Guest guest Posted February 12, 2012 Report Share Posted February 12, 2012 anyone have any hints how to get my wife (Kay) into my SUV. her rear is lower than the seat and she doesn't help by pulling the handle up top or using her legs to climb in. getting her to stand isn't that easy anymore either. I build a box ( 4 " ) for her but she still can't do it. i'm not buying a new car. can i get her in the back seat by going head first and pulling her in like a sack of potatoes from the other end.? LBD sucks......gary Subject: Re: My mom, Olivia, passed away To: " LBDcaregivers " <LBDcaregivers > Date: Sunday, February 12, 2012, 2:55 PM  Courage, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I rejoice that your mother no longer has to struggle with LBD, but understand the pain of losing a loved one. Courage, you were on this site when I first appeared in 2003 with my woes of coping with LBD and my husband's behaviors. Your suggestions and advice helped me through the hard times and helped me make decisions on what path to take for Jim's and my well-being. Thank you for being here! Your mother was truly fortunate in having you for a daughter to help her with the struggles of this dreaded disease. I am glad that your daughter could be with her grandmother at the end. My condolences to all of you. Peace be with you. It is time for you now Courage. Take Care, Jan Colello  ________________________________ To: LBDcaregivers Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 9:47 AM Subject: My mom, Olivia, passed away My mom passed away peacefully a little before 6:30 this morning, exactly 2 months shy of her 76th birthday. I missed her passing by a few minutes and I feel badly about that. Thankfully my daughter (her first grand-child) was with her and mom loved her grand-daughter best of all. I’m so very proud of my daughter for being there for her beloved grand-mother. We are all heartbroken, of course, and I’m left here wondering why my poor mother had to suffer from this disease and for so long. LBD may have gotten my mom but she made LBD wait. Mom was one tough cookie and put up a good fight. I’m so grateful that her passing was peaceful and that LBD can’t have her anymore. I want to thank you all so very much for your support – it means so much to me. Courage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2012 Report Share Posted February 12, 2012 anyone have any hints how to get my wife (Kay) into my SUV. her rear is lower than the seat and she doesn't help by pulling the handle up top or using her legs to climb in. getting her to stand isn't that easy anymore either. I build a box ( 4 " ) for her but she still can't do it. i'm not buying a new car. can i get her in the back seat by going head first and pulling her in like a sack of potatoes from the other end.? LBD sucks......gary Subject: Re: My mom, Olivia, passed away To: " LBDcaregivers " <LBDcaregivers > Date: Sunday, February 12, 2012, 2:55 PM  Courage, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I rejoice that your mother no longer has to struggle with LBD, but understand the pain of losing a loved one. Courage, you were on this site when I first appeared in 2003 with my woes of coping with LBD and my husband's behaviors. Your suggestions and advice helped me through the hard times and helped me make decisions on what path to take for Jim's and my well-being. Thank you for being here! Your mother was truly fortunate in having you for a daughter to help her with the struggles of this dreaded disease. I am glad that your daughter could be with her grandmother at the end. My condolences to all of you. Peace be with you. It is time for you now Courage. Take Care, Jan Colello  ________________________________ To: LBDcaregivers Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 9:47 AM Subject: My mom, Olivia, passed away My mom passed away peacefully a little before 6:30 this morning, exactly 2 months shy of her 76th birthday. I missed her passing by a few minutes and I feel badly about that. Thankfully my daughter (her first grand-child) was with her and mom loved her grand-daughter best of all. I’m so very proud of my daughter for being there for her beloved grand-mother. We are all heartbroken, of course, and I’m left here wondering why my poor mother had to suffer from this disease and for so long. LBD may have gotten my mom but she made LBD wait. Mom was one tough cookie and put up a good fight. I’m so grateful that her passing was peaceful and that LBD can’t have her anymore. I want to thank you all so very much for your support – it means so much to me. Courage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2012 Report Share Posted February 12, 2012 , I'd recommend asking your MD to write an RX for either a PT or OT evaluation, which would include instruction on getting safely into and out of a vehicle. Robin > > anyone have any hints how to get my wife (Kay) into my SUV. her rear is lower than the seat and she doesn't help by pulling the handle up top or using her legs to climb in. getting her to stand isn't that easy anymore either. I build a box ( 4 " ) for her but she still can't do it. > i'm not buying a new car. can i get her in the back seat by going head first and pulling her in like a sack of potatoes from the other end.? LBD sucks......gary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2012 Report Share Posted February 12, 2012 This is how we did it with my mil: -Step up on wood box about 6 " - 8 " high -Step up to front passenger seat (door open) -Back up to seat, getting rear end pressing against it (at this point if you can get at least part of rear on seat it really helps) -Reach up overhead and grasp the handle grip on the overhead firmly to steady oneself and help with getting in -Lift left foot and leg and place inside vehicle on floor on front of seat At this point she should be pivoted I. The seat with one foot on the floorboard holding firmly to the grip overhead. Then if she is strong enough she can wiggle over on the seat using her overhead grip and legs to help. If she cannot do this herself you can assist and hopefully she can help some. - Dorothy from cell phone > anyone have any hints how to get my wife (Kay) into my SUV. her rear is lower than the seat and she doesn't help by pulling the handle up top or using her legs to climb in. getting her to stand isn't that easy anymore either. I build a box ( 4 " ) for her but she still can't do it. > i'm not buying a new car. can i get her in the back seat by going head first and pulling her in like a sack of potatoes from the other end.? LBD sucks......gary > > > > Subject: Re: My mom, Olivia, passed away > To: " LBDcaregivers " <LBDcaregivers > > Date: Sunday, February 12, 2012, 2:55 PM > > > > Courage, > My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. > I rejoice that your mother no longer has to struggle with LBD, but understand the pain of losing a loved one. > Courage, you were on this site when I first appeared in 2003 with my woes of coping with LBD and my husband's behaviors. Your suggestions and advice helped me through the hard times and helped me make decisions on what path to take for Jim's and my well-being. Thank you for being here! > Your mother was truly fortunate in having you for a daughter to help her with the struggles of this dreaded disease. I am glad that your daughter could be with her grandmother at the end. > My condolences to all of you. Peace be with you. > It is time for you now Courage. > Take Care, > Jan Colello > > > ________________________________ > > To: LBDcaregivers > Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 9:47 AM > Subject: My mom, Olivia, passed away > > My mom passed away peacefully a little before 6:30 this morning, exactly 2 months shy of her 76th birthday. I missed her passing by a few minutes and I feel badly about that. Thankfully my daughter (her first grand-child) was with her and mom loved her grand-daughter best of all. I’m so very proud of my daughter for being there for her beloved grand-mother. > > We are all heartbroken, of course, and I’m left here wondering why my poor mother had to suffer from this disease and for so long. LBD may have gotten my mom but she made LBD wait. Mom was one tough cookie and put up a good fight. I’m so grateful that her passing was peaceful and that LBD can’t have her anymore. > > I want to thank you all so very much for your support – it means so much to me. > Courage > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2012 Report Share Posted February 12, 2012 This is how we did it with my mil: -Step up on wood box about 6 " - 8 " high -Step up to front passenger seat (door open) -Back up to seat, getting rear end pressing against it (at this point if you can get at least part of rear on seat it really helps) -Reach up overhead and grasp the handle grip on the overhead firmly to steady oneself and help with getting in -Lift left foot and leg and place inside vehicle on floor on front of seat At this point she should be pivoted I. The seat with one foot on the floorboard holding firmly to the grip overhead. Then if she is strong enough she can wiggle over on the seat using her overhead grip and legs to help. If she cannot do this herself you can assist and hopefully she can help some. - Dorothy from cell phone > anyone have any hints how to get my wife (Kay) into my SUV. her rear is lower than the seat and she doesn't help by pulling the handle up top or using her legs to climb in. getting her to stand isn't that easy anymore either. I build a box ( 4 " ) for her but she still can't do it. > i'm not buying a new car. can i get her in the back seat by going head first and pulling her in like a sack of potatoes from the other end.? LBD sucks......gary > > > > Subject: Re: My mom, Olivia, passed away > To: " LBDcaregivers " <LBDcaregivers > > Date: Sunday, February 12, 2012, 2:55 PM > > > > Courage, > My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. > I rejoice that your mother no longer has to struggle with LBD, but understand the pain of losing a loved one. > Courage, you were on this site when I first appeared in 2003 with my woes of coping with LBD and my husband's behaviors. Your suggestions and advice helped me through the hard times and helped me make decisions on what path to take for Jim's and my well-being. Thank you for being here! > Your mother was truly fortunate in having you for a daughter to help her with the struggles of this dreaded disease. I am glad that your daughter could be with her grandmother at the end. > My condolences to all of you. Peace be with you. > It is time for you now Courage. > Take Care, > Jan Colello > > > ________________________________ > > To: LBDcaregivers > Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 9:47 AM > Subject: My mom, Olivia, passed away > > My mom passed away peacefully a little before 6:30 this morning, exactly 2 months shy of her 76th birthday. I missed her passing by a few minutes and I feel badly about that. Thankfully my daughter (her first grand-child) was with her and mom loved her grand-daughter best of all. I’m so very proud of my daughter for being there for her beloved grand-mother. > > We are all heartbroken, of course, and I’m left here wondering why my poor mother had to suffer from this disease and for so long. LBD may have gotten my mom but she made LBD wait. Mom was one tough cookie and put up a good fight. I’m so grateful that her passing was peaceful and that LBD can’t have her anymore. > > I want to thank you all so very much for your support – it means so much to me. > Courage > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2012 Report Share Posted February 12, 2012 That is the best place to start . It was an OT who evaluated my mil and devised the method I tried to describe. - Dorothy from cell phone On Feb 12, 2012, at 3:59 PM, " rriddle_travel " wrote: > , > I'd recommend asking your MD to write an RX for either a PT or OT evaluation, which would include instruction on getting safely into and out of a vehicle. > Robin > > > > > > anyone have any hints how to get my wife (Kay) into my SUV. her rear is lower than the seat and she doesn't help by pulling the handle up top or using her legs to climb in. getting her to stand isn't that easy anymore either. I build a box ( 4 " ) for her but she still can't do it. > > i'm not buying a new car. can i get her in the back seat by going head first and pulling her in like a sack of potatoes from the other end.? LBD sucks......gary > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2012 Report Share Posted February 12, 2012 That is the best place to start . It was an OT who evaluated my mil and devised the method I tried to describe. - Dorothy from cell phone On Feb 12, 2012, at 3:59 PM, " rriddle_travel " wrote: > , > I'd recommend asking your MD to write an RX for either a PT or OT evaluation, which would include instruction on getting safely into and out of a vehicle. > Robin > > > > > > anyone have any hints how to get my wife (Kay) into my SUV. her rear is lower than the seat and she doesn't help by pulling the handle up top or using her legs to climb in. getting her to stand isn't that easy anymore either. I build a box ( 4 " ) for her but she still can't do it. > > i'm not buying a new car. can i get her in the back seat by going head first and pulling her in like a sack of potatoes from the other end.? LBD sucks......gary > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2012 Report Share Posted February 13, 2012 I had trouble with my hubby and cars but mine was opposite of yours. In the sedan, he had trouble bending enough to get into the car, so the car we bought was a Saturn Vue (smaller SUV). Those are more difficult for women than men generally, I would say--because of the shorter and legs. He was able to get in and out fairly easily until toward the end. I think the suggestion of Occupational therapy might help. You may have to get someone to help you lift her in and limit her trips. Or borrow someone else's car. But if she does not bend well, even the car closer to the ground might prove difficult as well. Good luck. Leona Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, 2009. I am handling it OK. 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't want to live without.' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2012 Report Share Posted February 13, 2012 I had trouble with my hubby and cars but mine was opposite of yours. In the sedan, he had trouble bending enough to get into the car, so the car we bought was a Saturn Vue (smaller SUV). Those are more difficult for women than men generally, I would say--because of the shorter and legs. He was able to get in and out fairly easily until toward the end. I think the suggestion of Occupational therapy might help. You may have to get someone to help you lift her in and limit her trips. Or borrow someone else's car. But if she does not bend well, even the car closer to the ground might prove difficult as well. Good luck. Leona Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, 2009. I am handling it OK. 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't want to live without.' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2012 Report Share Posted February 13, 2012 I had trouble with my hubby and cars but mine was opposite of yours. In the sedan, he had trouble bending enough to get into the car, so the car we bought was a Saturn Vue (smaller SUV). Those are more difficult for women than men generally, I would say--because of the shorter and legs. He was able to get in and out fairly easily until toward the end. I think the suggestion of Occupational therapy might help. You may have to get someone to help you lift her in and limit her trips. Or borrow someone else's car. But if she does not bend well, even the car closer to the ground might prove difficult as well. Good luck. Leona Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, 2009. I am handling it OK. 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't want to live without.' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2012 Report Share Posted February 14, 2012 : My daughter reminded me of something last night...At the nursing home, they had waist bands --very sturdy and about 3 inches wide. The staff used them to help move the patients around, let them down easily and assist them in getting up. We found them very useful and always brought them with us when we took him for an outing. Once you get them on the seat, you can go to the drivers side and pull them in with the belt. I think you could get one at a big drug store or a shop where you buy medical equipment--probably online too. The idea about the plastic bag sounds good and it would also work to protect the seat from spill accidents or urinary problems. Good luck. Leona Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, 2009. I am handling it OK. 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't want to live without.' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2012 Report Share Posted February 14, 2012 Those are very helpful for many purposes. The PT called them " gait belts " the funny thing was I already had two at home with the metal clasp we called them " yoga belts " . - Dorothy from cell phone > : My daughter reminded me of something last night...At the nursing > home, they had waist bands --very sturdy and about 3 inches wide. The staff > used them to help move the patients around, let them down easily and assist > them in getting up. We found them very useful and always brought them with > us when we took him for an outing. Once you get them on the seat, you can go > to the drivers side and pull them in with the belt. I think you could get > one at a big drug store or a shop where you buy medical equipment--probably > online too. > > The idea about the plastic bag sounds good and it would also work to protect > the seat from spill accidents or urinary problems. Good luck. Leona > > Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's > Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill > slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing > Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have > ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in > Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, > 2009. I am handling it OK. > > 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't > want to live without.' > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2012 Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 That makes sense--they call them " gait " belts. I was thinking " gate " belts and couldn't figure why they would call them that so I didn't include the name. Anyway, the are very helpful to steady the patient and help them move wherever. Leona Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, 2009. I am handling it OK. 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't want to live without.' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2012 Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 That makes sense--they call them " gait " belts. I was thinking " gate " belts and couldn't figure why they would call them that so I didn't include the name. Anyway, the are very helpful to steady the patient and help them move wherever. Leona Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, 2009. I am handling it OK. 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't want to live without.' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2012 Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 They sure are handy Leona - we used them when taking walks, doing exercises, moving about the house, in and out of cars , doctor offices, and transfers. Twice my mil sort of collapsed on her stuck legs and I was able to use my hold on the belt to guide her fall - like controlling a crash landing which sounds strange but neither of us got hurt. I insisted it be used by all especially after one of her early caregivers grabbed her arm trying to keep her from falling and wrenched it do bad we needed X-rays to be sure nothing was broken. There was an evolution in its usefulness as well as her illness progressed - initially it was insurance in case she needed steadying near the end it gave us all something to grasp to move her without hurting her. One of the handiest things in her care and I had one in the car and in her travel bag bath and bedroom and one looped on her wheelchair to keep handy. - Dorothy from cell phone > > That makes sense--they call them " gait " belts. I was thinking " gate " belts > and couldn't figure why they would call them that so I didn't include the > name. Anyway, the are very helpful to steady the patient and help them move > wherever. Leona > > Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's > Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill > slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing > Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have > ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in > Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, > 2009. I am handling it OK. > > 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't > want to live without.' > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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