Re: Moved In

[Guest guest]

Kathy

What an incredibly busy spring and early summer you have had!

We are hoping you can make it to the suaree!

Sharon H.

Mom to , (13, DS) and , (9)

South Carolina

Moved In

Hi

Well we are officially move in now I spent all week unpacking and trying

to organize this mess. Mike, Tater and Kaite went back to Memphis for 3 days

.......Mike played in a golf scramble for a Fed Ex fundraiser ...........

Make a Wish. Sara and I stayed here and worked. if I heard it once I heard it

100 times from Sara that she DID NOT like this house " to small Mom " was her

reason. I think she got tired quickly of the maze of boxes she had to walk

through and it took 3 days for cable to be hooked up lol Now that the house

is set

up minus a few more boxes she likes it lol and she's already decorated her

room

My sister is shocked on as she said " my dedication to finish " especially

since I had a tiny accident (I wont go into that lol) and I was in the bed

the

first day here with a concussion ................. vomited for 24 hours

ugggggggggggggg after that I just unpacked for 16 hours a day until it was

done.

Today Sara and I shopped for stuff that I already have but it is in storage

and

that's unsafe to walk in lol Im living with only a third of my possessions

but it will be OK for a short time .............. Im pretending that Im at

the

beach and in a condo lol

Tomorrow we are supposed to go to a church based on the same style of my

last church (as in Rick Warren's model in Ca) I hope I like it since I miss my

church already. Im going to try and not compare. This week we will only be

here

a few days and then back to Memphis for 4 days as it will be Father's day

weekend and Mike's dad is not doing well with post surgery problems. Im

weighted with guilt leaving him while he's still in the hospital but I'll

make it up

by camping out there next week

By the way Ive hidden all scrunchies and rubber bands from Sara, she

constantly taking hers out and redoing it ......... it's driving me crazy lol

oooooooh the small stuff lol

Im really praying I can make it to the Suaree, so many are going that Ive

been dying to meet ................ and seeing old friends again too I

maybe

coming up (or down lol) with ............ working on that now

Oh well Im getting long with this lol

Kathy mom to Sara 13

¸...¸ ___/ /\ \___ ¸...¸

,·´º o`·, /__/ _/\_ \__\ ,·´º o`·,

```)¨(´´´ | | | | | | | | | ```)¨(´´´

¸,.-·²°´ ¸,.-·~·~·-.,¸ `°²·-.¸

As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

Josh. 24:15

[Guest guest]

Kathy

What an incredibly busy spring and early summer you have had!

We are hoping you can make it to the suaree!

Sharon H.

Mom to , (13, DS) and , (9)

South Carolina

Moved In

Hi

Well we are officially move in now I spent all week unpacking and trying

to organize this mess. Mike, Tater and Kaite went back to Memphis for 3 days

.......Mike played in a golf scramble for a Fed Ex fundraiser ...........

Make a Wish. Sara and I stayed here and worked. if I heard it once I heard it

100 times from Sara that she DID NOT like this house " to small Mom " was her

reason. I think she got tired quickly of the maze of boxes she had to walk

through and it took 3 days for cable to be hooked up lol Now that the house

is set

up minus a few more boxes she likes it lol and she's already decorated her

room

My sister is shocked on as she said " my dedication to finish " especially

since I had a tiny accident (I wont go into that lol) and I was in the bed

the

first day here with a concussion ................. vomited for 24 hours

ugggggggggggggg after that I just unpacked for 16 hours a day until it was

done.

Today Sara and I shopped for stuff that I already have but it is in storage

and

that's unsafe to walk in lol Im living with only a third of my possessions

but it will be OK for a short time .............. Im pretending that Im at

the

beach and in a condo lol

Tomorrow we are supposed to go to a church based on the same style of my

last church (as in Rick Warren's model in Ca) I hope I like it since I miss my

church already. Im going to try and not compare. This week we will only be

here

a few days and then back to Memphis for 4 days as it will be Father's day

weekend and Mike's dad is not doing well with post surgery problems. Im

weighted with guilt leaving him while he's still in the hospital but I'll

make it up

by camping out there next week

By the way Ive hidden all scrunchies and rubber bands from Sara, she

constantly taking hers out and redoing it ......... it's driving me crazy lol

oooooooh the small stuff lol

Im really praying I can make it to the Suaree, so many are going that Ive

been dying to meet ................ and seeing old friends again too I

maybe

coming up (or down lol) with ............ working on that now

Oh well Im getting long with this lol

Kathy mom to Sara 13

¸...¸ ___/ /\ \___ ¸...¸

,·´º o`·, /__/ _/\_ \__\ ,·´º o`·,

```)¨(´´´ | | | | | | | | | ```)¨(´´´

¸,.-·²°´ ¸,.-·~·~·-.,¸ `°²·-.¸

As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

Josh. 24:15

[Guest guest]

,

It is good to know that you are in your own place now. I know many

others are like me, I don't always respond but I do say a prayer for

our members encountering difficulties.

Keep moving forward Hon. When I allow RA to make me stagnant I

concentrate more on pain and all of the negative effects on my life.

This has really been a learning experience for me. I have done a lot

of looking inside and pulling out strength that I thought was lost. I

have also seen positive and negative in family and friends where

support for me in concerned. Some just don't get it and I doubt ever

will. I have to move forward regardless.

I am so glad to know that you are doing the same and I really hope

that you are happy in your new home. I also hope that what ever

happens between you and your hubby is the best thing for you.

Shirley

[Guest guest]

Hi : Just wanted to wish you good luck in your new place. I am

glad you and your hubby are talking. What ever the future holds for the

both of you, I hope you will be happy.

Hugs, Barbara

>

> Hi everyone. Sorry I haven't posted much, but I just moved and I think

> I am finally settled into my new place. I took my time because it hurt

> too damn much, so I took my time. Hubby and I are talking, which is

> better then where we were 2 weeks ago. I still haven't heard of I got

> the OK to get back on remicaide. Hope everyone is doing well and

> having a pain free day. Best Wishes.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Shirley (and everybody here),

I'm sorry this is a month late, I'm way behind in my reading and I refuse to

delete these messages until I have read them all. I just wanted to comment on

something you said.

I started getting the major RA pains a few months ago. I went to my PCP because

I thought I had broken my left ankle and foot somehow, the pain was so intense I

could hardly walk, but the x-rays were negative. I did, however, test positive

for the Rheumatoid Factor. I also have severe pain in my hands and wrists and

both lower legs. During the last two weeks or so, I am also starting to get

pains in my neck, upper arms, lower back and hips. My first rheumy appt. isn't

until the end of next month, so I'm suffering quite a bit right now.

This past weekend my older brother and my two younger sisters and I put on a

suprise 80th birthday / family reunion for my mother. We had it at my sister's

house. (She is an EXCELLENT party giver - she did my daughter's baby shower and

it turned out just beautiful). It was my mother's very first birthday party

(outside of our immediate family). We were working on it, planning, getting

recipes, etc. for the past month. Last week I started the major cooking. The

last two days before the party I only slept 4 hours total. I was taking Vicadin,

Ibuprofen and Tylenol for the pain, but it wasn't helping much. When I was

working at the sink I had to stand on pillows from the couch because of the

intense pain in my feet. When I was at the stove, I had to kneel on a chair to

keep my feet off the ground, the pain was so bad.

Like a dummy, one of the recipes I decided to make were Sauerkraut Balls. I've

had a taste for them for years and my family loves sauerkraut! And it only

listed three steps! - 1- grind meats & kraut together, 2- add a doughy base to

it (I kept screwing this part up - whole other story - got about 16 pounds of

dough " mistakes " in my backyard now that I threw out because it didn't turn out:

was suppose to cook 2 cups of milk with 2 cups of flour (times " 8 " of course -

see below) till it came to a " mashed potato consistency " - yea, right!!! - try

it sometime!) and 3- bread and fry - sounded easy enough! They were the

Sauerkraut Balls FROM HELL!!! The recipe called for a half pound each of three

different meats, but I thought that wouldn't be enough for such a huge gathering

(almost a hundred people) so I bought 3 pounds of each and 14 pounds of kraut!!!

What a MAJOR MAJOR mistake!!! (I never made them before and I don't cook a lot

so I was completely ignorant as to what I was getting myself into!) My hands

hurt so bad, I had a hard time squeezing the kraut and mixing it.

At 2:30 AM Saturday morning I finished half of the mixture and finally started

frying them. (Now mind you, I started working on these on Wednesday!) To my

horror I realized that I couldn't taste enough of the sauerkraut flavor and had

to run to the store for more kraut - 28 lbs at 2:30 AM (twelve hourse before the

party) !!!!! - LOL!!!!!!

OMG, I can laugh about it now (most of the swelling has gone down), but I was

ready to cry then. I should have chucked everything then and there, but I had so

much time and money into them already and had promised them to everyone. (They

turned out good though, but we're gonna be eating sauerkraut balls for the next

6 months, and to tell you the truth, I don't care if I never see another

sauerkraut ball again in my life!!!

Finally, this past Saturday was the party. I was so sleepy and in so much pain

(hands, ankles and feet completely swollen) that I couldn't participate the way

I would have liked, but the party was for my mother, not me, so it really didn't

matter I guess. But it turned out beatiful!!! It was blessed - I believe that.

We live in Ohio and her 92 year old uncle from Michigan even came in. My mother

is the type of person who never wants anything for herself. When she found out

the party was for her (she thought it was just a family reunion) she started

sobbing hard. She cried a couple times throughout the party because she was so

moved. She couldn't believe that all those people came to celebrate her. It was

worth all the time and effort (and pain.) The best part for me was watching my

granddaughter (she'll be 2 in September) dancing polkas on the back porch (where

the speakers were), all by herself, almost all night long! When one song would

end, she would start trying to climb down the steps from the porch to get back

to the rest of the party in the yard, but then another song would start and

she'd run back to porch and start dancing again! It was almost like she couldn't

help herself! It was SOOOOOO cute! Wish I had a video camera! She was even

trying to get another little boy to dance with her, but he wasn't interested. My

mother says she must have music " in her blood " , like so many other people in our

family do.

But getting back to what you said in this post that really touched me, here it

is:

You said, " This has really been a learning experience for me. I have done a lot

of looking inside and pulling out strength that I thought was lost. "

And I'd like to add here: " strength that I thought was lost " ... " AND THAT I

DIDN'T REALIZE I EVEN HAD "

Shirley, that is what this disease is doing for me. I've been pretty much a

depressed loner all my life and never really wanted to do things before (when I

could). Now that my ability to do these things is slipping away, I want to do

them! Why does it sometimes take a major crisis in our life for us to learn

simple truths?

I went to the zoo with my daughter and my only grandchild 2 weeks ago. I didn't

think I'd make it, but somehow I did. All of a sudden, ever since I got this

disease, things like this seem so important now. Making memories for my

children, grandchild, family, etc. It hurts so much but it just seems so

important now. This disease is turning into a learning experience for me also.

Thanks for pointing that out to me.

One more thing I'd like to mention here on this subject: I'm home with two guys,

my husband and my 21 year old son. I've been my son's " maid-servant " for years

and my husband's " emotional punching bag " for even longer. Being the great

codependent that I am, I've spent most of my life trying to " please " them. But I

can't do it anymore, I just can't. Lo and behold they are finally starting to

help me with things! They are ALSO " growing " from the experience of this

disease. Sometimes I wonder why certain things happen the way they do, but I

truly believe there is a reason for everything.

Thanks for listening,

" To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven "

[ ] Re: Moved In

,

It is good to know that you are in your own place now. I know many

others are like me, I don't always respond but I do say a prayer for

our members encountering difficulties.

Keep moving forward Hon. When I allow RA to make me stagnant I

concentrate more on pain and all of the negative effects on my life.

This has really been a learning experience for me. I have done a lot

of looking inside and pulling out strength that I thought was lost. I

have also seen positive and negative in family and friends where

support for me in concerned. Some just don't get it and I doubt ever

will. I have to move forward regardless.

I am so glad to know that you are doing the same and I really hope

that you are happy in your new home. I also hope that what ever

happens between you and your hubby is the best thing for you.

Shirley

[Guest guest]

and Group;

Wow oh wow , Your story moved me so much. I bet we all could say

we had similar experiences. You wrote it so good. I am happy the guys

turned out so supportive. And kids at 2 years old are so very

adorable. Your grandaughter sounds so sweet. I am so sorry for your

pain. Maybe your rheumy can help with the aweful pain your going

through. Feel free to ask us any questions. It sounds like you been a

regular here but I had to say that. The birthday party sound so grand

and you worked so hard God bless you sweetheart. Just wanted to tell

you how beautiful your true story was for me.

gentle hugs everyone

Clora

>

[Guest guest]

,

You made me wish I had been there for the party. Such fun! You will

never regret the pain. My mom's birthday was 9 days before she died

and she survived to go to the party that I had arranged. She cried

and cried that so many had shown up, just for her.

Sorry about the hassels but I have learned that following recipes is

very difficult for me now. I used to find then fairly simple.

Good job with the guys. I sure hope they keep it up and learn to

cook and bake.

Have a good day and get lots of rest!

Shirley

>

> Shirley (and everybody here),

>

> I'm sorry this is a month late, I'm way behind in my reading

and I refuse to delete these messages until I have read them all. I

just wanted to comment on something you said.

>

> I started getting the major RA pains a few months ago. I went to

my PCP because I thought I had broken my left ankle and foot

somehow, the pain was so intense I could hardly walk, but the x-rays

were negative. I did, however, test positive for the Rheumatoid

Factor. I also have severe pain in my hands and wrists and both

lower legs. During the last two weeks or so, I am also starting to

get pains in my neck, upper arms, lower back and hips. My first

rheumy appt. isn't until the end of next month, so I'm suffering

quite a bit right now.

>

> This past weekend my older brother and my two younger sisters and

I put on a suprise 80th birthday / family reunion for my mother. We

had it at my sister's house. (She is an EXCELLENT party giver - she

did my daughter's baby shower and it turned out just beautiful). It

was my mother's very first birthday party (outside of our immediate

family). We were working on it, planning, getting recipes, etc. for

the past month. Last week I started the major cooking. The last two

days before the party I only slept 4 hours total. I was taking

Vicadin, Ibuprofen and Tylenol for the pain, but it wasn't helping

much. When I was working at the sink I had to stand on pillows from

the couch because of the intense pain in my feet. When I was at the

stove, I had to kneel on a chair to keep my feet off the ground, the

pain was so bad.

>

> Like a dummy, one of the recipes I decided to make were Sauerkraut

Balls. I've had a taste for them for years and my family loves

sauerkraut! And it only listed three steps! - 1- grind meats & kraut

together, 2- add a doughy base to it (I kept screwing this part up -

whole other story - got about 16 pounds of dough " mistakes " in my

backyard now that I threw out because it didn't turn out: was

suppose to cook 2 cups of milk with 2 cups of flour (times " 8 " of

course - see below) till it came to a " mashed potato consistency " -

yea, right!!! - try it sometime!) and 3- bread and fry - sounded

easy enough! They were the Sauerkraut Balls FROM HELL!!! The recipe

called for a half pound each of three different meats, but I thought

that wouldn't be enough for such a huge gathering (almost a hundred

people) so I bought 3 pounds of each and 14 pounds of kraut!!! What

a MAJOR MAJOR mistake!!! (I never made them before and I don't cook

a lot so I was completely ignorant as to what I was getting myself

into!) My hands hurt so bad, I had a hard time squeezing the kraut

and mixing it.

>

> At 2:30 AM Saturday morning I finished half of the mixture and

finally started frying them. (Now mind you, I started working on

these on Wednesday!) To my horror I realized that I couldn't taste

enough of the sauerkraut flavor and had to run to the store for more

kraut - 28 lbs at 2:30 AM (twelve hourse before the party) !!!!! -

LOL!!!!!!

>

> OMG, I can laugh about it now (most of the swelling has gone

down), but I was ready to cry then. I should have chucked everything

then and there, but I had so much time and money into them already

and had promised them to everyone. (They turned out good though, but

we're gonna be eating sauerkraut balls for the next 6 months, and to

tell you the truth, I don't care if I never see another sauerkraut

ball again in my life!!!

>

> Finally, this past Saturday was the party. I was so sleepy and in

so much pain (hands, ankles and feet completely swollen) that I

couldn't participate the way I would have liked, but the party was

for my mother, not me, so it really didn't matter I guess. But it

turned out beatiful!!! It was blessed - I believe that. We live in

Ohio and her 92 year old uncle from Michigan even came in. My mother

is the type of person who never wants anything for herself. When she

found out the party was for her (she thought it was just a family

reunion) she started sobbing hard. She cried a couple times

throughout the party because she was so moved. She couldn't believe

that all those people came to celebrate her. It was worth all the

time and effort (and pain.) The best part for me was watching my

granddaughter (she'll be 2 in September) dancing polkas on the back

porch (where the speakers were), all by herself, almost all night

long! When one song would end, she would start trying to climb down

the steps from the porch to get back to the rest of the party in the

yard, but then another song would start and she'd run back to porch

and start dancing again! It was almost like she couldn't help

herself! It was SOOOOOO cute! Wish I had a video camera! She was

even trying to get another little boy to dance with her, but he

wasn't interested. My mother says she must have music " in her

blood " , like so many other people in our family do.

>

> But getting back to what you said in this post that really touched

me, here it is:

>

> You said, " This has really been a learning experience for me. I

have done a lot of looking inside and pulling out strength that I

thought was lost. "

>

> And I'd like to add here: " strength that I thought was

lost " ... " AND THAT I DIDN'T REALIZE I EVEN HAD "

>

> Shirley, that is what this disease is doing for me. I've been

pretty much a depressed loner all my life and never really wanted to

do things before (when I could). Now that my ability to do these

things is slipping away, I want to do them! Why does it sometimes

take a major crisis in our life for us to learn simple truths?

>

> I went to the zoo with my daughter and my only grandchild 2 weeks

ago. I didn't think I'd make it, but somehow I did. All of a sudden,

ever since I got this disease, things like this seem so important

now. Making memories for my children, grandchild, family, etc. It

hurts so much but it just seems so important now. This disease is

turning into a learning experience for me also. Thanks for pointing

that out to me.

>

> One more thing I'd like to mention here on this subject: I'm home

with two guys, my husband and my 21 year old son. I've been my

son's " maid-servant " for years and my husband's " emotional punching

bag " for even longer. Being the great codependent that I am, I've

spent most of my life trying to " please " them. But I can't do it

anymore, I just can't. Lo and behold they are finally starting to

help me with things! They are ALSO " growing " from the experience of

this disease. Sometimes I wonder why certain things happen the way

they do, but I truly believe there is a reason for everything.

>

> Thanks for listening,

>

>

> " To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose

under heaven "

>

> [ ] Re: Moved In

>

>

> ,

> It is good to know that you are in your own place now. I know

many

> others are like me, I don't always respond but I do say a prayer

for

> our members encountering difficulties.

> Keep moving forward Hon. When I allow RA to make me stagnant I

> concentrate more on pain and all of the negative effects on my

life.

> This has really been a learning experience for me. I have done a

lot

> of looking inside and pulling out strength that I thought was

lost. I

> have also seen positive and negative in family and friends where

> support for me in concerned. Some just don't get it and I doubt

ever

> will. I have to move forward regardless.

> I am so glad to know that you are doing the same and I really

hope

> that you are happy in your new home. I also hope that what ever

> happens between you and your hubby is the best thing for you.

> Shirley

>

>

>

>

>

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