Re: No Guarantees

[Guest guest]

I am aware there are NO guarentees with ANY treatments. But the dr

was saying that his age plays a good part in his recovery and amount

of time for bladder control and erections. He did not say there would

be NO problems just less then a man in his 50's and up. And

and I would be happy with an erection after the catheter is removed

ASAP.

We have tried and experimented with other sexual activities..

(outercourse). And he was not getting our hopes up, just said he has

a better chance with his age. But he made NO guarentee. He was just

stating that in his years of experience that the younger the patient

the better the recovery to bladder control and erections (depending

on the placement of the cancer). The dr does not suspect that the

cancer is out of the gland. He does suspect there is more then the

biopsy shows. SO odds are in 's favour. And we do not have our

hopes up, we are just happy and have a sence of relief with the

surgery.

I can trust and feel relief with this dr because he has over 30 years

experience and does 200+ open prostectomy surgeries a year. Where as

the one we saw earlier that wanted us to do " active servaliance " had

only graduated in 2004. And he was only in his late 30's, no family,

and was acting like it was him with the cancer and really being pushy

with the AS.

Anyways bottom line. The dr made no guarentees just gave us a little

light along with making us aware of all the possible problems after

the surgery. We are prepaired to cross all roads as they come up,

TOGETHER.

Also I really do not know if it is good or bad to have penatrive sex

after 3 weeks. But I have had many major surgeries, including

ovaries removed this year with a 4 " cut horizontal. And because we

are like bunnies (says all our dr's) we had penatrive sex 2.5 weeks

after my surgery. Did it hurt or was it uncomfortable during or

after? Yes and Yes, but it was bareable. I would not incourage sex

unless wanted to try and felt he was ready just like we did

with my past surgeries. I am always told after surgery to have sex

when you feel ready (unless the Dr gives a spacific time).

~Marla~

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> In Marla's recent post giving her update she said in part,

reporting on her

> meeting with the urologist:

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> <SNIP> He then discussed penile rehab and told him that he had a

patient go

> home after the catheter was removed and have sex that night. He

told

> with his age and stamina, he will have little to no problems with

erections

> or holding his bladder. <SNIP>

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> Whilst I have no desire to worry Marla any more than she is, I'd

have to

> query both parts of this statement. I know from some of the

experiences of

> men on my Yana website that they have achieve erection early on

after

> surgery - some while the catheter was still in place - but none has

claimed

> to have had penetrative sex so soon after surgery. I would have

thought

> there would be some concern about damage since the surgery wounds

would not

> have healed by then?

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> I think too that no surgeon can give an absolute assurance that any

man will

> have little or no problems with erection after surgery. Apart from

not

> knowing at this stage the precise position of any tumours (and

therefore

> whether bilateral nerve sparing will be possible) it is very clear

from

> everything that I have read that every man and his gland are

different.

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> I hope all goes well for Marla and , but I would caution them

against

> raising their hopes too high, based on what this doctor has said.

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> All the best

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>

> Terry Herbert

>

> I have no medical qualifications but I was diagnosed in '96: and

have

> learned a bit since then.

>

> My sites are at www.yananow.net <http://www.yananow.net/> and

> <http://www.prostatecancerwatchfulwaiting.co.za/>

> www.prostatecancerwatchfulwaiting.co.za

>

> Dr " Snuffy " Myers : " As a physician, I am painfully aware

that most

> of the decisions we make with regard to prostate cancer are made

with

> inadequate data "

>