Guest guest Posted March 19, 2007 Report Share Posted March 19, 2007 That makes a lot of sense. I get you point. thanks again Roxanna <madideas@...> wrote: I don't know about that particular child. In general, I would not even ask a child if she is lying when I know she's lying. I would state the obvious - " You did this. Now we need to clean it up. This is what I want you to do. " Then I would make sure she did it, if hand over hand was required as well. If it was a big mess or say she broke a glass, I would help her clean it up but would want her to participate depending on her age. I'm not a psychologist but I would think kids lie to protect themselves from punishment or to get attention. Even negative attention is worth working for to some kids at some times. I imagine if you did something awful and your parents still didn't give you any attention, then you'd have to keep upping the ante, wouldn't you. I mean, parents who have no reaction and no rules tend to have checked out in the parenting department. Getting upset, correcting her, all of these things take effort but they show her that she matters and that they care about her and how she is growing up. Not doing so sends the opposite message, IMO. It's probably also a viscious cycle after a while - the more she lies, the more they check out, the more she lies. Roxanna Re: ( ) Re:Lying That's so strange as my son Jake never lies. You can always ask him something and expect the truth. He couldn't lie to save his life! My daughter (non-Aspie) is 4 and lies about everything. We are having such a problem with it. Tracey Shockey _MYspace_ (http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile & friendid=13263\ 4800) _Shaklee_ (http://www.shaklee.net/wellnessiseasy) Isn't it time to just feel better? Home of _GET CLEAN_ (http://www.shaklee.net/wellnessiseasy/getclean/index) , non toxic cleaners Home of _CINCH_ (http://www.cinchplan.com/wellnessiseasy) , powerful and proven inch loss _Mia Bella_ (http://www.burningandearning.com/) the best candles you'll ever burn _Tart burners_ (http://www.wbwholesale.com/cgi-bin/affiliates/clickthru.cgi?id=happybrats3) Great selection and colors for every decor! ELECTRIC <BR><BR><BR>**************************************<BR> AOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2007 Report Share Posted March 19, 2007 That makes sense to me too. My 7 yo NT daughterstarted doing everything - lying, failing grades, etc to get our attention. I had tried to explain the best I could to her that her brother needed some extra attention and I would like for her to help as well. Not pushing her aside - but you get the point. I set up special times for her where we would go do something she wanted - without her brother. She gets to have a sleepover every weekend either at a family members house or at a friends house just to get away. Yet, she still will lie straight faced - even if I saw her doing it. It has gotten a little better.... Im just not sure what else to do? she gets punished, but I feel when I take away her priveleges such as the get-aways, she only resents her brother more. Any ideas from you others dealing with this? --------------------------------- Sucker-punch spam with award-winning protection. Try the free Beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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