Re: Get a Guy, Gain Weight

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Have to agree with Merav on some of this. . .

LOL. . . Been there, done that.

I think it's also about acceptance. Ex hubby - I maintained healthy weight,

but he ate whatever I cooked, and I cooked healthy.

Then, after splitting up - with another guy for a couple years, I was

easily IBW, gained 2 pounds, was in great shape, worked out regularly, he still

complained about my size/shape. He got dumped, even though he was a high

school/family friend, he was still ultimately a jerk and we were never meant

to be together long term. Far to shallow to complain about my shape when he

was 15# overweight.

Current hubby - married 14 years, we're older now. After getting married,

he complained I was too thin (yes, was size 3 when we met). We were very

physically active (clearing land, hiking, cutting, hauling, splitting

firewood, skiing. . . and he was proud of my strength but still thought I was

too

thin.) I still gained weight. (He is 6'6 " and can eat a LOT - my portions

seemed small in comparison. He also loves/buys " his " junk food, so I also

tended to eat more junk, then exercise dropped off with extensive computer

work.

Still, we're very happily married x14 years, and it's just not that

important to " be skinny " and drop the weight gained (but I'm still just at the

top of my IBW) not obese and haven't gained any significant wt in 3 years.

So, for me, clearly eating too much, exercising too little, don't care that

much. No other excuse that I can find. Oh, and what's different then

Merav's post - I've never once " dieted " unless you count doing so for

" professional curiosity " with LEAP and 2 days on an Atkin's diet.

On that same note, my sister met her husband at their HS graduation, dated,

fell in love, but both had plans to get their college degrees and travel.

She gained 20 or so pounds, until they got ready to get married 10 years

later. Then dropped it and has pretty much kept it off. I think her " gaining "

was her subconscious protection from the attention of other men (didn't

really work very well actually.)

One question for the researchers. . . do unhappily married women gain more

weight than woman that are happy in their marriages? I'm assuming the

research looked at that? Or sexually happy vs not? (I hear for some women,

there's a difference.) ;-)

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In a message dated 5/16/2012 7:27:04 A.M. Mountain Daylight Time,

rd-usa writes:

On May 14, 2012, at 1:36 PM, Upton <_julieupton@..._

(mailto:julieupton@...) <mailto:julieupton%mailto:juli> > wrote:

> Women who enter into a relationship with a man gain weight. Marriage and

> having children have become major contributors to overweight and obesity

in

> the US.

>

> Helping women retain some of their single eating and exercise patterns is

> essential to avoid the common pitfalls.

>

> Do any of you have any additional insights into why men have a negative

> influence over women's weight?

>

> _http://www.appforhehttp://wwhttp://www.ahttp://wwhttp://_

(http://www.appforhealth.com/2012/05/how-men-make-us-fat/)

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> Upton, M.S., R.D., CSSD

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