Re: Warning Sings of Caregiver Stress

November 9, 2002

Hi Rita,

Your husband sounds like mine. Be careful is his slogan. He is sicker than

I am, having a brain tumor that keeps coming back! We're like the lame

leading the crippled. We are always laughing at ourselves because we do make

a funny looking pair!

Vivian

November 9, 2002

Hi Rita,

Your husband sounds like mine. Be careful is his slogan. He is sicker than

I am, having a brain tumor that keeps coming back! We're like the lame

leading the crippled. We are always laughing at ourselves because we do make

a funny looking pair!

Vivian

November 9, 2002

Don:

Thanks for sharing that with us. Boy does my fall into that

category. Right now he is the town dump selling poppies, and he is so

worried about leaving me alone. Don't do anything till I get home or be

careful, it just goes on and on, bless his heart, and yours for sending

it.

Your probably laughing at the " town dump part " , but he is a WW11 vet,

and this is a small town, and thats where all the " action " is on

Saturday.

Rita

Luv & Hugs!

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Some people succeed in spite of their handicap. Others succeed because

of them.

Lord Keep Your Arm Around My Shoulder And Your Hand Over My Mouth

When you worry it's like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives you a good

ride, but it doesn't get you any where.

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November 9, 2002

Don:

Thanks for sharing that with us. Boy does my fall into that

category. Right now he is the town dump selling poppies, and he is so

worried about leaving me alone. Don't do anything till I get home or be

careful, it just goes on and on, bless his heart, and yours for sending

it.

Your probably laughing at the " town dump part " , but he is a WW11 vet,

and this is a small town, and thats where all the " action " is on

Saturday.

Rita

Luv & Hugs!

*************************************

Some people succeed in spite of their handicap. Others succeed because

of them.

Lord Keep Your Arm Around My Shoulder And Your Hand Over My Mouth

When you worry it's like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives you a good

ride, but it doesn't get you any where.

*************************************

November 9, 2002

Vivian:

We have to laugh, but worries. Have you ever (or the rest of this

fabulous group) had this problem??? If I fight him not to do the things

I can or want to do, he gets so hurt. will 79, and has a lot of

energy. Anybody who has met him, can't believe he is that age. But I

see him starting to get tired (he won't admit it). Last week I suggested

I get a neighbor who does housework for a living, and is very

reasonable, to come in and do some heavy cleaning. Well was he

insulted, and the next thing, he is in the bedroom polishing to beat the

band. He says that what ever I want done just " ask him " . But it seems

like all is say " is ny do this and do that " and he never refuses or

says he is tired, when I know darn right well. Do Insist and hurt him,

or just insist till he gets use to it???

Tonight we Gladi and i are going to friends for dinner and cards.

I feel like making and bringing a home made apple pie (thanks to the

Pillsbury Dough Boy Ready made crust, but I don't tell, and everybody

thinks it's mine). But I do all the rest from scratch, and the last

thing he said when he went out was " wait till I get home to cut the

apples. I have one hour, do I cut the apples or what??? I wished he

would say " good for you " , but he won't, he won't be mad, just hurt. Oh

well I guess I could have worse problems.

Rita

Luv & Hugs!

*************************************

Some people succeed in spite of their handicap. Others succeed because

of them.

Lord Keep Your Arm Around My Shoulder And Your Hand Over My Mouth

When you worry it's like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives you a good

ride, but it doesn't get you any where.

*************************************

November 9, 2002

> Vivian:

>

> We have to laugh, but worries. Have you ever (or the rest of

this

> fabulous group) had this problem??? If I fight him not to do the

things

> I can or want to do, he gets so hurt. will 79, and has a lot

of

> energy. >

> Rita and all,

I am the care giver in this pair. I was like , I wanted to do

everything for her because I wanted the best for her.but the best

for her is to let her do what she can as long as there is no

danger||| I would open her mail, put on her slippers, help her

dress, and many other things. I learned that she needed to use her

hands even if it was hard for her. She needs to bend over and put on

her slipper. She needs to dress herself unless we were going to go

some where and she would need her strength late. I bring her coffee

and fix meals and the things she can't, and she will ask me to do

things at times. But it was so hard not to do everything for her for

a long time. I am 76 and she is 70 (somethig)and I maintain our

house (one story)as best as I can. Sometimes it looks like a tornado

just passed through especially when I cook. And Rita slicing apples

if your hands are effected could be dangerous. If I have to go out

before she is up I get everything ready so she can manage until I

return. Maybe this will help relax a little.

I have rambled enough for tonight. I have a new address for e-mail,

which is cbccarter119@... I'll get with Mark and remove my

old one after I stop aol.

Best Wishes Byron and in FL

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November 9, 2002