Re: Dad's in a nursing home

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the discussion, friends. If we did want to observe him, we would

have to supply the idea, equipment, get permission, etc. (No, I don't see a way

in which we could observe and not be seen.) The idea of asking for photos or

videos of him through the day is fun. I might be able to get that simply by

establishing a relationship with the regular staff and aides,etc. We'll think

about that. Cute idea, really, also for my mom and for distant siblings of

mine.

I used email successfully, once, to get some attention to his adjustment issues

and his meds adjusted. Now I've used email again, to initiate some sort of

conversation regarding the care plan they would have developed for him this

week. I'm hopeful that it is again an efficient mode of communication. I don't

mind dropping in at different times of the week and day, but I don't like

calling at random times and taking my chances on someone worthwhile having the

time for a phone chat. That seems like it would be an intrusion on the day if I

were in their shoes...Thanks again, Ida

[Guest guest]

Hi Ida,

Once you put things in writing, then they have to be responsive to your

concerns. I've found email to be very useful - I used to call a house call

program when certain things didn't happen for my Mom that were supposed to, and

this left a paper trail. Things often started to happen quickly after that...

It's also good that you pop in at different times during the day for a visit...

keeps the staff on their toes.

You might want to consider some kind of nannycam to keep in his room... this

way you can monitor how often staff comes in and how they interact.

Good luck moving forward!

Helene in NY

(Mom 78, 12 years with LBD, now late stage at home in the Bronx)

>

>

> Thanks for the discussion, friends. If we did want to observe him, we would

have to supply the idea, equipment, get permission, etc. (No, I don't see a way

in which we could observe and not be seen.) The idea of asking for photos or

videos of him through the day is fun. I might be able to get that simply by

establishing a relationship with the regular staff and aides,etc. We'll think

about that. Cute idea, really, also for my mom and for distant siblings of

mine.

>

> I used email successfully, once, to get some attention to his adjustment

issues and his meds adjusted. Now I've used email again, to initiate some sort

of conversation regarding the care plan they would have developed for him this

week. I'm hopeful that it is again an efficient mode of communication. I don't

mind dropping in at different times of the week and day, but I don't like

calling at random times and taking my chances on someone worthwhile having the

time for a phone chat. That seems like it would be an intrusion on the day if I

were in their shoes...Thanks again, Ida

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Ida,

Once you put things in writing, then they have to be responsive to your

concerns. I've found email to be very useful - I used to call a house call

program when certain things didn't happen for my Mom that were supposed to, and

this left a paper trail. Things often started to happen quickly after that...

It's also good that you pop in at different times during the day for a visit...

keeps the staff on their toes.

You might want to consider some kind of nannycam to keep in his room... this

way you can monitor how often staff comes in and how they interact.

Good luck moving forward!

Helene in NY

(Mom 78, 12 years with LBD, now late stage at home in the Bronx)

>

>

> Thanks for the discussion, friends. If we did want to observe him, we would

have to supply the idea, equipment, get permission, etc. (No, I don't see a way

in which we could observe and not be seen.) The idea of asking for photos or

videos of him through the day is fun. I might be able to get that simply by

establishing a relationship with the regular staff and aides,etc. We'll think

about that. Cute idea, really, also for my mom and for distant siblings of

mine.

>

> I used email successfully, once, to get some attention to his adjustment

issues and his meds adjusted. Now I've used email again, to initiate some sort

of conversation regarding the care plan they would have developed for him this

week. I'm hopeful that it is again an efficient mode of communication. I don't

mind dropping in at different times of the week and day, but I don't like

calling at random times and taking my chances on someone worthwhile having the

time for a phone chat. That seems like it would be an intrusion on the day if I

were in their shoes...Thanks again, Ida

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Ida,

Once you put things in writing, then they have to be responsive to your

concerns. I've found email to be very useful - I used to call a house call

program when certain things didn't happen for my Mom that were supposed to, and

this left a paper trail. Things often started to happen quickly after that...

It's also good that you pop in at different times during the day for a visit...

keeps the staff on their toes.

You might want to consider some kind of nannycam to keep in his room... this

way you can monitor how often staff comes in and how they interact.

Good luck moving forward!

Helene in NY

(Mom 78, 12 years with LBD, now late stage at home in the Bronx)

>

>

> Thanks for the discussion, friends. If we did want to observe him, we would

have to supply the idea, equipment, get permission, etc. (No, I don't see a way

in which we could observe and not be seen.) The idea of asking for photos or

videos of him through the day is fun. I might be able to get that simply by

establishing a relationship with the regular staff and aides,etc. We'll think

about that. Cute idea, really, also for my mom and for distant siblings of

mine.

>

> I used email successfully, once, to get some attention to his adjustment

issues and his meds adjusted. Now I've used email again, to initiate some sort

of conversation regarding the care plan they would have developed for him this

week. I'm hopeful that it is again an efficient mode of communication. I don't

mind dropping in at different times of the week and day, but I don't like

calling at random times and taking my chances on someone worthwhile having the

time for a phone chat. That seems like it would be an intrusion on the day if I

were in their shoes...Thanks again, Ida

>