Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 Cheryl, I don't mind your long messages at all. This seems to be the place where I can find valuable information. I have some more questions. The whole pain with sex thing is a problem (espeically since I'm in my mid twenties) and since it hurts EVERY TIME I never have the desire. Did you ever find a " cure " that would help with the sex pain when you weren't having a major flare up? For example, I can " feel " that everything is fine but then once the " action " happens is totaly flares it up and the cycle starts over again. Just wondering if you have any thoughts on that. About having the sample tested, my Dr's have done that every time. They always take the culture (or whatever you call it) and then come back and tell me what it is. But, just like you my outer symptoms get SO BAD after taking all that yeast and bacterial medicine. I never go in because I think I have an infection. I always go in becasue of the outer, vulvar pain but they always manage to blame it on an infection, which eventually makes the outer pain go away but only to come back in a week or two sometimes even worse than before. As far as I know, there are NO specialists in my area. I go to an OBGYN clinic, have seen 3 different doctors, and none of them want to listen to what I have to say about how all the creams and steriods make it worse. It is very frustrating, especially when they act like you are " half crazy " . They also love to tell me that some women are just prone to things like this and that yes, they are a minor inconvience. I'm serious, a Dr. really told me that. I don't think they have any idea how BADLY it can hurt. I have a high pain tolerence, I run marathons. I know how to manage pain and then I know when something has to be done. Sorry, but I need to vent! I went to the Dr. today (a different one) and he didn't do a culture since I had one 2 weeks ago (now I'm wishing he would have) He just kind of glanced down there, said he saw no signs of infection but that he would give me an antifungual that had a steroid creme in it. I asked him is this would help with the external pain and he said it might. I just figured (bad idea) that since he was a doctor he would look at my chart (very easy, all on computer right there in the room) to make SURE that he wasn't repeating a prescription I'd already tired. When I got out of the office and looked at the script it was for Terazol, one of my WORST nightmare prescriptions ever. Had he looked at my records he would have known that I still have an active prescription for that and there is a reason why I'm not using it. The last time I tried it it made me SO MUCH WORSE. He also told me that during pregnancy if you have a history of infections that they are likely to get worse due to all the " changes " . But, he said that if I have a vaginal birth I might stretch out the vaginal opening and get some relief. That sounds kind of crazy to me. Did you have a problem throughout your first pregnancy? This is my first, and I am overly paranoid about everything and then I have this to top it all off. About the anti-depressant. You take that strickly for this problem? I don't think I have a problem with depression (although I might if I can't find a doctor who will listen to me) and have never considered taking any med. of that type. So it really works? As of today, water and hand only to wash. I used to blow dry and will start again. Also, I read somewhere to sleep with no panties and I have been trying that. However, it turns on my husband which is a problem considering I'm always out of comission! I know someone who sells Amway. I wrote down all the info you gave me and am going to call her. Do you know anything about taking the fish oil during pregnancy? How long was it before you saw results? My last question, any suggestions for the bad days when the burning is so bad you can barely get out of bed? I've tried sitz baths and ice packs which offer temporary relief but I'm open to any suggestions. Thanks for your time, I hope you are " cleared up " for now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 , Reading your post makes me feel really P***D off at your doctor! If he continues to view his patients as " minor inconveniences " he will soon have no patients! It burns me up that while you're suffering in pain, he's being " incovenienced " . This is NOT a psychological problem. It's a real, geniune disorder. It's time to find a new doctor. I'd suggest contacting the NVA for a list of referrals. You may have to drive a distance to see a doctor. My specialist is 1-1/2- 2 hrs. away from me. When I was seeing my 1st specialist, I knew of patients that flew in from out of state. Fortunately there are more specialists out there now. I was a virgin when I got married at age 19 & started vestibulitis symptoms from the first time. I'm now 35. So I sort of know what you're going through. Right now, my best suggestion is to get the book, " Survivor's Guide to Vulvodynia " . It has a lot of great information. It talks a lot about the whole sex issue and I think it would help you a great deal. It also talks about the partner's feelings--it's hard on them too. When you think about it, they're dealing with causing someone they love pain. I'm really getting a lot out of the book and I've read A LOT on the subject. We have a hard time with sex too. Most of the time, I want nothing to do with it. Some of the time, my heart wants to do it and my vulva is yelling, " Nooooooo " . Sometimes it hurts when we do it. Other times it doesn't hurt at the time, but will hurt a day or more afterward. Sometimes it just feels a little irritated, but relatively ok. So I have no idea whether sex will lead to a week of misery afterward. Recently we had about 1-1/2 weeks of great sex. While to " normal " women, we probably had an average amount of sex, to us, it was more sex than we've had in the past year (I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about!) To be honest, I wanted it all the time, since it didn't hurt too bad and I figured it wouldn't last long. I was right, it didn't last long. I plunged into a yeast infection, spent the last 2 weeks feeling awful with that & am now having my first massive period coming off the birth control pill. (I was put on the pill for heavy bleeding about 3 years ago & my dr. took me off to see if it improves the yeast situation). I do use AstroGlide lubricant & was advised to coat all surfaces (him & you). That helps a lot. It's been recommended to me to use a numbing cream (zylicain?--don't know if I spelled that right) but it irritates me to high heaven, so I don't do that. It's also been suggested to use an ice pack afterward, but I haven't tried that yet. Mostly because it doesn't seem the thing to do after having sex (..was it great for you? I'm getting an ice pack...) LOL! I do use the bathroom afterward, rinse off with a squirt bottle of water & blow dry (like that's any better than going for an ice pack). Regarding your doctor giving you anti-fungals, etc. when he sees no sign of infection...that's just nuts, in my opinion. It's like going to the doctor & them saying, I'm positive you don't have strep throat, but here's some pennicililn anyway. He's just trying to pacify you so you won't come in again. If you are certain you do not have an infection, do not put cream on your vulva. Give it a week and see if it feels any better. My skin just has to heal up on it's own. Our skin doesn't act like normal skin when we get infections. The infections freak out the Vulvodynia, nerves mis-fire and our skin feels awful. I find it takes 1 week from the time I am totally free of the infection, before my vulvodynia starts to calm down from the infection. The anti-depressant I take (Desipramine) is taken for pain management of the vulvodynia. The tri-cylic anti-depressants interrupt the miscommunication from our nerves to the brain. The goal is to break the cycle and sort of " reset " the system. Some women are able to get off the anti-depressants after awhile. The dosage is much smaller than the dosage given for depression. Also, the tri-cylics are the older depression medications & actually don't work that great for depression so they're really not used for that much anymore. I did have an issue with taking anti-depressants at first. But, I decided being out of pain is worth it and it really isn't a big deal anyway. If you ask around, you'd be surprised the the number of people on anti-depressants (for depression) anyway. The Ocean Essentials product (Amway) is called " Balanced Health " . I just got it yesterday. It has a slightly different mixture of things than what I was previously taking (Shaklee). This one has an equal proportion of EPA and DHA and includes Vitamin E. I will let you know how I like it. I will check with my brother in law, who is a doctor. His wife (my sister) is pregnant almost constantly and takes their vitamins instead of pre-natal vitamins, but I don't know if she took the fish oils. Remember that you can also get the oils from eating fish. In fact, my mother in law makes awesome salmon patties & my skin always feels better the day after we've had them for dinner. I'm trying to go back and re-read your message so I answer all your questions. As far as dealing with the bad burning, horrible pain... First, I try to remain as calm as possible. The bad burning usually doesn't continue forever. I often tell myself that by this time next week, I will feel better which helps me deal with the panic & despair I sometimes feel during those times. I also try to remember all the self-help things---no soap, blow dry, pat w/toilet paper when using the bathroom (instead of wiping), no creams, no underwear at night. I try to wear baggy clothes or skirts. I also take a lot of warm baths because that feels soothing to me. Right now I'm trying to stop getting yeast & bacterial infections. I feel this really, really sets me back. With the anti-depressants, I'm now having periods of time where I really feel pretty normal. I think if I could ward off the infections, I could have longer & longer " normal " times. I feel like this would be progress. I also feel that we have to be our own advocate. Another thing that I'm going to check into is biofeedback. Maybe it will help and maybe it won't. It shouldn't make me worse, so there is nothing lost by trying it. I hope I've answered your questions. Let me know if I can answer anything else. -Cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 , Reading your post makes me feel really P***D off at your doctor! If he continues to view his patients as " minor inconveniences " he will soon have no patients! It burns me up that while you're suffering in pain, he's being " incovenienced " . This is NOT a psychological problem. It's a real, geniune disorder. It's time to find a new doctor. I'd suggest contacting the NVA for a list of referrals. You may have to drive a distance to see a doctor. My specialist is 1-1/2- 2 hrs. away from me. When I was seeing my 1st specialist, I knew of patients that flew in from out of state. Fortunately there are more specialists out there now. I was a virgin when I got married at age 19 & started vestibulitis symptoms from the first time. I'm now 35. So I sort of know what you're going through. Right now, my best suggestion is to get the book, " Survivor's Guide to Vulvodynia " . It has a lot of great information. It talks a lot about the whole sex issue and I think it would help you a great deal. It also talks about the partner's feelings--it's hard on them too. When you think about it, they're dealing with causing someone they love pain. I'm really getting a lot out of the book and I've read A LOT on the subject. We have a hard time with sex too. Most of the time, I want nothing to do with it. Some of the time, my heart wants to do it and my vulva is yelling, " Nooooooo " . Sometimes it hurts when we do it. Other times it doesn't hurt at the time, but will hurt a day or more afterward. Sometimes it just feels a little irritated, but relatively ok. So I have no idea whether sex will lead to a week of misery afterward. Recently we had about 1-1/2 weeks of great sex. While to " normal " women, we probably had an average amount of sex, to us, it was more sex than we've had in the past year (I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about!) To be honest, I wanted it all the time, since it didn't hurt too bad and I figured it wouldn't last long. I was right, it didn't last long. I plunged into a yeast infection, spent the last 2 weeks feeling awful with that & am now having my first massive period coming off the birth control pill. (I was put on the pill for heavy bleeding about 3 years ago & my dr. took me off to see if it improves the yeast situation). I do use AstroGlide lubricant & was advised to coat all surfaces (him & you). That helps a lot. It's been recommended to me to use a numbing cream (zylicain?--don't know if I spelled that right) but it irritates me to high heaven, so I don't do that. It's also been suggested to use an ice pack afterward, but I haven't tried that yet. Mostly because it doesn't seem the thing to do after having sex (..was it great for you? I'm getting an ice pack...) LOL! I do use the bathroom afterward, rinse off with a squirt bottle of water & blow dry (like that's any better than going for an ice pack). Regarding your doctor giving you anti-fungals, etc. when he sees no sign of infection...that's just nuts, in my opinion. It's like going to the doctor & them saying, I'm positive you don't have strep throat, but here's some pennicililn anyway. He's just trying to pacify you so you won't come in again. If you are certain you do not have an infection, do not put cream on your vulva. Give it a week and see if it feels any better. My skin just has to heal up on it's own. Our skin doesn't act like normal skin when we get infections. The infections freak out the Vulvodynia, nerves mis-fire and our skin feels awful. I find it takes 1 week from the time I am totally free of the infection, before my vulvodynia starts to calm down from the infection. The anti-depressant I take (Desipramine) is taken for pain management of the vulvodynia. The tri-cylic anti-depressants interrupt the miscommunication from our nerves to the brain. The goal is to break the cycle and sort of " reset " the system. Some women are able to get off the anti-depressants after awhile. The dosage is much smaller than the dosage given for depression. Also, the tri-cylics are the older depression medications & actually don't work that great for depression so they're really not used for that much anymore. I did have an issue with taking anti-depressants at first. But, I decided being out of pain is worth it and it really isn't a big deal anyway. If you ask around, you'd be surprised the the number of people on anti-depressants (for depression) anyway. The Ocean Essentials product (Amway) is called " Balanced Health " . I just got it yesterday. It has a slightly different mixture of things than what I was previously taking (Shaklee). This one has an equal proportion of EPA and DHA and includes Vitamin E. I will let you know how I like it. I will check with my brother in law, who is a doctor. His wife (my sister) is pregnant almost constantly and takes their vitamins instead of pre-natal vitamins, but I don't know if she took the fish oils. Remember that you can also get the oils from eating fish. In fact, my mother in law makes awesome salmon patties & my skin always feels better the day after we've had them for dinner. I'm trying to go back and re-read your message so I answer all your questions. As far as dealing with the bad burning, horrible pain... First, I try to remain as calm as possible. The bad burning usually doesn't continue forever. I often tell myself that by this time next week, I will feel better which helps me deal with the panic & despair I sometimes feel during those times. I also try to remember all the self-help things---no soap, blow dry, pat w/toilet paper when using the bathroom (instead of wiping), no creams, no underwear at night. I try to wear baggy clothes or skirts. I also take a lot of warm baths because that feels soothing to me. Right now I'm trying to stop getting yeast & bacterial infections. I feel this really, really sets me back. With the anti-depressants, I'm now having periods of time where I really feel pretty normal. I think if I could ward off the infections, I could have longer & longer " normal " times. I feel like this would be progress. I also feel that we have to be our own advocate. Another thing that I'm going to check into is biofeedback. Maybe it will help and maybe it won't. It shouldn't make me worse, so there is nothing lost by trying it. I hope I've answered your questions. Let me know if I can answer anything else. -Cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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