Re: Please read this article from the Hernando Today from April 4 2008

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Hi, I don't know..maybe it's me..but this article didn't piss me off at all. I don't think he was saying that there's nothing wrong with our children, I think he was trying to make the point that sometimes teachers and parents are too quick to want a quick fix for their kid, and giving him/her a dx and a pill is so easy. Sometimes there' s nothing wrong with the kid, but there's a lot wrong with the parent(s). Kathleen Avouris wrote: The Correct Label:

PPD Pathetic Parent Disorder Fri Apr 4, 2008 12:08 pm (PDT) The following article ran yesterday in the Hernando Today newspaper.If it pisses you off as much as it did me, I suggest you send them a letter to the editor:HYPERLINK"http://www.hernandotoday.com/lettertotheeditor.htm"http://www.hernandotoday.com/lettertotheeditor.htmThe Correct Label: PPD Pathetic Parent DisorderBy DOMENICK J. MAGLIO Neo TraditionalistPublished: April 3, 2008Every year our mental health industry creatively packages a new catchy2-4-letter abbreviation to capture the imagination of the American public.Like the yearly most popular name for a new baby, the letters for disorders change every year. This year's winning letters are AD, which is a tie between Autistic Disorder and Asperger

Disorder. Past winners were ADD, Attention Deficit Disorder, ODD Oppositional Defiant Disorder, CD Conduct Disorder, TD Tourettes Disorder and SAD Selective Anxiety Disorder. All these labels have one thing in common. They focus on the child's inappropriate behavior, not the reasons for being improperly socialized.In the past when we saw a child act out, we first looked at the parent's behavior. The way they reacted to situations was most important. Were the parents willing to stand their ground regardless of not being liked by the child? Friends and family scrutinized the way the parents disciplined their child, the relationship between the parents and the amount of time devoted to the family. No words were needed to be spoken, but the glances spoke volumes. Everyone accepted the role of parents as the heads of the household;children were expected to listen to parents not the other way around.Parents were

supposed to help the children deal with life. This meant the parent was expected to do everything possible to make sure the child behaved. The parents knew the ultimate evaluation of their parenting was how the child turned out. A revolutionary concept of "returning to the past" has great promise.Examine the parents. If they are not fulfilling their parental duties, then label them PPD instead of labeling the child. "Pathetic Parent Disorder" is a more accurate pinpointing of the cause of acting out children. Today too many parents are unwilling to limit their daily indulgences for the sake of time devoted to the family. Instead they believe they only need to set up an appointment with a mental health professional to solve all the family's issues. The parents want to believe the solution to all their problems lies with the problem child. The professional obliges by first labeling the child then sending him on his

way with a magic pill. The child's disorder is supposedly cured.This process has been a winner for the medical and pharmaceutical industries and a loser for the child and his parents. The medical route temporarily lessens the child's actions, only to have them flare up with greater intensity after the drug's effectiveness wears off. Although the parents are not the winners, they are relieved to transfer their responsibility and authority to someone else. The other children in the family and especially the child whose normal development has been ruined by the label and the drugs is the loser.The consequence of a parent not dedicating sufficient time to their child is a poorly trained child. Labeling and drugging a child into submission does not do anything to improve the quality of the parent's life. It requires the parents to spend more time in offices and battling the child over taking the drugs then they would have had

to spend getting the child properly socialized in the first place. Modern parents can end their dependency on the pharmaceutical andpsychiatric industries by realizing they have the power to mold theirchild's behavior and character.Only through guilt for their shameless behavior toward their children can we nudge the parents back into their rightful position as heads of the family.The solution to these American families is to change who is being labeled. To focus solely on the child has not worked, as it avoids addressing the accountability of the parents. The new PPD, Pathetic Parent Disorder label is the answer. Unlike the child label gimmicks of the past, this label will empower the parents to do their job. The parent's inconsistent, ineffective, selfish or lazy behavior will be obvious to themselves and others.Revitalized parents will see the effectiveness of their acting as parents. When they realize

their child CAN listen, CAN obey and CAN gain mental strength to overcome any limitations, they will become more successful in school.Parents united, making the necessary decisions and consistently following through on them will result in children who will accept parent's authority and eventually will appreciate them for being loving parents.Dr. Domenick J. Maglio, Ph.D., is the author of "Invasion Within" and"Essential Parenting." He is a psychotherapist and the owner/director of Wider Horizons School. Visit: www.drmaglio.com.Just my thoughts but if this man holds a PhD and is the owner and director os a school - I in no way shape or form would want my child to attend there. I feel that he is ignorant beyond belief and right now i am trying to maintain a level of calmness to respond appropriately to the newspaper. Please now matter where you are located, the Hernando Today news paper needs to hear

from parents, grandparents, teachers, professionals and anyone that has a child on the spectrum. There is also a web site to Dr Maglio, I have yet to visit it as I am not calm enough yet.Kathleen AvourisFlorida/Michigan Unlocking Autism RepGrandama to Hunter age 7Aspergers/PDD/OCD/ODD/PCS

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Hi, I don't know..maybe it's me..but this article didn't piss me off at all. I don't think he was saying that there's nothing wrong with our children, I think he was trying to make the point that sometimes teachers and parents are too quick to want a quick fix for their kid, and giving him/her a dx and a pill is so easy. Sometimes there' s nothing wrong with the kid, but there's a lot wrong with the parent(s). Kathleen Avouris wrote: The Correct Label:

PPD Pathetic Parent Disorder Fri Apr 4, 2008 12:08 pm (PDT) The following article ran yesterday in the Hernando Today newspaper.If it pisses you off as much as it did me, I suggest you send them a letter to the editor:HYPERLINK"http://www.hernandotoday.com/lettertotheeditor.htm"http://www.hernandotoday.com/lettertotheeditor.htmThe Correct Label: PPD Pathetic Parent DisorderBy DOMENICK J. MAGLIO Neo TraditionalistPublished: April 3, 2008Every year our mental health industry creatively packages a new catchy2-4-letter abbreviation to capture the imagination of the American public.Like the yearly most popular name for a new baby, the letters for disorders change every year. This year's winning letters are AD, which is a tie between Autistic Disorder and Asperger

Disorder. Past winners were ADD, Attention Deficit Disorder, ODD Oppositional Defiant Disorder, CD Conduct Disorder, TD Tourettes Disorder and SAD Selective Anxiety Disorder. All these labels have one thing in common. They focus on the child's inappropriate behavior, not the reasons for being improperly socialized.In the past when we saw a child act out, we first looked at the parent's behavior. The way they reacted to situations was most important. Were the parents willing to stand their ground regardless of not being liked by the child? Friends and family scrutinized the way the parents disciplined their child, the relationship between the parents and the amount of time devoted to the family. No words were needed to be spoken, but the glances spoke volumes. Everyone accepted the role of parents as the heads of the household;children were expected to listen to parents not the other way around.Parents were

supposed to help the children deal with life. This meant the parent was expected to do everything possible to make sure the child behaved. The parents knew the ultimate evaluation of their parenting was how the child turned out. A revolutionary concept of "returning to the past" has great promise.Examine the parents. If they are not fulfilling their parental duties, then label them PPD instead of labeling the child. "Pathetic Parent Disorder" is a more accurate pinpointing of the cause of acting out children. Today too many parents are unwilling to limit their daily indulgences for the sake of time devoted to the family. Instead they believe they only need to set up an appointment with a mental health professional to solve all the family's issues. The parents want to believe the solution to all their problems lies with the problem child. The professional obliges by first labeling the child then sending him on his

way with a magic pill. The child's disorder is supposedly cured.This process has been a winner for the medical and pharmaceutical industries and a loser for the child and his parents. The medical route temporarily lessens the child's actions, only to have them flare up with greater intensity after the drug's effectiveness wears off. Although the parents are not the winners, they are relieved to transfer their responsibility and authority to someone else. The other children in the family and especially the child whose normal development has been ruined by the label and the drugs is the loser.The consequence of a parent not dedicating sufficient time to their child is a poorly trained child. Labeling and drugging a child into submission does not do anything to improve the quality of the parent's life. It requires the parents to spend more time in offices and battling the child over taking the drugs then they would have had

to spend getting the child properly socialized in the first place. Modern parents can end their dependency on the pharmaceutical andpsychiatric industries by realizing they have the power to mold theirchild's behavior and character.Only through guilt for their shameless behavior toward their children can we nudge the parents back into their rightful position as heads of the family.The solution to these American families is to change who is being labeled. To focus solely on the child has not worked, as it avoids addressing the accountability of the parents. The new PPD, Pathetic Parent Disorder label is the answer. Unlike the child label gimmicks of the past, this label will empower the parents to do their job. The parent's inconsistent, ineffective, selfish or lazy behavior will be obvious to themselves and others.Revitalized parents will see the effectiveness of their acting as parents. When they realize

their child CAN listen, CAN obey and CAN gain mental strength to overcome any limitations, they will become more successful in school.Parents united, making the necessary decisions and consistently following through on them will result in children who will accept parent's authority and eventually will appreciate them for being loving parents.Dr. Domenick J. Maglio, Ph.D., is the author of "Invasion Within" and"Essential Parenting." He is a psychotherapist and the owner/director of Wider Horizons School. Visit: www.drmaglio.com.Just my thoughts but if this man holds a PhD and is the owner and director os a school - I in no way shape or form would want my child to attend there. I feel that he is ignorant beyond belief and right now i am trying to maintain a level of calmness to respond appropriately to the newspaper. Please now matter where you are located, the Hernando Today news paper needs to hear

from parents, grandparents, teachers, professionals and anyone that has a child on the spectrum. There is also a web site to Dr Maglio, I have yet to visit it as I am not calm enough yet.Kathleen AvourisFlorida/Michigan Unlocking Autism RepGrandama to Hunter age 7Aspergers/PDD/OCD/ODD/PCS

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Hi, I don't know..maybe it's me..but this article didn't piss me off at all. I don't think he was saying that there's nothing wrong with our children, I think he was trying to make the point that sometimes teachers and parents are too quick to want a quick fix for their kid, and giving him/her a dx and a pill is so easy. Sometimes there' s nothing wrong with the kid, but there's a lot wrong with the parent(s). Kathleen Avouris wrote: The Correct Label:

PPD Pathetic Parent Disorder Fri Apr 4, 2008 12:08 pm (PDT) The following article ran yesterday in the Hernando Today newspaper.If it pisses you off as much as it did me, I suggest you send them a letter to the editor:HYPERLINK"http://www.hernandotoday.com/lettertotheeditor.htm"http://www.hernandotoday.com/lettertotheeditor.htmThe Correct Label: PPD Pathetic Parent DisorderBy DOMENICK J. MAGLIO Neo TraditionalistPublished: April 3, 2008Every year our mental health industry creatively packages a new catchy2-4-letter abbreviation to capture the imagination of the American public.Like the yearly most popular name for a new baby, the letters for disorders change every year. This year's winning letters are AD, which is a tie between Autistic Disorder and Asperger

Disorder. Past winners were ADD, Attention Deficit Disorder, ODD Oppositional Defiant Disorder, CD Conduct Disorder, TD Tourettes Disorder and SAD Selective Anxiety Disorder. All these labels have one thing in common. They focus on the child's inappropriate behavior, not the reasons for being improperly socialized.In the past when we saw a child act out, we first looked at the parent's behavior. The way they reacted to situations was most important. Were the parents willing to stand their ground regardless of not being liked by the child? Friends and family scrutinized the way the parents disciplined their child, the relationship between the parents and the amount of time devoted to the family. No words were needed to be spoken, but the glances spoke volumes. Everyone accepted the role of parents as the heads of the household;children were expected to listen to parents not the other way around.Parents were

supposed to help the children deal with life. This meant the parent was expected to do everything possible to make sure the child behaved. The parents knew the ultimate evaluation of their parenting was how the child turned out. A revolutionary concept of "returning to the past" has great promise.Examine the parents. If they are not fulfilling their parental duties, then label them PPD instead of labeling the child. "Pathetic Parent Disorder" is a more accurate pinpointing of the cause of acting out children. Today too many parents are unwilling to limit their daily indulgences for the sake of time devoted to the family. Instead they believe they only need to set up an appointment with a mental health professional to solve all the family's issues. The parents want to believe the solution to all their problems lies with the problem child. The professional obliges by first labeling the child then sending him on his

way with a magic pill. The child's disorder is supposedly cured.This process has been a winner for the medical and pharmaceutical industries and a loser for the child and his parents. The medical route temporarily lessens the child's actions, only to have them flare up with greater intensity after the drug's effectiveness wears off. Although the parents are not the winners, they are relieved to transfer their responsibility and authority to someone else. The other children in the family and especially the child whose normal development has been ruined by the label and the drugs is the loser.The consequence of a parent not dedicating sufficient time to their child is a poorly trained child. Labeling and drugging a child into submission does not do anything to improve the quality of the parent's life. It requires the parents to spend more time in offices and battling the child over taking the drugs then they would have had

to spend getting the child properly socialized in the first place. Modern parents can end their dependency on the pharmaceutical andpsychiatric industries by realizing they have the power to mold theirchild's behavior and character.Only through guilt for their shameless behavior toward their children can we nudge the parents back into their rightful position as heads of the family.The solution to these American families is to change who is being labeled. To focus solely on the child has not worked, as it avoids addressing the accountability of the parents. The new PPD, Pathetic Parent Disorder label is the answer. Unlike the child label gimmicks of the past, this label will empower the parents to do their job. The parent's inconsistent, ineffective, selfish or lazy behavior will be obvious to themselves and others.Revitalized parents will see the effectiveness of their acting as parents. When they realize

their child CAN listen, CAN obey and CAN gain mental strength to overcome any limitations, they will become more successful in school.Parents united, making the necessary decisions and consistently following through on them will result in children who will accept parent's authority and eventually will appreciate them for being loving parents.Dr. Domenick J. Maglio, Ph.D., is the author of "Invasion Within" and"Essential Parenting." He is a psychotherapist and the owner/director of Wider Horizons School. Visit: www.drmaglio.com.Just my thoughts but if this man holds a PhD and is the owner and director os a school - I in no way shape or form would want my child to attend there. I feel that he is ignorant beyond belief and right now i am trying to maintain a level of calmness to respond appropriately to the newspaper. Please now matter where you are located, the Hernando Today news paper needs to hear

from parents, grandparents, teachers, professionals and anyone that has a child on the spectrum. There is also a web site to Dr Maglio, I have yet to visit it as I am not calm enough yet.Kathleen AvourisFlorida/Michigan Unlocking Autism RepGrandama to Hunter age 7Aspergers/PDD/OCD/ODD/PCS

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What disturbed me is that so-called learned professional lumped

autism spectrum disorders among those that parents want to blame for

their kids being " bad. " As if WE chose this, or we are " pathetic

parents. " This smacks of the " refrigerator mother " days to me -

autism is obviously the parents' fault, clearly.

If I could have control over this disorder, I certainly would.

AND - if there wasn't something wrong with me before this horrible

disorder became apparent in 3 of my children, well guess what?

There's something wrong with me now, I'm sure.

janet powell

miami, FL

P.S. PPD = Pathetic " Professional " Disorder.

> The Correct Label: PPD Pathetic Parent Disorder

> Fri Apr 4, 2008 12:08 pm (PDT)

> The following article ran yesterday in the Hernando Today

newspaper.

>

> If it pisses you off as much as it did me, I suggest you send them

a

> letter to the editor:

>

> HYPERLINK

> " http://www.hernandotoday.com/lettertotheeditor.htm " http://www.hern

and

> otoday.com/lettertotheeditor.htm

>

> The Correct Label: PPD Pathetic Parent Disorder

>

> By DOMENICK J. MAGLIO

> Neo Traditionalist

>

> Published: April 3, 2008

>

> Every year our mental health industry creatively packages a new

catchy

> 2-4-letter abbreviation to capture the imagination of the American

> public.

> Like the yearly most popular name for a new baby, the letters for

> disorders change every year. This year's winning letters are AD,

> which is a tie between Autistic Disorder and Asperger Disorder.

> Past winners were ADD, Attention Deficit Disorder, ODD

Oppositional

> Defiant Disorder, CD Conduct Disorder, TD Tourettes Disorder and

SAD

> Selective Anxiety Disorder. All these labels have one thing in

> common. They focus on the child's inappropriate behavior, not the

> reasons for being improperly socialized.

> In the past when we saw a child act out, we first looked at the

> parent's behavior. The way they reacted to situations was most

> important. Were the parents willing to stand their ground

regardless

> of not being liked by the child? Friends and family scrutinized

the

> way the parents disciplined their child, the relationship between

the

> parents and the amount of time devoted to the family. No words

were

> needed to be spoken, but the glances spoke volumes.

> Everyone accepted the role of parents as the heads of the

household;

> children were expected to listen to parents not the other way

around.

> Parents were supposed to help the children deal with life. This

meant

> the parent was expected to do everything possible to make sure the

> child behaved. The parents knew the ultimate evaluation of their

> parenting was how the child turned out.

> A revolutionary concept of " returning to the past " has great

promise.

> Examine the parents. If they are not fulfilling their parental

> duties, then label them PPD instead of labeling the

child. " Pathetic

> Parent Disorder " is a more accurate pinpointing of the cause of

> acting out children.

> Today too many parents are unwilling to limit their daily

indulgences

> for the sake of time devoted to the family. Instead they believe

they

> only need to set up an appointment with a mental health

professional

> to solve all the family's issues. The parents want to believe the

> solution to all their problems lies with the problem child. The

> professional obliges by first labeling the child then sending him

on

> his way with a magic pill. The child's disorder is supposedly

cured.

> This process has been a winner for the medical and pharmaceutical

> industries and a loser for the child and his parents. The medical

> route temporarily lessens the child's actions, only to have them

> flare up with greater intensity after the drug's effectiveness

wears

> off. Although the parents are not the winners, they are relieved

to

> transfer their responsibility and authority to someone else. The

> other children in the family and especially the child whose normal

> development has been ruined by the label and the drugs is the

loser.

> The consequence of a parent not dedicating sufficient time to

their

> child is a poorly trained child. Labeling and drugging a child

into

> submission does not do anything to improve the quality of the

> parent's life. It requires the parents to spend more time in

offices

> and battling the child over taking the drugs then they would have

had

> to spend getting the child properly socialized in the first place.

> Modern parents can end their dependency on the pharmaceutical and

> psychiatric industries by realizing they have the power to mold

their

> child's behavior and character.

> Only through guilt for their shameless behavior toward their

children

> can we nudge the parents back into their rightful position as

heads

> of the family.

> The solution to these American families is to change who is being

> labeled. To focus solely on the child has not worked, as it avoids

> addressing the accountability of the parents.

> The new PPD, Pathetic Parent Disorder label is the answer. Unlike

the

> child label gimmicks of the past, this label will empower the

parents

> to do their job. The parent's inconsistent, ineffective, selfish

or

> lazy behavior will be obvious to themselves and others.

> Revitalized parents will see the effectiveness of their acting as

> parents. When they realize their child CAN listen, CAN obey and

CAN

> gain mental strength to overcome any limitations, they will become

> more successful in school.

> Parents united, making the necessary decisions and consistently

> following through on them will result in children who will accept

> parent's authority and eventually will appreciate them for being

> loving parents.

>

> Dr. Domenick J. Maglio, Ph.D., is the author of " Invasion Within "

and

> " Essential Parenting. " He is a psychotherapist and the

owner/director

> of Wider Horizons School. Visit: www.drmaglio.com.

>

> Just my thoughts but if this man holds a PhD and is the owner and

> director os a school - I in no way shape or form would want my

child

> to attend there. I feel that he is ignorant beyond belief and

right

> now i am trying to maintain a level of calmness to respond

> appropriately to the newspaper. Please now matter where you are

> located, the Hernando Today news paper needs to hear from parents,

> grandparents, teachers, professionals and anyone that has a child

on

> the spectrum. There is also a web site to Dr Maglio, I have yet to

> visit it as I am not calm enough yet.

>

> Kathleen Avouris

> Florida/Michigan Unlocking Autism Rep

> Grandama to Hunter age 7

> Aspergers/PDD/OCD/ODD/PCS

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Blockbuster Total Access, No Cost.

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