Guest guest Posted March 8, 2001 Report Share Posted March 8, 2001 Judith, Thanks, and yes I manage to get on with my life somehow. But, I am so tired all the time. I guess this is a good sign. I don't know how we manage to go through all the hard ship we are going through and maintain regular lives. And I don't know how women in general get through their first trimester with a little one around. I am high risk pregnancy and I am not suppose to lift anything over 5 pounds...yeah right. Try taking care of an 18 month old and taking it easy and working part time. Just doesn't work. Good luck to you in New Zealand, let us know how it goes! We will be thinking of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2001 Report Share Posted March 8, 2001 Judith, Thanks, and yes I manage to get on with my life somehow. But, I am so tired all the time. I guess this is a good sign. I don't know how we manage to go through all the hard ship we are going through and maintain regular lives. And I don't know how women in general get through their first trimester with a little one around. I am high risk pregnancy and I am not suppose to lift anything over 5 pounds...yeah right. Try taking care of an 18 month old and taking it easy and working part time. Just doesn't work. Good luck to you in New Zealand, let us know how it goes! We will be thinking of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2001 Report Share Posted April 11, 2001 Robin, Aren't you the one who is having IVF in the Southeastern Clinic in ton? Welcome to SC! I live in Columbia and my RE/Reproductive Surgeon ( ) does a lot of referrals to ton. Darlene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2001 Report Share Posted April 11, 2001 Robin, Aren't you the one who is having IVF in the Southeastern Clinic in ton? Welcome to SC! I live in Columbia and my RE/Reproductive Surgeon ( ) does a lot of referrals to ton. Darlene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2001 Report Share Posted April 11, 2001 Robin, Aren't you the one who is having IVF in the Southeastern Clinic in ton? Welcome to SC! I live in Columbia and my RE/Reproductive Surgeon ( ) does a lot of referrals to ton. Darlene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 Jodi, I am a pathologist. I do forensics exclusively but I trained and am certified in anatomic and clinical pathology as well. I defer the legal questions to Gwen and maybe others who are also lawyers on the list. I know about the timeframe for filing and I seriously doubt that I will do that. I don't think I can emotionally relive all of this and I think that trying to prove a breech of standard of care will be difficult. I may write my butcher OBGYN a letter and send copies to her employer, the medical board here in our state and to the hospital administrator where she has privileges but I think that would probably be the extent of it. The main thing I want is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah, blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own. Sorry for venting but I am very stressed right now. We have just 18 days before the birth mothers due date and we are very, very nervous and stressed. Our attorney told us that during the last month or so family members come out of the woodwork trying to talk these ladies out of placing there children for adoption. In our case it's the birth mothers aunt! Please remember me and my dh in your prayers over the next month. We really need all the help we can get. I don't think I can survive another major disappointment in my life right now! G _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 Jodi, I am a pathologist. I do forensics exclusively but I trained and am certified in anatomic and clinical pathology as well. I defer the legal questions to Gwen and maybe others who are also lawyers on the list. I know about the timeframe for filing and I seriously doubt that I will do that. I don't think I can emotionally relive all of this and I think that trying to prove a breech of standard of care will be difficult. I may write my butcher OBGYN a letter and send copies to her employer, the medical board here in our state and to the hospital administrator where she has privileges but I think that would probably be the extent of it. The main thing I want is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah, blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own. Sorry for venting but I am very stressed right now. We have just 18 days before the birth mothers due date and we are very, very nervous and stressed. Our attorney told us that during the last month or so family members come out of the woodwork trying to talk these ladies out of placing there children for adoption. In our case it's the birth mothers aunt! Please remember me and my dh in your prayers over the next month. We really need all the help we can get. I don't think I can survive another major disappointment in my life right now! G _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 , I will keep you and your DH in my prayers for a smooth and uncomplicated adoption. I know how anxious you are feeling at this point. This is one reason I am hesitant to pursue the adoption I mentioned a few days ago. At this point I have been through so many roller coaster rides that I think I may be overprotecting myself. But if you don't take the risk, there is nothing to be gained, right? Hang in there. Lee Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 G, I just want you to know that our prayers are with you. We will be waiting anxiously with you and we will be there no matter how it turns out. I will hope for the best that the birth Mother sticks to her decision. Take care, this must be terribly stressful for you. PS. I wasn't told about any risk of infertility either. Had I known, I would have called my RE immediately and not done a thing without his guidance. Then I would have gone in to his office within a few weeks of the D & C (I had to have one since I was hemorrhaging) to have a sonohystogram or even considered a course of estrogen even though I may have had to forgo nursing. Anyway, the point is that I would have made different decisions had this butcher told me the risks! And I know deep in my heart he scraped too hard, I had a feeling about him from remarks he made about my C-section scar (which is small and pretty) that he wasn't a good surgeon. He was too impressed with a small scar and I thought to myself...hmmm remind me never to get a C-section with this guy! Well he showed me how good is he, even my RE has now admited that my Ashermans was a result of an aggressive D & C. But I'm with you, I think it's too difficult to prove in court and it's not worth it. That's why I am funneling my efforts into educating and prevention. you wrote... The main thing I want is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah, blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 G, I just want you to know that our prayers are with you. We will be waiting anxiously with you and we will be there no matter how it turns out. I will hope for the best that the birth Mother sticks to her decision. Take care, this must be terribly stressful for you. PS. I wasn't told about any risk of infertility either. Had I known, I would have called my RE immediately and not done a thing without his guidance. Then I would have gone in to his office within a few weeks of the D & C (I had to have one since I was hemorrhaging) to have a sonohystogram or even considered a course of estrogen even though I may have had to forgo nursing. Anyway, the point is that I would have made different decisions had this butcher told me the risks! And I know deep in my heart he scraped too hard, I had a feeling about him from remarks he made about my C-section scar (which is small and pretty) that he wasn't a good surgeon. He was too impressed with a small scar and I thought to myself...hmmm remind me never to get a C-section with this guy! Well he showed me how good is he, even my RE has now admited that my Ashermans was a result of an aggressive D & C. But I'm with you, I think it's too difficult to prove in court and it's not worth it. That's why I am funneling my efforts into educating and prevention. you wrote... The main thing I want is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah, blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 G, I just want you to know that our prayers are with you. We will be waiting anxiously with you and we will be there no matter how it turns out. I will hope for the best that the birth Mother sticks to her decision. Take care, this must be terribly stressful for you. PS. I wasn't told about any risk of infertility either. Had I known, I would have called my RE immediately and not done a thing without his guidance. Then I would have gone in to his office within a few weeks of the D & C (I had to have one since I was hemorrhaging) to have a sonohystogram or even considered a course of estrogen even though I may have had to forgo nursing. Anyway, the point is that I would have made different decisions had this butcher told me the risks! And I know deep in my heart he scraped too hard, I had a feeling about him from remarks he made about my C-section scar (which is small and pretty) that he wasn't a good surgeon. He was too impressed with a small scar and I thought to myself...hmmm remind me never to get a C-section with this guy! Well he showed me how good is he, even my RE has now admited that my Ashermans was a result of an aggressive D & C. But I'm with you, I think it's too difficult to prove in court and it's not worth it. That's why I am funneling my efforts into educating and prevention. you wrote... The main thing I want is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah, blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2001 Report Share Posted May 10, 2001 , I will pray for you! I'm sorry to hear about the aunt, but don't give up hope. I'm sure families try to talk birth mothers out of adoption in a lot of cases and they still go through with it. That damn aunt! I can understand how this would be a nerve-wrecking experience, just wanting those 18 days to get over! keep venting if you'd like, I'll try to always be optimistic for you. I always think God is looking out for us and there is a reason for everything. Sometimes I really don't understand His reasons, but I know they are for the best. Sometimes I really struggle to figure it out, but.....if you'd like to keep writing I'll be happy to listen (read) and be very happy for you when you bring this baby home! Jodi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2001 Report Share Posted May 10, 2001 Thanks for the kind words. I really need them right now! G _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 Great!! Welcome Beth!! ~~ Thanks It worked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 Hi , Where do I go to keep track of my measurements? Thanks, Tawanna -----Original Message-----From: Zotz Sent: Monday, July 16, 2001 2:27 PMTo: wwliterside Subject: Re: Thanks Great!! Welcome Beth!! ~~ Thanks It worked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 Hi , Where do I go to keep track of my measurements? Thanks, Tawanna -----Original Message-----From: Zotz Sent: Monday, July 16, 2001 2:27 PMTo: wwliterside Subject: Re: Thanks Great!! Welcome Beth!! ~~ Thanks It worked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 Hi , Where do I go to keep track of my measurements? Thanks, Tawanna -----Original Message-----From: Zotz Sent: Monday, July 16, 2001 2:27 PMTo: wwliterside Subject: Re: Thanks Great!! Welcome Beth!! ~~ Thanks It worked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 Hi , Never mind I found it!!!! Thanks Tawanna [ Hart] -----Original Message-----From: Zotz Sent: Monday, July 16, 2001 2:27 PMTo: wwliterside Subject: Re: Thanks Great!! Welcome Beth!! ~~ Thanks It worked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 Hi , Never mind I found it!!!! Thanks Tawanna [ Hart] -----Original Message-----From: Zotz Sent: Monday, July 16, 2001 2:27 PMTo: wwliterside Subject: Re: Thanks Great!! Welcome Beth!! ~~ Thanks It worked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 Hi , Never mind I found it!!!! Thanks Tawanna [ Hart] -----Original Message-----From: Zotz Sent: Monday, July 16, 2001 2:27 PMTo: wwliterside Subject: Re: Thanks Great!! Welcome Beth!! ~~ Thanks It worked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2001 Report Share Posted September 7, 2001 We love you, . And I/we have missed you greatly. I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost three myself and one right before I joined your group. This last one was really hard because it was after I had two beautiful little angels and knew exactly what I was losing. :-[ If you need to talk, we're here. If you need uplifting, we're here. I hope I didn't bring it all back up to the top, but it is good to cry and relieve some of the stress and tension. I will be praying for you and your family. I felt the same way about food afterwards. I was pretty depressed and didn't even feel hungry or like eating. I was really upset wondering if it was something I did, etc. (Please, don't blame yourself.) I would go until my body was screaming inside for food and outwardedly I wouldn't even know it. And of course, after I actually took a bite, I would eat the house down and not even care to stop then. Just remember, however you get through this is fine and when you're able to cope with adding in these food concerns, then you will. With love, > Thanks everyone (again!) for the thoughts and prayers. I'm feeling better today, though I have some cramping. I've been on the WW website today... I haven't been there in weeks!! > > My hubby is staying home to work this week in case I need help with the girls. I'm finding it difficult to eat during the day then all I want to do is eat at night. I know this is just emotional eating right now - I hope I can get control of it soon. > > I want you all to know how much you mean to me. I'm so glad I have people I can lean on - thank you for being here :-) > ~~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2002 Report Share Posted January 14, 2002 Hello amarezing@..., In reference to your comment: ð I guess I won't be able to utilize my friend's pills after ð all.. Mare, i'd discuss this with your dr, but if i were you, and i wanted to use them i would, you would just need to change your dosing slightly, but talk to the dr, and it would probably be ok'd, I know that my dr would work with me on this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2002 Report Share Posted January 14, 2002 Thanks, . This doctor is new to me, so I don't feel totally comfortable with him yet. But, I guess this is a way to see how he is. Maybe I will ask him. I sure would like to save the money. Thanks again. Mare Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2002 Report Share Posted January 14, 2002 Thanks, . This doctor is new to me, so I don't feel totally comfortable with him yet. But, I guess this is a way to see how he is. Maybe I will ask him. I sure would like to save the money. Thanks again. Mare Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2002 Report Share Posted January 14, 2002 Thanks, . This doctor is new to me, so I don't feel totally comfortable with him yet. But, I guess this is a way to see how he is. Maybe I will ask him. I sure would like to save the money. Thanks again. Mare Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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