ProstateCancerSupport] SIBLINGS!!!

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Marla:

You go Girl! As we discussed on the phone, is going through what all of us who had prostrate cancer. I sure his sister is concerned. But you are so right you are his wife. And right now the important ones to consider is , Yourself and your children. Sounds like is dealing with everything great. I felt the same as , lets get it out. As I said five years and last checkup 0 non detectable. Bottom line you have to do what is best for you and your family. You have made the right decision in the visitor situation at the Hospital. Tell the most important thing is get moving as soon as he can. The sooner you get moving the better. Or as they said when I was at Lackland AFB, TX., if you get out of the hosp you have to walk out of there.

God Bless Ya'll ( I know you get a kick out of this word)

Subject: SIBLINGS!!!To: ProstateCancerSupport Date: Wednesday, December 10, 2008, 11:16 AM

well my last post was about the appointment, this one is about 's sister.She is driving me up the wall and stepping on my toes. She called here on the Sunday before and I saw the dr asking if still was thinking about surgery and if it was for himself or his family. Then she phone the night of the dr appointment, shhh and I were BUSY. LOL. Anyways after I told she was just calling to see what the dr said and that she was coming over the next day so why can she not wait. That all she wanted to dicuss was the appointment. He said no she must be calling for another reason. I was right she asked him about his appointment and questioned his decission. OOOOHHHH I was really starting to steam up.The night she came over she got into the discussion with about his appointment and said to me "I know you love but bottom line is it is his body and

he makes the final decission." Well kicked me to try to keep me calm. I said "no I need to say this to her. Look Dolores the Dr has told him that before he makes his decission final to take his family into concideration cause what ever he decides also affects us. He has a family. He has a wife. It is not just HIS decission. Yes his body but I sleep and I am with him all the time and have to live with his outcome. If he did not want teh surgery I cannot force him. And if was single I know his decission would be differnt. But he has me and the kids and our future and mental states to concider."She then dropped it cause she knew I was getting upset. But she had to bring up some imaginary artical in the winnipeg sun that stated women are having surgery when it is not needed and that the article said the same about prostate cancer. But convienantly she forgot the article in her

van. I nearly lost it. gave me a kick and bit my tounge. managed to change the subject right away. Then she got into it again, I told her the dr that sugested Active Survalaince had only graduated in 2004. And he had a thing against women, and that I had a bad vibe with him before he even sat in his chair. She said "yes I was told. You also had a temper tantrum."... WTF!!!!!! ! Ohhh I went red and heated up. I told he it was a nervious breakdown. She said no Marla whatever you want to call it, it was a temper tantrum.... I nearly asked her to leave at that point. That was uncalled for and disrespectful towards me.Then she went into the date and said she would come to Manitoba, she is in ontario, for the 9th till the 15th. Well surprise I have talked to the hospital and nurses, there will be NO ONE seeing the day of his surgery and no medical info will be given to

anyone but myself and . If there is something we feel she should know we will tell her. She is way to nosey. And my friends and family agree that the day has surgery he will be in no condition for visits anyways and that should be the time I am with him.I am not looking forward to x-mas cause we are going to his sisters. I swear if she talks about it, (will be 2 just over weeks before surgery and I will be a wreck) I will lose it on her. I do not care who is there. says he will talk to her and tell her it is not up for discussion while he is there and that what she did at our house was disrespectful towards me. He will tell her to back down.Yes it is her brother, yes she loves and cares about him. I get and understand that. But she has to back off and stop stepping into my space. is my husband. She doesn't have to live with him day in and day out. She does not sleep

with him, I do. She has to respect me and learn to back down a bit. I am the one that will have to live with 's emotional and physical state after the surgery. NOT HER.I just had to blow off some steam. This has been bugging me for days.~Marla~