Re: <no subject>

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In a message dated 9/9/99 2:16:03 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

rockyshoe@... writes:

> Is there a lot of cheating on going on at AA? My ex-husband left me for a

> woman he met in AA.

So did mine. I think AA needs a new slogan: If thirteen steps are all you

can come up with, you need to read the Kama Sutra.

" AS if I am an

> old pattern of dysfunction instead of the concerned spouse, who gave up my

> small amount of drinking to support his sobriety, who patiently waited at

> home with the child while he went to nightly AA meetings and told me that

> " the only thing that matters right now is me staying sober. " ,

Such deja vu !! I did the same thing, and I heard that for years.

>

> Can you tell I do not care for AA and it's spawn? I think it an excuse to

> not really confront the self and heal and grow. I think it an excuse to

> remain focused on ME ME ME and ALCOHOL, instead of really engaging with

> family and friends and self and admitting failures and stupidities and

being

> strong enough to really change.

>

> I'm sure it helps some people. And my ex is still sober, so that is good.

At

> least it isn't illegal to go to AA and drive, as it is to drink and drive.

> So that is a plus.

>

I think you have something there - I've always wondered about a bunch of

people who can listen to someone share a story about the mistakes they've

made, only to come back with " but you're ok. You're not drinking today " .

That's not growth, that's enabling. No wonder AA's spend so much time in

meetings - no one ever criticizes you for anything but drinking, unlike the

real world with all of us delusional earth people who hold you responsible

for ALL your actions, not just what you choose to drink.