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> So you are saying that we're guiltless when we get autoimmune

> disorders, but to blame when we get type 2 diabetes. (Type 1 diabetes

> is an autoimmune disease.)>>>>

>

I did not say that, I was very careful to use qualifiers and not generalize.

But I do believe that is SOME cases for SOME diseases, people have lifestyles

or habits that

affect their health adversely.

That's all.

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So you are saying that we're guiltless when we get autoimmune

disorders, but to blame when we get type 2 diabetes. (Type 1 diabetes

is an autoimmune disease.)

There are plenty of obese people who don't have diabetes, and there are

non-obese people who do have it. If a person has the diabetes gene, he

will eventually get diabetes, through no fault of his own. I have never

been obese, but I got diabetes, because the gene was passed down to me.

Diabetes was in both sides of my family, and I was one of the unlucky

ones who got it. It was the same with RA, and with the Fuchs' corneal

dystrophy that I also have. I just didn't choose my parents wisely.

Sue

On Sunday, January 27, 2008, at 06:16 PM, swierzop wrote:

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> Diabetes is not an autoimmune illness, it is a civilizational disease

> (it's widespread and its cause is the civilization's excesses...).

>

> ...................................

> You guys are not guilty of getting sick. You didn't do anything wrong!

> You families didn't do anything wrong! We don't know how to protect

> ourselves from autoimmune disorders. WE DON'T KNOW HOW!

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I was raised by my grandparents and never knew my father's side of the

family beyond who they are.

Recently there was a death in that side of the family and I had reason to

see them. I asked about health issues because I have never known.

The doctors always ask and I never know. I learned first that my dad has had

3 heart attacks, then, that all the female members on that side are

disabled by RA.

I cannot describe to you how it felt when I heard that. I know now where

mine came from. I was in awe because I heard my life seemingly described by

so many.

WOW

-cyn

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Subject: Re: [ ] Re: Family of Origin

So you are saying that we're guiltless when we get autoimmune

disorders, but to blame when we get type 2 diabetes. (Type 1 diabetes

is an autoimmune disease.)

There are plenty of obese people who don't have diabetes, and there are

non-obese people who do have it. If a person has the diabetes gene, he

will eventually get diabetes, through no fault of his own. I have never

been obese, but I got diabetes, because the gene was passed down to me.

Diabetes was in both sides of my family, and I was one of the unlucky

ones who got it. It was the same with RA, and with the Fuchs' corneal

dystrophy that I also have. I just didn't choose my parents wisely.

Sue

On Sunday, January 27, 2008, at 06:16 PM, swierzop wrote:

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> Diabetes is not an autoimmune illness, it is a civilizational disease

> (it's widespread and its cause is the civilization's excesses...).

>

> ...................................

> You guys are not guilty of getting sick. You didn't do anything wrong!

> You families didn't do anything wrong! We don't know how to protect

> ourselves from autoimmune disorders. WE DON'T KNOW HOW!

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Kathry will said.

Fair <kalfoley@...> wrote: It might also be helpful to point out

that several studies have found that people with chronic/terminal disease look

for elements that " caused " their disease. We have a human need to find a " why "

and latch on to a reason for having disease and disability. There was an

interesting study of women with breast cancer who were convinced that an earlier

injury to their breast was related to the cancer. It's helpful to introspect

about our own past and current stressors and figure out how to manage them

effectively so we don't have additional pain because of tension and pumping out

stress hormones. However, we must be careful not to make the error of

correlation=causation in which we're saying, gee, I know lots of people who had

traumatic experiences and they went on to develop autoimmune problems, therefore

trauma=autoimmune disease.

I also firmly believe that there are probably several rheumatic diseases that

get bundled under the RA header. For example all the various lab findings

probably suggest that different profiles (antiCCP +, CRP levels, sed rate, RF

status etc) are actually different diseases. Remember that AS used to be called

RA until it got its own category. Rheumatology is clearly in its infancy and we

just don't understand much about the immune system and why it makes errors in

which it attacks the body.

To stay on my soap box a second longer, I also feel that a lot of this trauma

debate is a hold over from the '60s and 70s when physicians talked about the

" rheumatoid personality " or gee, what drags these negative nellies with RA could

be. Wah wah, always going on about their joint pain. Here's some aspirin, take

it 'til your ears ring and maybe when your hands start curling we'll give you

some gold injections. RA has been dismissed and minimized until only the recent

past. Lots of blame the victim out there. Even my father goes on about what a

PITA his mother could be at times.

After all, I don't hear MS patients being asked to reflect on how their trauma

caused their immune system to attack their CNS.

Oh, and keep in mind that physical, sexual, and emotional abuse are shockingly

common in American families as are the rates of adult physical assault, robbery,

motor vehicle accidents etc, while RA and autoimmune diseases are *relatively

rare* across the population. Therefore there are lots of people with trauma

histories who do NOT have RA. In fact, I'd guess the majority of trauma

survivors do not have RA.

Off soapbox now.

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Terrific post as always Kate! They are always very

informative and I love them! It's so very true that

many tend to look for what " caused " their illness. I

remember in the beginning, wondering if it was karma,

or something that I had done wrong. Then I realized

with introspection and changes in cognitive thinking

that good things happen to good people, and bad things

happen to good people. I've met many who have

survived trauma and do not have any rheumatic illness.

I know those that had stressful childhoods, some of

my relatives, and they have great health. Yet several

that have had wonderful attitudes, limited stress, and

great childhoods and they are disfigured and barely

able to walk due to RA.

Recently there was an article on FMS and how it was

stress to the body that caused that illness. A doctor

who had once written papers supporting FMS as a

physical disease had changed his perspective and now

said it was stress that caused it. I thought we had

finally gotten somewhere when Lyrica was approved, but

it was the attitude of that doctor that made me feel

we were being setback again. It will be so nice when

they finally realize, illness just happens, and stress

can make it worse, but necessarily doesn't have to

" cause " it.

--- Fair <kalfoley@...> wrote:

> It might also be helpful to point out that several

> studies have found that people with chronic/terminal

> disease look for elements that " caused " their

> disease. We have a human need to find a " why " and

> latch on to a reason for having disease and

> disability. There was an interesting study of women

> with breast cancer who were convinced that an

> earlier injury to their breast was related to the

> cancer. It's helpful to introspect about our own

> past and current stressors and figure out how to

> manage them effectively so we don't have additional

> pain because of tension and pumping out stress

> hormones. However, we must be careful not to make

> the error of correlation=causation in which we're

> saying, gee, I know lots of people who had traumatic

> experiences and they went on to develop autoimmune

> problems, therefore trauma=autoimmune disease.

>

> I also firmly believe that there are probably

> several rheumatic diseases that get bundled under

> the RA header. For example all the various lab

> findings probably suggest that different profiles

> (antiCCP +, CRP levels, sed rate, RF status etc) are

> actually different diseases. Remember that AS used

> to be called RA until it got its own category.

> Rheumatology is clearly in its infancy and we just

> don't understand much about the immune system and

> why it makes errors in which it attacks the body.

>

> To stay on my soap box a second longer, I also feel

> that a lot of this trauma debate is a hold over from

> the '60s and 70s when physicians talked about the

> " rheumatoid personality " or gee, what drags these

> negative nellies with RA could be. Wah wah, always

> going on about their joint pain. Here's some

> aspirin, take it 'til your ears ring and maybe when

> your hands start curling we'll give you some gold

> injections. RA has been dismissed and minimized

> until only the recent past. Lots of blame the

> victim out there. Even my father goes on about what

> a PITA his mother could be at times.

>

> After all, I don't hear MS patients being asked to

> reflect on how their trauma caused their immune

> system to attack their CNS.

>

> Oh, and keep in mind that physical, sexual, and

> emotional abuse are shockingly common in American

> families as are the rates of adult physical assault,

> robbery, motor vehicle accidents etc, while RA and

> autoimmune diseases are *relatively rare* across the

> population. Therefore there are lots of people with

> trauma histories who do NOT have RA. In fact, I'd

> guess the majority of trauma survivors do not have

> RA.

>

> Off soapbox now.

>

> Kate F

>

>

>

>

>

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Actually I do think it's valid to respond strongly to pseudoscience. I don't

believe in validating falsehoods just because they might be comforting or

convenient. I think I justified my opinion which I feel is reinforced by my

academic and clinical training-- at length. If you don't agree with me, that's

fine, but I don't apologize for using the word " crap " . As a former Navy girl, I

could have used a lot stronger, so for me that's restraint :)

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> No offense to you or your doctor, but I think it's crap. > -----

I don't think I'd call anyone's theory a load of crap,

if that " theory " helps them to cope.

Of course, I'm not a PhD, I'm only a JD.

As was pointed out, we all search for answers.

It is my layman's experience and position

that the " not knowing "

the answer for some things

to be frustrating, even agonizing.

If one contemplates,

hypothozies,

theorizes and

comes to their own answer for " why "

and it brings them any relief and comfort

I would respect that, and

start exploring from there.

If it helps their pain and helps them to cope

I would be loathe to invalidate their " answer "

by throwing a load of excrement upon it.

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When a doctor states that one is making them self sick

I'm not sure that really helps one to cope. To me

that would make me even sicker! Especially when I know

my illnesses are not " caused " by stress! To me it is

very demeaning as an ill person to have some doctor

say I am only experiencing pain and disfigurement due

to " stress " . I feel that its easy for doctors to just

" write one off " that way.

--- Fair <kalfoley@...> wrote:

> Actually I do think it's valid to respond strongly

> to pseudoscience. I don't believe in validating

> falsehoods just because they might be comforting or

> convenient. I think I justified my opinion which I

> feel is reinforced by my academic and clinical

> training-- at length. If you don't agree with me,

> that's fine, but I don't apologize for using the

> word " crap " . As a former Navy girl, I could have

> used a lot stronger, so for me that's restraint :)

>

>

> [ ] Re: Family of Origin

>

>

> >

> > No offense to you or your doctor, but I think it's

> crap. > -----

>

> I don't think I'd call anyone's theory a load of

> crap,

> if that " theory " helps them to cope.

>

> Of course, I'm not a PhD, I'm only a JD.

>

> As was pointed out, we all search for answers.

> It is my layman's experience and position

> that the " not knowing "

> the answer for some things

> to be frustrating, even agonizing.

>

> If one contemplates,

> hypothozies,

> theorizes and

> comes to their own answer for " why "

> and it brings them any relief and comfort

> I would respect that, and

> start exploring from there.

>

> If it helps their pain and helps them to cope

> I would be loathe to invalidate their " answer "

> by throwing a load of excrement upon it.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Whoa, here! First I never said my doc told me that stress was the

cause - only that stress could be a trigger for that first flare. Not

the only trigger, just one possible one that was likely in my case.

And I was talking about some pretty extreme physical stress in my

case, injuries from a major auto accident. Not stressing out over

stuff, but something that makes the body work really hard to overcome.

I do believe emotional stress can reach that point, that's why my

daughter's therapist worked with her on stress reduction. Breathing

techniques, meditation, that bring the heart rate down and bring in

more oxygen, etc. Such things can really make a physical difference.

I did, literally, watch my daughter make herself sicker! But it was

her underlying condition that brought on the stress, not the stress

that caused her problems in the first place. Whatever, if stress

reduction makes you feel better, I say do it.

On Jan 28, 2008 10:31 AM, stephanie <stephieann2@...> wrote:

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>

>

>

>

>

> When a doctor states that one is making them self sick

> I'm not sure that really helps one to cope. To me

> that would make me even sicker! Especially when I know

> my illnesses are not " caused " by stress! To me it is

> very demeaning as an ill person to have some doctor

> say I am only experiencing pain and disfigurement due

> to " stress " . I feel that its easy for doctors to just

> " write one off " that way.

> --- Fair <kalfoley@...> wrote:

>

> > Actually I do think it's valid to respond strongly

> > to pseudoscience. I don't believe in validating

> > falsehoods just because they might be comforting or

> > convenient. I think I justified my opinion which I

> > feel is reinforced by my academic and clinical

> > training-- at length. If you don't agree with me,

> > that's fine, but I don't apologize for using the

> > word " crap " . As a former Navy girl, I could have

> > used a lot stronger, so for me that's restraint :)

> >

> >

> > [ ] Re: Family of Origin

> >

> >

> > >

> > > No offense to you or your doctor, but I think it's

> > crap. > -----

> >

> > I don't think I'd call anyone's theory a load of

> > crap,

> > if that " theory " helps them to cope.

> >

> > Of course, I'm not a PhD, I'm only a JD.

> >

> > As was pointed out, we all search for answers.

> > It is my layman's experience and position

> > that the " not knowing "

> > the answer for some things

> > to be frustrating, even agonizing.

> >

> > If one contemplates,

> > hypothozies,

> > theorizes and

> > comes to their own answer for " why "

> > and it brings them any relief and comfort

> > I would respect that, and

> > start exploring from there.

> >

> > If it helps their pain and helps them to cope

> > I would be loathe to invalidate their " answer "

> > by throwing a load of excrement upon it.

> >

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Hi everyone,

I thought I would add my 2 cents here. I have had RA for 8 years now. I

was diagnosed in 1999 at age 22. For me, I believe my RA is mostly hereditary.

My mother has 9 biological siblings -- all 3 of her sisters had/have RA, 1 also

had MS & UC; 2 of her 3 sisters died of heart attacks before their 50th bdays.

Of her 6 brothers, 1 has CP, 1 has Bell's Palsy, 1 has COPD, 1 has AIDS and all

have RA. My mom has COPD, Hep A and had rheumatic fever as a child and is

currently awaiting a lung transplant. Additionally, of my 35 1st cousins, 1 has

Tourette's, 2 have psoriasis & 1 has psoriatic arthritis. On top of this, every

single aunt, uncle & cousin, plus my mom & sister, have asthma & /or severe

allergies. (ironically enough, I am the only one without asthma/allergies. In

addition, my dad has psoriasis and has had 3 heart attacks (cancer and heart

disease runs on that side).

I grew up in Queens, NY and attended college at a small university in

rural PA. I was the 2nd person in my family in 4 generations to move out of the

city. When my RA developed, my father, in order to " blame " someone/thing

believed that I never would have had RA if I hadn't gone to college in PA. My

mother, on the other hand, believes it wouldn't be so " bad " if it happened in

NYC because I would have been dx'd faster. (as an aside, one of the worst

doctors I have seen was in Queens).

Take care everyone! It is supposed to be 60 degrees here in VA tomorrow!

Woohoo!

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Hi !

Those are the doctors that frustrate me the most! I

was told by my social security case manager the first

time my doctor has me apply that I was too educated,

too young and too pretty to file for disability. I

asked them when did illness require an age? We have

babies that are born ill every day, children that are

sick from the day they are born! I had one doctor I

was referred to tell me I was too much paperwork. I'm

thinking if these kinds of doctors don't want to TREAT

people they shouldn't be in a specialty where they are

seeing patients!! With the FMS I have been made to

feel by some doctors that " it's all in my head " when

they finally found out it wasn't! With my

inflammatory, atleast they can physically SEE

something! I finally felt a little vindicated then!!

--- <man_u8@...> wrote:

> ,

>

> I have been told that I am making myself sick and

> that I am " too

> young " to be in pain. This doctor refused to write

> me any rx's. (she

> was filling in when my pcp was out). I was pissed.

> I never knew

> pain had an age requirment or that I am doing this

> to myself. I have

> been to many doctors who I refuse to see because of

> this way of

> thinking.

>

>

>

>

>

> > > >

> > > > No offense to you or your doctor, but I think

> it's

> > > crap. > -----

> > >

> > > I don't think I'd call anyone's theory a load of

> > > crap,

> > > if that " theory " helps them to cope.

> > >

> > > Of course, I'm not a PhD, I'm only a JD.

> > >

> > > As was pointed out, we all search for answers.

> > > It is my layman's experience and position

> > > that the " not knowing "

> > > the answer for some things

> > > to be frustrating, even agonizing.

> > >

> > > If one contemplates,

> > > hypothozies,

> > > theorizes and

> > > comes to their own answer for " why "

> > > and it brings them any relief and comfort

> > > I would respect that, and

> > > start exploring from there.

> > >

> > > If it helps their pain and helps them to cope

> > > I would be loathe to invalidate their " answer "

> > > by throwing a load of excrement upon it.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

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