Re: Mom

[Guest guest]

Nora,

 

This is just a suggestion. I don't know how old your Mom is or how long she has

been suffering from this disease, but it sounds as though she needs to be in the

hospital,-(behavioral health) for a while to get her medications right.

 

I hope she is taking an antidepressant and sometimes a person needs more than

one. There are many different medications and if one doesn't work, something

else must be tried.

 

Maybe if you stayed with her for a while in the (hospital) room, it would

comfort her enough that she wouldn't feel like she had been committed, because

that is not what I'm suggesting.

 

When my Dad had to be in the hospital for a while, my Mom stayed during the day

and I stayed during the night. He never felt like he had been left somewhere

because there was always someone he recognized in the room. His doctor told me

that was the reason my Dad didn't have any paranoia while he was there. 

 

Praying for you and your family,

 

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To: LBDcaregivers

Sent: Saturday, July 28, 2012 8:36 PM

Subject: Mom

 

I am new to this group, however have been reading the post. I understand the

frustration and concern I have read in your post. We recently have experienced

much with Mom. She has had two suicide attempts in the past week and much

paranoid and mean behavior. My baby sister was the main focus of this until

yesterday. My poor father is the on-site caregiver and is receiving most of the

anger.

We have gotten something to calm her down, and it seems to be better today, but

I ust received an email from her about my father telling her to apology to me or

he was going to committ her. I know he did not do that, but this is her fear.

I am not sure how we are going to make it through this, my middle sister and

brother have just stopped responding to any request for help. We ust feel so

lost.

Thank you for letting me vent.

Nora

[Guest guest]

Nora,

While it is hard to do or even recognize, you must move into her world, she

can't move into yours.  It isn't that she doesn't want to, it is that she

can't.  I remember the day I finally " got it. "   The more safe she feels, the

less problem she will be.  It is the fears that " make her mean. "   It is so

hard for most of us to understand until we have lived with it for a while.

You can make it easier on yourself by coming to terms with her reality.  It is

really simple and we make it more complex. It is much harder for us than it is

for our LOs.

Hugs,

Donna R

Mom

 

I am new to this group, however have been reading the post. I understand the

frustration and concern I have read in your post. We recently have experienced

much with Mom. She has had two suicide attempts in the past week and much

paranoid and mean behavior. My baby sister was the main focus of this until

yesterday. My poor father is the on-site caregiver and is receiving most of the

anger.

We have gotten something to calm her down, and it seems to be better today, but

I ust received an email from her about my father telling her to apology to me or

he was going to committ her. I know he did not do that, but this is her fear.

I am not sure how we are going to make it through this, my middle sister and

brother have just stopped responding to any request for help. We ust feel so

lost.

Thank you for letting me vent.

Nora