Guest guest Posted June 20, 2007 Report Share Posted June 20, 2007 Hi & welcome I too would like to weigh less than I currently am, but as I have come to apply IE to my eating I am also getting the 'message' more and more that weight is simply the OBVIOUS, but not real difficulty I must tackle. When I recently finished Overcoming Overeating I knew that my challenge is to figure out why I am the 'size' I am. If I don't know those reasons, I will never be able to effectively change how my body is because I will still be subject to them. So to short cut a bit here's something that you may want to give a go to - Picture yourself growing fatter and fatter and ask yourself what benefits you feel if you do that. Also picture yourself growing thinner and thinner and what does that make you feel like too? Many people seem to feel more powerful and 'visible' thanks to being 'heavy' while thin scares them for several reasons. So is you can find and understand the whys of your size(s), then you can focus on those instead of fighting the ghost enemy of 'food' and control etc. ehugs, Katcha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2007 Report Share Posted June 20, 2007 Katcha, This is great. I believe that for many people (not necessarily all), the excess weight is serving a purpose. I often pose the question, " what is the weight doing for you? " . It can be tough to answer, but once you figure it out, it's a huge a-ha moment. Has anyone here figured that out for themselves? I think for me part of it was the weight allowed me to find fault with myself which kept me from really being the best I could be. The weight was an excuse, but the truth was I had fear in taking that leap to really put myself out in the world and live my purpose. It's amazing what fear can do to us! Thanks! Gillian Gillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM Healthier Outcomes It's not just about losing weight! Want to eat your favorite foods without gaining weight? Get your copy of our fr*e special report, " 6 Simple Steps to Guilt Free Eating " by visiting http://www.healthieroutcomes.com At 07:42 AM 6/20/2007, you wrote: Hi & welcome I too would like to weigh less than I currently am, but as I have come to apply IE to my eating I am also getting the 'message' more and more that weight is simply the OBVIOUS, but not real difficulty I must tackle. When I recently finished Overcoming Overeating I knew that my challenge is to figure out why I am the 'size' I am. If I don't know those reasons, I will never be able to effectively change how my body is because I will still be subject to them. So to short cut a bit here's something that you may want to give a go to - Picture yourself growing fatter and fatter and ask yourself what benefits you feel if you do that. Also picture yourself growing thinner and thinner and what does that make you feel like too? Many people seem to feel more powerful and 'visible' thanks to being 'heavy' while thin scares them for several reasons. So is you can find and understand the whys of your size(s), then you can focus on those instead of fighting the ghost enemy of 'food' and control etc. ehugs, Katcha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2007 Report Share Posted June 20, 2007 Katcha, This is great. I believe that for many people (not necessarily all), the excess weight is serving a purpose. I often pose the question, " what is the weight doing for you? " . It can be tough to answer, but once you figure it out, it's a huge a-ha moment. Has anyone here figured that out for themselves? I think for me part of it was the weight allowed me to find fault with myself which kept me from really being the best I could be. The weight was an excuse, but the truth was I had fear in taking that leap to really put myself out in the world and live my purpose. It's amazing what fear can do to us! Thanks! Gillian Gillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM Healthier Outcomes It's not just about losing weight! Want to eat your favorite foods without gaining weight? Get your copy of our fr*e special report, " 6 Simple Steps to Guilt Free Eating " by visiting http://www.healthieroutcomes.com At 07:42 AM 6/20/2007, you wrote: Hi & welcome I too would like to weigh less than I currently am, but as I have come to apply IE to my eating I am also getting the 'message' more and more that weight is simply the OBVIOUS, but not real difficulty I must tackle. When I recently finished Overcoming Overeating I knew that my challenge is to figure out why I am the 'size' I am. If I don't know those reasons, I will never be able to effectively change how my body is because I will still be subject to them. So to short cut a bit here's something that you may want to give a go to - Picture yourself growing fatter and fatter and ask yourself what benefits you feel if you do that. Also picture yourself growing thinner and thinner and what does that make you feel like too? Many people seem to feel more powerful and 'visible' thanks to being 'heavy' while thin scares them for several reasons. So is you can find and understand the whys of your size(s), then you can focus on those instead of fighting the ghost enemy of 'food' and control etc. ehugs, Katcha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 Wishing I could pin a GOLD STAR on this post - its excellent alyzu :) > > It's not crazy at all. I think we all want to be loved and wanted for > who we are, not for how we look, how much money we have, how famous we > are, etc. It's also natural to rebel against family members who make > their love conditional, and who say one thing but do something else. > I think we've all experienced that at one time or another, or we > wouldn't be here,lol! > > Because I'm at my heaviest right now, I have a lot of insecurity about > whether my husband will still think I'm attractive. Especially since > he's an actor and is often surrounded by young, hot women! ( I used to > be a young, very thin actress, but those days are no more, lol!) He > tells me all the time that I am attractive ('cause he's a wonderful > guy), but it's hard for me to believe. I, too, grew up in a family > where it was made very clear that I had to look and behave a certain > way if I wanted to get love and approval. I was told I was loved, but > only when I was a " good girl. " But anyway, a few days ago I was > looking at him as he was getting ready for bed, and he's not quite as > physically defined as he used to be. I thought about it, and, to me, > he's more handsome than ever, and I love him more than life, and he's > an amazing father and husband, so what do I care that his 6-pack is a > 3-pack,lol! And then it FINALLY occurred to me that maybe HE FEELS > THE EXACT SAME WAY ABOUT ME!!!! > I also know that when he admires someone, it's not because of how they > look, but what they accomplish. And he's taught me to do the same, by > example. His love is NOT conditional, and never has been. > I guess the key is to find the people in our lives who love us no > matter what, and put our attention on them instead of the naysayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 Wishing I could pin a GOLD STAR on this post - its excellent alyzu :) > > It's not crazy at all. I think we all want to be loved and wanted for > who we are, not for how we look, how much money we have, how famous we > are, etc. It's also natural to rebel against family members who make > their love conditional, and who say one thing but do something else. > I think we've all experienced that at one time or another, or we > wouldn't be here,lol! > > Because I'm at my heaviest right now, I have a lot of insecurity about > whether my husband will still think I'm attractive. Especially since > he's an actor and is often surrounded by young, hot women! ( I used to > be a young, very thin actress, but those days are no more, lol!) He > tells me all the time that I am attractive ('cause he's a wonderful > guy), but it's hard for me to believe. I, too, grew up in a family > where it was made very clear that I had to look and behave a certain > way if I wanted to get love and approval. I was told I was loved, but > only when I was a " good girl. " But anyway, a few days ago I was > looking at him as he was getting ready for bed, and he's not quite as > physically defined as he used to be. I thought about it, and, to me, > he's more handsome than ever, and I love him more than life, and he's > an amazing father and husband, so what do I care that his 6-pack is a > 3-pack,lol! And then it FINALLY occurred to me that maybe HE FEELS > THE EXACT SAME WAY ABOUT ME!!!! > I also know that when he admires someone, it's not because of how they > look, but what they accomplish. And he's taught me to do the same, by > example. His love is NOT conditional, and never has been. > I guess the key is to find the people in our lives who love us no > matter what, and put our attention on them instead of the naysayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2012 Report Share Posted April 14, 2012 Mel, I just found time to run through my mail so I'm sorry for such a late response to your first post.  Your questions were so similiar to mine when I found out about my mother. In my experience, there was few places that had specifics on what to expect and nothing to identify " a stage " of LBD. As I understand it, it in un like Alz because there are specific stages and more easily defined. I really believe that joining this group and reading posts from other caregivers was the most beneficial to begin ti have an idea of what was to come. A few weeks ago, my mother started to stumble a lot, walk with shorter steps, become confused, see people all around, and was up all night yelling at the people in the house to get out. She was very hateful to me, which cut to my heart!! But from the beginning of seeing these changes, I remembered reading a post here about other LBD patients that had UTI and how that affected them. I immediately requested a test and we found she had a UTI. They were not able to give her the correct meds until the culture grew and they knew exactly how to treat it (wich was over a couple days) but when they gave her the meds, she was like night and day, a hugh change. During all this, she also had fallen and broken here wrist in a couple of places; so we were going through the questions as to which problem was causing which reaction with her. But bottom line was that, because of this group and the wonderful support and advice given here, I was able learn how to identify even the slightest changes to her and help her through her sickness. The UTIs, as I understand, are common with LBD, and as my mother because to display slight changes again this week, I again suspected a UTI, and I was right, she has another UTI. I am sure you will find this to be a great location to help as you and your family deal with this awful thing, I know I have.  The best of luck to you and your family.  Robin Robin Green Loving daughter of Bobbie Diagnosed with LB May 2008 Beavercreek, Ohio ________________________________ To: LBDcaregivers Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 10:45 AM Subject: New Member  Hi Everyone, Just a little background - my mom was diagnosed with Lewy Body and with cancer last year (yes, a double whammy). Not knowing anything about Lewy Body, and the fact that my mom still acted " normal " mentally, we focused more on the cancer than the impending dementia. Unfortunately, we should have prepared ourselves more for what was to come with the dementia. Hindsight is 20/20, of course, but now that I am learning more about LBD, I am amazed at how similar others' experiences are, and how " typically " she has progressed in a disease that has so many variables. My mom is currently in a skilled nursing facility receiving therapy for a broken arm. She is only there temporarily and they are already pushing us (her caregivers - my brother and me) to be ready for her discharge. We have looked into another long term facility. Mom doesn't want to be in any facility, but she doesn't understand why we don't feel safe with her at home. Previously, she lived alone in a small apartment while my brother lived in the apartment above her. Almost like living with her, but not quite. Until a few months ago, she was still pretty independent. But now she has short-term memory loss, a lack of sense of time and place, some hallucinations and delusions. At least the paranoia seems to have lessened. When we first hospitalized her, she was so anxious and paranoid that she was barricading her doors, hiding knives in the apartment, and accusing the neighbors of breaking in. To complicate matters, I live 3000 miles away and I am trying as much as I can to help my brother in her care. He is the on site guy, and I am trying to do research and financial stuff from afar. I have been reading here and in another forum, and I recently read a book about LBD. I have learned A LOT and I am grateful for that, but of course I still have questions. I wonder if we got her medications under control, could she ever have a possibility of living at home again, with help of course? I wonder if not, will she ever accept living in a memory care facility? I wonder what stage she is in - early, mid, late? I wonder if anyone out there can give me advice or resources for neurologists, facilities, respite or day care options in the California Bay Area? Anyway, thank you all for reading. Mel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2012 Report Share Posted April 14, 2012 Mel, I just found time to run through my mail so I'm sorry for such a late response to your first post.  Your questions were so similiar to mine when I found out about my mother. In my experience, there was few places that had specifics on what to expect and nothing to identify " a stage " of LBD. As I understand it, it in un like Alz because there are specific stages and more easily defined. I really believe that joining this group and reading posts from other caregivers was the most beneficial to begin ti have an idea of what was to come. A few weeks ago, my mother started to stumble a lot, walk with shorter steps, become confused, see people all around, and was up all night yelling at the people in the house to get out. She was very hateful to me, which cut to my heart!! But from the beginning of seeing these changes, I remembered reading a post here about other LBD patients that had UTI and how that affected them. I immediately requested a test and we found she had a UTI. They were not able to give her the correct meds until the culture grew and they knew exactly how to treat it (wich was over a couple days) but when they gave her the meds, she was like night and day, a hugh change. During all this, she also had fallen and broken here wrist in a couple of places; so we were going through the questions as to which problem was causing which reaction with her. But bottom line was that, because of this group and the wonderful support and advice given here, I was able learn how to identify even the slightest changes to her and help her through her sickness. The UTIs, as I understand, are common with LBD, and as my mother because to display slight changes again this week, I again suspected a UTI, and I was right, she has another UTI. I am sure you will find this to be a great location to help as you and your family deal with this awful thing, I know I have.  The best of luck to you and your family.  Robin Robin Green Loving daughter of Bobbie Diagnosed with LB May 2008 Beavercreek, Ohio ________________________________ To: LBDcaregivers Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 10:45 AM Subject: New Member  Hi Everyone, Just a little background - my mom was diagnosed with Lewy Body and with cancer last year (yes, a double whammy). Not knowing anything about Lewy Body, and the fact that my mom still acted " normal " mentally, we focused more on the cancer than the impending dementia. Unfortunately, we should have prepared ourselves more for what was to come with the dementia. Hindsight is 20/20, of course, but now that I am learning more about LBD, I am amazed at how similar others' experiences are, and how " typically " she has progressed in a disease that has so many variables. My mom is currently in a skilled nursing facility receiving therapy for a broken arm. She is only there temporarily and they are already pushing us (her caregivers - my brother and me) to be ready for her discharge. We have looked into another long term facility. Mom doesn't want to be in any facility, but she doesn't understand why we don't feel safe with her at home. Previously, she lived alone in a small apartment while my brother lived in the apartment above her. Almost like living with her, but not quite. Until a few months ago, she was still pretty independent. But now she has short-term memory loss, a lack of sense of time and place, some hallucinations and delusions. At least the paranoia seems to have lessened. When we first hospitalized her, she was so anxious and paranoid that she was barricading her doors, hiding knives in the apartment, and accusing the neighbors of breaking in. To complicate matters, I live 3000 miles away and I am trying as much as I can to help my brother in her care. He is the on site guy, and I am trying to do research and financial stuff from afar. I have been reading here and in another forum, and I recently read a book about LBD. I have learned A LOT and I am grateful for that, but of course I still have questions. I wonder if we got her medications under control, could she ever have a possibility of living at home again, with help of course? I wonder if not, will she ever accept living in a memory care facility? I wonder what stage she is in - early, mid, late? I wonder if anyone out there can give me advice or resources for neurologists, facilities, respite or day care options in the California Bay Area? Anyway, thank you all for reading. Mel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Thank you so much for letting me join your group. I have already found an incredible wealth of useful information in your files and links. I'm a retired RN doing per diem homecare and companionship for the elderly including Hospice and different types of dementia including LBD and I have family members who have walked this path. I have a very dear client now with LBD and your tips and insight will certainly help me to meet her needs in the best way possible. I will keep you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. I am looking forward to reading, listening and observing what you have to offer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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