Guest guest Posted July 25, 2002 Report Share Posted July 25, 2002 Compassionate Friends was also a lifesaver for me when my son was stillborn almost 16 years ago. My husband did not care for it, because it was not helpful for him to talk it out, but for me it was essential. My friends were there for me initially, but then life went on and I was totally lost. Compassionate Friends and another counseling support group got me through. Robin if you need someone to listen we are only a phone call away. Kim Lauger ---------- > >To: CHARGE >Subject: Re: Ally Lynn >Date: Thu, Jul 25, 2002, 7:02 AM > > Dear Robin, I have not read the other postings as I only saw your > message through looking at the archives and I am not subscribed to > recieve all messages. But I did want to respond to your sad, sad news. > I don't know if we have met, but I am Hartshorne, mom to , > and Tim's wife. I am also mom to and Hartshorne, who died > in a car crash 10 years ago. I wanted to let you know that you can and > will survive this, although right now I am sure it doesn't even seem > real yet. 10 years out I can confidently say that life is as normal as > it can be again (well as normal as it can be with a child with CHARGE0 > and that the sadness and depression that go with missing our children > really only surfaces at special times like holidays, their birthdays, > and the anniversary of the accident. This year was particularly hard as > my son who was 8 at the time would have been graduating high > school. > > We found much comfort in an organization called The Compassionate > Friends. In many ways it is like this listserv, in that everyone shares > their experiences and everyone listens to yours. It is a support group, > and chances are you have a local chapter if you live in or near a good- > sized city. I hope you will avail yourself of this resource. It > literally saved Tim and me, all those years ago. > > I am so so sorry to hear of your loss, and know you have a very long > road ahead of grief. But I am just here to say there is hope, and you > will come out the other end, eventually. My heart is with you. > > Much love, Hartshorne > > > >> I am writing the message I hoped I never would. >> >> My Daughter, Ally Lynn Testerman, passed away on Saturday, July 20th, in the >> arms of her father and I at Brenners Childrens Hospital in Winston-Salem NC. >> >> >> She is an angel now watching over the little children on this list. >> >> Her obituary may be viewed at www.Bristolnews.com dated Mon July 22nd. >> >> Thanks to all on this list who have provided support the last four years. >> >> Robin Testerman mom to Ally Lynn 8-25-98 to 7-20-02 God's angel >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2002 Report Share Posted July 25, 2002 Compassionate Friends was also a lifesaver for me when my son was stillborn almost 16 years ago. My husband did not care for it, because it was not helpful for him to talk it out, but for me it was essential. My friends were there for me initially, but then life went on and I was totally lost. Compassionate Friends and another counseling support group got me through. Robin if you need someone to listen we are only a phone call away. Kim Lauger ---------- > >To: CHARGE >Subject: Re: Ally Lynn >Date: Thu, Jul 25, 2002, 7:02 AM > > Dear Robin, I have not read the other postings as I only saw your > message through looking at the archives and I am not subscribed to > recieve all messages. But I did want to respond to your sad, sad news. > I don't know if we have met, but I am Hartshorne, mom to , > and Tim's wife. I am also mom to and Hartshorne, who died > in a car crash 10 years ago. I wanted to let you know that you can and > will survive this, although right now I am sure it doesn't even seem > real yet. 10 years out I can confidently say that life is as normal as > it can be again (well as normal as it can be with a child with CHARGE0 > and that the sadness and depression that go with missing our children > really only surfaces at special times like holidays, their birthdays, > and the anniversary of the accident. This year was particularly hard as > my son who was 8 at the time would have been graduating high > school. > > We found much comfort in an organization called The Compassionate > Friends. In many ways it is like this listserv, in that everyone shares > their experiences and everyone listens to yours. It is a support group, > and chances are you have a local chapter if you live in or near a good- > sized city. I hope you will avail yourself of this resource. It > literally saved Tim and me, all those years ago. > > I am so so sorry to hear of your loss, and know you have a very long > road ahead of grief. But I am just here to say there is hope, and you > will come out the other end, eventually. My heart is with you. > > Much love, Hartshorne > > > >> I am writing the message I hoped I never would. >> >> My Daughter, Ally Lynn Testerman, passed away on Saturday, July 20th, in the >> arms of her father and I at Brenners Childrens Hospital in Winston-Salem NC. >> >> >> She is an angel now watching over the little children on this list. >> >> Her obituary may be viewed at www.Bristolnews.com dated Mon July 22nd. >> >> Thanks to all on this list who have provided support the last four years. >> >> Robin Testerman mom to Ally Lynn 8-25-98 to 7-20-02 God's angel >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2002 Report Share Posted July 25, 2002 Compassionate Friends was also a lifesaver for me when my son was stillborn almost 16 years ago. My husband did not care for it, because it was not helpful for him to talk it out, but for me it was essential. My friends were there for me initially, but then life went on and I was totally lost. Compassionate Friends and another counseling support group got me through. Robin if you need someone to listen we are only a phone call away. Kim Lauger ---------- > >To: CHARGE >Subject: Re: Ally Lynn >Date: Thu, Jul 25, 2002, 7:02 AM > > Dear Robin, I have not read the other postings as I only saw your > message through looking at the archives and I am not subscribed to > recieve all messages. But I did want to respond to your sad, sad news. > I don't know if we have met, but I am Hartshorne, mom to , > and Tim's wife. I am also mom to and Hartshorne, who died > in a car crash 10 years ago. I wanted to let you know that you can and > will survive this, although right now I am sure it doesn't even seem > real yet. 10 years out I can confidently say that life is as normal as > it can be again (well as normal as it can be with a child with CHARGE0 > and that the sadness and depression that go with missing our children > really only surfaces at special times like holidays, their birthdays, > and the anniversary of the accident. This year was particularly hard as > my son who was 8 at the time would have been graduating high > school. > > We found much comfort in an organization called The Compassionate > Friends. In many ways it is like this listserv, in that everyone shares > their experiences and everyone listens to yours. It is a support group, > and chances are you have a local chapter if you live in or near a good- > sized city. I hope you will avail yourself of this resource. It > literally saved Tim and me, all those years ago. > > I am so so sorry to hear of your loss, and know you have a very long > road ahead of grief. But I am just here to say there is hope, and you > will come out the other end, eventually. My heart is with you. > > Much love, Hartshorne > > > >> I am writing the message I hoped I never would. >> >> My Daughter, Ally Lynn Testerman, passed away on Saturday, July 20th, in the >> arms of her father and I at Brenners Childrens Hospital in Winston-Salem NC. >> >> >> She is an angel now watching over the little children on this list. >> >> Her obituary may be viewed at www.Bristolnews.com dated Mon July 22nd. >> >> Thanks to all on this list who have provided support the last four years. >> >> Robin Testerman mom to Ally Lynn 8-25-98 to 7-20-02 God's angel >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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