

~ Become aware of which favorite foods you may not

even actually like.

~ Notice which foods make you feel horrible after you

eat them.

You won't always eat the perfect food in the perfect

amount at the perfect time. NO ONE DOES. That's okay.

It's how real life works.

Accepting that you sometimes eat the wrong thing, or

the wrong amount, is part of how this program leads to

a normal relationship with food.

People who eat normally sometimes eat too much. They

eat from mouth hunger. They eat a wide variety of

foods including some junk.

Former dieters tend to want to ban all such behaviors

100%. That is diet thinking and it's too rigid to be a

way of life. Give up the need to be perfect and allow

yourself to be human.

Undieting is based on moderation. It is making choices

based on self-love. Take good care of yourself, learn

from your mistakes, and you will succeed.

Allow yourself to fail without guilt or punishment.

Letting go of toxic " diet thinking " is an essential

part of success. Undieting will guide you every step

of the way with a simple 11-step roadmap.

[Guest guest]

Oh that is just the way I have

experienced it. It is amazing that when I do all this and don’t

fuss at myself or obsess about what I have eaten, I lose more. When I

start regimenting my food intake, I lose less or none at all.

Thanks for this list, I may pin it

on my fridge.

Vicki

From:

IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Helen Young

Sent: Thursday, October 12, 2006

2:51 PM

To:

IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: RE:

undieting

The 11-step roadmap is the 11 step list I sent out the other day

that comes from the Undieting book :

Never diet again. Make it

a firm commitment

Love and accept the beautiful

body you were born with.

Redefine who you are. You

are, by nature, a normal eater living effortlessly at your perfect weight.

Be kind to yourself with each

choice you make each day.

Lower your standards. Let

yourself make mistakes as you learn.

Trust, and follow, the brain in

you belly.

All foods are equal. Eat

what you love

Eat when you are physically

hungry

Savor and enjoy each bite.

Stop when you are full.

Play more. Have more fun.

- From Undieting by Hill

Helen Young

From: Vicki [mailto:vickis_heartsbcglobal (DOT) net]

Sent: Thursday, October 12, 2006

1:33 PM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: RE:

undieting

Thanks Carol, this is just what I have been

experiencingl. It is good to see it in writing. Now I am interested

in the 11 step road map.

Vicki

From: IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Carol

Sent: Wednesday, October 11, 2006

1:46 PM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject:

undieting

I don't

know if anyone has posted this but I found it interesting.

How to make failure your friend

Many attempts at dieting have taught us to try and

adhere to rigid rules. The last thing we want to do is

put ourselves into diet-mode by creating a whole new

set of rules. Diets themselves have proven that

perfection, rigidity, and undereating are not

successful.

Undieting works best if you allow yourself to fail a

lot. It's a process of experimentation.

The paradox is that failure leads to success.

Failure enables you to discover what works best for

your body. Learning is most effective when you allow

yourself the freedom to make " mistakes " .

You get to try lots of different things with

absolutely no guilt and no judgment.

Think of this process as a time to objectively notice

what you do...

~ Test different levels of hunger and satisfaction.

~ Decide what foods make you feel best.

~ Become aware of which favorite foods you may not

even actually like.

~ Notice which foods make you feel horrible after you

eat them.

You won't always eat the perfect food in the perfect

amount at the perfect time. NO ONE DOES. That's okay.

It's how real life works.

Accepting that you sometimes eat the wrong thing, or

the wrong amount, is part of how this program leads to

a normal relationship with food.

People who eat normally sometimes eat too much. They

eat from mouth hunger. They eat a wide variety of

foods including some junk.

Former dieters tend to want to ban all such behaviors

100%. That is diet thinking and it's too rigid to be a

way of life. Give up the need to be perfect and allow

yourself to be human.

Undieting is based on moderation. It is making choices

based on self-love. Take good care of yourself, learn

from your mistakes, and you will succeed.

Allow yourself to fail without guilt or punishment.

Letting go of toxic " diet thinking " is an essential

part of success. Undieting will guide you every step

of the way with a simple 11-step roadmap.