Looking toward in-home care as next step

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Considering the limited financial resources of my parents, in-home care will

most likely be the next step of assistance for them. Dad's LBD is manageable

and he does well overall, though he is experiencing delusions and hallucinations

again. Hopefully, they may ebb some with increased medication and/or his level

of fear and determination to combat them will level off.

Unless and until he becomes incontinent or uncooperative with bathing, clothing,

etc, the biggest problem continues to be bedtime and " sleeping with a stranger "

-when he does not recognize Mom at bedtime. I have trouble picturing any of the

possible " solutions " -maybe better termed, " responses " . Single beds instead of

their double bed, or Mom sleeps in the guest room, or a night time caregiver...

See, for a couple who have been joined at the hip for over 60years, I can't even

picture implementing any of these. Not sleeping in their same spot, in the same

bed, in the same room together --alone in their own home--presents a huge

adjustment. I just can't conclude, yet, what might be the best first step

toward more practical and helpful sleeping arrangement changes.

--Hard to picture them comfortable with someone in their home over night...but I

know that Mom will need " back-up " and it won't be long before it's too much for

me to supply. Physically, I know it will be more than I can handle, pretty

quickly, as it will mess with my very needed rest...I don't think they can

afford assisted living, at least as far as I've looked so far...

Any advice in this?

Thanks, Ida