Thanks

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Judith,

Thanks, and yes I manage to get on with my life somehow. But, I am so tired all the time. I guess this is a good sign. I don't know how we manage to go through all the hard ship we are going through and maintain regular lives. And I don't know how women in general get through their first trimester with a little one around. I am high risk pregnancy and I am not suppose to lift anything over 5 pounds...yeah right. Try taking care of an 18 month old and taking it easy and working part time. Just doesn't work.

Good luck to you in New Zealand, let us know how it goes! We will be thinking of you!

[Guest guest]

Judith,

Thanks, and yes I manage to get on with my life somehow. But, I am so tired all the time. I guess this is a good sign. I don't know how we manage to go through all the hard ship we are going through and maintain regular lives. And I don't know how women in general get through their first trimester with a little one around. I am high risk pregnancy and I am not suppose to lift anything over 5 pounds...yeah right. Try taking care of an 18 month old and taking it easy and working part time. Just doesn't work.

Good luck to you in New Zealand, let us know how it goes! We will be thinking of you!

[Guest guest]

Robin,

Aren't you the one who is having IVF in the Southeastern Clinic in ton?

Welcome to SC! I live in Columbia and my RE/Reproductive Surgeon ( )

does a lot of referrals to ton.

Darlene

[Guest guest]

Robin,

Aren't you the one who is having IVF in the Southeastern Clinic in ton?

Welcome to SC! I live in Columbia and my RE/Reproductive Surgeon ( )

does a lot of referrals to ton.

Darlene

[Guest guest]

Robin,

Aren't you the one who is having IVF in the Southeastern Clinic in ton?

Welcome to SC! I live in Columbia and my RE/Reproductive Surgeon ( )

does a lot of referrals to ton.

Darlene

[Guest guest]

Jodi,

I am a pathologist. I do forensics exclusively but I trained and am

certified in anatomic and clinical pathology as well. I defer the legal

questions to Gwen and maybe others who are also lawyers on the list. I know

about the timeframe for filing and I seriously doubt that I will do that. I

don't think I can emotionally relive all of this and I think that trying to

prove a breech of standard of care will be difficult. I may write my

butcher OBGYN a letter and send copies to her employer, the medical board

here in our state and to the hospital administrator where she has privileges

but I think that would probably be the extent of it. The main thing I want

is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women

need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't

give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah,

blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me

decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own. Sorry

for venting but I am very stressed right now. We have just 18 days before

the birth mothers due date and we are very, very nervous and stressed. Our

attorney told us that during the last month or so family members come out of

the woodwork trying to talk these ladies out of placing there children for

adoption. In our case it's the birth mothers aunt! Please remember me and

my dh in your prayers over the next month. We really need all the help we

can get. I don't think I can survive another major disappointment in my

life right now!

G

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[Guest guest]

Jodi,

I am a pathologist. I do forensics exclusively but I trained and am

certified in anatomic and clinical pathology as well. I defer the legal

questions to Gwen and maybe others who are also lawyers on the list. I know

about the timeframe for filing and I seriously doubt that I will do that. I

don't think I can emotionally relive all of this and I think that trying to

prove a breech of standard of care will be difficult. I may write my

butcher OBGYN a letter and send copies to her employer, the medical board

here in our state and to the hospital administrator where she has privileges

but I think that would probably be the extent of it. The main thing I want

is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women

need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't

give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah,

blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me

decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own. Sorry

for venting but I am very stressed right now. We have just 18 days before

the birth mothers due date and we are very, very nervous and stressed. Our

attorney told us that during the last month or so family members come out of

the woodwork trying to talk these ladies out of placing there children for

adoption. In our case it's the birth mothers aunt! Please remember me and

my dh in your prayers over the next month. We really need all the help we

can get. I don't think I can survive another major disappointment in my

life right now!

G

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[Guest guest]

,

I will keep you and your DH in my prayers for a smooth and

uncomplicated adoption. I know how anxious you are feeling at this

point. This is one reason I am hesitant to pursue the adoption I

mentioned a few days ago. At this point I have been through so many

roller coaster rides that I think I may be overprotecting myself.

But if you don't take the risk, there is nothing to be gained,

right? Hang in there.

Lee Ann

[Guest guest]

G,

I just want you to know that our prayers are with you. We will be waiting anxiously with you and we will be there no matter how it turns out. I will hope for the best that the birth Mother sticks to her decision. Take care, this must be terribly stressful for you.

PS. I wasn't told about any risk of infertility either. Had I known, I would have called my RE immediately and not done a thing without his guidance. Then I would have gone in to his office within a few weeks of the D & C (I had to have one since I was hemorrhaging) to have a sonohystogram or even considered a course of estrogen even though I may have had to forgo nursing. Anyway, the point is that I would have made different decisions had this butcher told me the risks! And I know deep in my heart he scraped too hard, I had a feeling about him from remarks he made about my C-section scar (which is small and pretty) that he wasn't a good surgeon. He was too impressed with a small scar and I thought to myself...hmmm remind me never to get a C-section with this guy! Well he showed me how good is he, even my RE has now admited that my Ashermans was a result of an aggressive D & C.

But I'm with you, I think it's too difficult to prove in court and it's not worth it. That's why I am funneling my efforts into educating and prevention.

you wrote...

The main thing I want is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah, blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own.

[Guest guest]

G,

I just want you to know that our prayers are with you. We will be waiting anxiously with you and we will be there no matter how it turns out. I will hope for the best that the birth Mother sticks to her decision. Take care, this must be terribly stressful for you.

PS. I wasn't told about any risk of infertility either. Had I known, I would have called my RE immediately and not done a thing without his guidance. Then I would have gone in to his office within a few weeks of the D & C (I had to have one since I was hemorrhaging) to have a sonohystogram or even considered a course of estrogen even though I may have had to forgo nursing. Anyway, the point is that I would have made different decisions had this butcher told me the risks! And I know deep in my heart he scraped too hard, I had a feeling about him from remarks he made about my C-section scar (which is small and pretty) that he wasn't a good surgeon. He was too impressed with a small scar and I thought to myself...hmmm remind me never to get a C-section with this guy! Well he showed me how good is he, even my RE has now admited that my Ashermans was a result of an aggressive D & C.

But I'm with you, I think it's too difficult to prove in court and it's not worth it. That's why I am funneling my efforts into educating and prevention.

you wrote...

The main thing I want is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah, blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own.

[Guest guest]

G,

I just want you to know that our prayers are with you. We will be waiting anxiously with you and we will be there no matter how it turns out. I will hope for the best that the birth Mother sticks to her decision. Take care, this must be terribly stressful for you.

PS. I wasn't told about any risk of infertility either. Had I known, I would have called my RE immediately and not done a thing without his guidance. Then I would have gone in to his office within a few weeks of the D & C (I had to have one since I was hemorrhaging) to have a sonohystogram or even considered a course of estrogen even though I may have had to forgo nursing. Anyway, the point is that I would have made different decisions had this butcher told me the risks! And I know deep in my heart he scraped too hard, I had a feeling about him from remarks he made about my C-section scar (which is small and pretty) that he wasn't a good surgeon. He was too impressed with a small scar and I thought to myself...hmmm remind me never to get a C-section with this guy! Well he showed me how good is he, even my RE has now admited that my Ashermans was a result of an aggressive D & C.

But I'm with you, I think it's too difficult to prove in court and it's not worth it. That's why I am funneling my efforts into educating and prevention.

you wrote...

The main thing I want is to prevent her from doing this to anyone else. I also think that women need to be informed before these procedures of the potential risks. Don't give me the usual risks such as bleeding, infection, death.....blah, blah, blah.... just tell me that there is a chance of infertility and let me decide if I want to do it or if I want to try and pass it on my own.

[Guest guest]

,

I will pray for you! I'm sorry to hear about the aunt, but don't give up

hope. I'm sure families try to talk birth mothers out of adoption in a

lot of cases and they still go through with it. That damn aunt! I

can understand how this would be a nerve-wrecking experience, just

wanting those 18 days to get over!

keep venting if you'd like, I'll try to always be optimistic for you. I

always think God is looking out for us and there is a reason for

everything. Sometimes I really don't understand His reasons, but I know

they are for the best. Sometimes I really struggle to figure it out,

but.....if you'd like to keep writing I'll be happy to listen (read) and

be very happy for you when you bring this baby home!

Jodi

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the kind words. I really need them right now!

G

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Great!! Welcome Beth!!

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Thanks

It worked.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Where do I go to keep track of my measurements?

Thanks,

Tawanna

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Where do I go to keep track of my measurements?

Thanks,

Tawanna

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Where do I go to keep track of my measurements?

Thanks,

Tawanna

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Never mind I found it!!!!

Thanks

Tawanna

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Never mind I found it!!!!

Thanks

Tawanna

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Never mind I found it!!!!

Thanks

Tawanna

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[Guest guest]

We love you, . And I/we have missed you greatly. I am so sorry

for your loss. I have lost three myself and one right before I

joined your group. This last one was really hard because it was

after I had two beautiful little angels and knew exactly what I was

losing. :-[

If you need to talk, we're here. If you need uplifting, we're here.

I hope I didn't bring it all back up to the top, but it is good to

cry and relieve some of the stress and tension. I will be praying

for you and your family.

I felt the same way about food afterwards. I was pretty depressed

and didn't even feel hungry or like eating. I was really upset

wondering if it was something I did, etc. (Please, don't blame

yourself.) I would go until my body was screaming inside for food

and outwardedly I wouldn't even know it. And of course, after I

actually took a bite, I would eat the house down and not even care to

stop then. Just remember, however you get through this is fine and

when you're able to cope with adding in these food concerns, then you

will.

With love,

> Thanks everyone (again!) for the thoughts and prayers. I'm feeling

better today, though I have some cramping. I've been on the WW

website today... I haven't been there in weeks!!

>

> My hubby is staying home to work this week in case I need help with

the girls. I'm finding it difficult to eat during the day then all I

want to do is eat at night. I know this is just emotional eating

right now - I hope I can get control of it soon.

>

> I want you all to know how much you mean to me. I'm so glad I have

people I can lean on - thank you for being here :-)

> ~~

[Guest guest]

Hello amarezing@...,

In reference to your comment:

ð I guess I won't be able to utilize my friend's pills after

ð all..

Mare, i'd discuss this with your dr, but if i were you, and i wanted to use

them i would, you would just need to change your dosing slightly, but talk to

the dr, and it would probably be ok'd, I know that my dr would work with me

on this.

[Guest guest]

Thanks, . This doctor is new to me, so I don't feel totally

comfortable with him yet. But, I guess this is a way to see how he is.

Maybe I will ask him. I sure would like to save the money.

Thanks again.

Mare

[Guest guest]

Thanks, . This doctor is new to me, so I don't feel totally

comfortable with him yet. But, I guess this is a way to see how he is.

Maybe I will ask him. I sure would like to save the money.

Thanks again.

Mare

[Guest guest]

Thanks, . This doctor is new to me, so I don't feel totally

comfortable with him yet. But, I guess this is a way to see how he is.

Maybe I will ask him. I sure would like to save the money.

Thanks again.

Mare