update

[Guest guest]

Well I have been so busy since last Monday. and I went to the

Urologist/surgeon on Monday and discussed his biopsy results and what

was his best option. The surgeon reasured and I that he would

never do surgery unless there is a good reason to put the patient

through it and all the side effects. He was very soft spoken and I

had a good vibe from him right from the minute he introduced himself

to me and . He then said that this was an imformative

appointment and there was no need to make a date for surgery. That

usually his patients make a date in 2 weeks to discuss what to do.

He gave us alot of infor most that we already knew.

The good thing was he had been doing this for 30+ years but at

38 was the youngest he had seen. The other was 41. He told us that

in his expereince he has seen s scores and family history on

other patients and 85% of the time there is more cancer then the

biopsy showed. And that he suspects that had more. He went

into saying that his was a medium (moderate not slow) growing cancer.

He went into detail on surgery and what his possible outcome would

be. Told him about having a catheter for 2 weeks after being

released form the hospital, and that after when the catheter comes

out he will HAVE incontance, so to bring a breif of some sort. He

then discussed penial rehab and told him that he had a patient go

home after the catheter was removed and have sex that night. He told

Brina with his age and stanaima, he will have little to no problems

with erections or holding his bladder. That he exstimates full

recovery in less then a year maybe 3 months. Also he does open

surgery but at the same time nerve sparing. And he will be in the

hospital for 3-5 days.

Well anyways to my surprise at the end of it all said, " I want

to book the surgery. We have looked up info on the net, in books and

watched videos. We have also talked to other ppl. There is no more

to really learn or study. I just want the surgery to have the relief

that it is gone, even though there is no guarentee it will not come

back. I just want to go on with life and the prostate cancer is

eating away at me and my wife's gut/brian. Could we please book a

date? "

At that point the Dr said sure, as long as he was definatly positve

that that is what " WE " want? said YES.

SO signed a concent form and we got the date on tuesday.

He is having surgery January 9th, 2009 at 7am. And we hope he will

be home by sunday or Tuesday at the latest.

So there we have it. is getting more and more worried as the

day gets closer but, he says " I just cannot let it stay in there and

grow. " Sometimes he is sensitive and it does not matter what I say

it is wrong but, when that happens I just walk away and tell him " I

know you are not mad or meaning to be like this toward me. I know it

is just your emotions escaping but, I think you need time to sort

things a bit. After which you can come and we can talk. I love you "

Then I leave him alone and he always finds me and grabs me tight and

usually cries and tells me he is just scared. I tell him I

understand. That I am scared to.

I am scared that things will go wrong and will say, " I did this

for you and now look at me. " That is a fear I have. That he is

doing it for me. I have talked to and he has said that if he

did not want the surgery he would not do it, that he thinks it is

best for him and the family.

Anyways there it is. An update.

~Marla~