Re: Worrying occomplishes nothing good....

[Guest guest]

Group and Tawny;

Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how hard it is

to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it helps

me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

gentle hugs

Clora

***************************************************

>

> Clora,

>

> I believe I've had that test. I was hospitalized for pericarditis,

and

> they run a bunch of tests. I will try to stop worring, it will get me

> no where. Thanks for posting though, it helps me a lot.

>

[Guest guest]

I have always been a worry wart, but I know you are right. My mind

never stops, that is one reason its hard for me to sleep. Tawny

>

> Group and Tawny;

>

> Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how hard it is

> to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it helps

> me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

>

> gentle hugs

> Clora

>

[Guest guest]

Barbara,

I just read this email of what you are going thru. I'm so sorry. You sure

did not need that. I hope things work out for you. People have a strange way

of acting when they see the people closest to them hurt. I don't pretend to

know why he's chosing his brother over you right now, guilt maybe? 22 years of

not talking? In any case, i feel for you, you sure did not need to be told

he was thinking of leaving you after all that time. Now, when you need him

the most. Things have a way of working themselves out. Try and stay

positive, keep busy, remember you always have us

Big monster sized hugs for you,

Heidi in Mass

In a message dated 10/16/2008 4:58:31 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

bcreedon@... writes:

Shirley: Thank you for your support and loving prayers. I know there

is nothing anyone can do to help me, but prayers will help. I sure can

use lots of prayers right now. I need to get myself in a calmer state

so I can function each day. Right now I am having lots of services at

home due to my broken shoulder and broken foot. I am having a health

aide, R.N., O.T. and P.T. 3x a week to help with my final recovery.

That is all going so good, but I will not say anything to them about my

current situation. Please keep me in your prayers as I am hurting so

much, and I want to feel better each day. I need all my strength for a

total recovery from my fall. Still trying to just do one day at a time.

God Bless you Shirley, and thanks for caring.

Hugs,

Barbara

> > > >

> > > > Group and Tawny;

> > > >

> > > > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how

> hard it

> > is

> > > > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > > > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it

> helps

> > > > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> > > >

> > > > gentle hugs

> > > > Clora

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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Hi Clora and Tawny:

Here I am at 3 a.m. wide awake, and can't sleep either. I am going

through a situation at home with my husband, and I am either crying or

worrying myself sick. He is thinking of leaving me after 28 years of

marriage. He told me this 3 weeks ago while I was still in the hospital

recovering from my fall. Right now my life is upside down, and my future

is dismal. I think this came about between my fall, and the fact I have

RA. I think he doesn't want to be a caretaker in the future if I get

much, much worse. He has sure blindsided me with all this. I can't

believe he feels this way. I know I was in the hosp. for 7 weeks up

North, but that had to be. He has an identical twin brother who is in a

nursing home with Dementia/Alzheimers, goes 3 days a week for 9 hrs. at

a time. He said he will go anytime, for as long as he wants, until his

brother dies. They are both 64. He told me he has chosen his brother

over me. To say I am devistated, is putting it mildly. When my husband

found his brother in this state, we took him into our home for 3 years,

where I nutured and cared and bathed him, etc. Took him to a Neuro, had

Brain scans, etc. to confirm the diag. He smoked, drank heavily, and

wouldn't take blood pressure meds, etc., causing him to have many

strokes, and fry his brain. Prior to all this, they had nothing to do

with each other for 22 years, even though we lived a mile apart. His

twin was a fowl mouth drunk, always looking for a fight, etc. We did

not live like that, so they parted ways. My husband has given up his

life to be a slave to him now.

I am 68, and never thought this would happen to me. I have read

illnesses, diseases, etc. put a big strain on a marriage, causing them

to fall apart.

I am stressed beyond stressed. I want us to go see a Priest, marriage

councelor, or dr., someone impartial, to help us. He refuses to go.

So here I am, telling all of you what hell I am living in. Our dr. sent

him for a MRI of his Brain Sun. to see if he is starting with the same

disease. He gets the results next week.

All of our family and friends are very angry with him, and he is angry

with me because I told them. I need my family and friends so much.

What a mess this is, and all I need right now is for my RA to flare! I

am trying to go forward, but it is so hard.

Please pray for me and my marriage and that he gets his head on

straight. I can't go through anymore trauma..

Hugs,

Barbara

> >

> > Group and Tawny;

> >

> > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how hard it

is

> > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it helps

> > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> >

> > gentle hugs

> > Clora

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Oh Barbara, hon I am so sorry, so very sorry, I know I don't have the words to

make you feel better, but know we all feel your hurt and are thinking of you.

I will just say from my own experience that sometimes these things do happen for

a reason that may not be apparent at the time. Please try not to let it get to

you. a

[ ] Re: Worrying occomplishes nothing good....

Hi Clora and Tawny:

Here I am at 3 a.m. wide awake, and can't sleep either. I am going

through a situation at home with my husband, and I am either crying or

worrying myself sick. He is thinking of leaving me after 28 years of

marriage. He told me this 3 weeks ago while I was still in the hospital

recovering from my fall. Right now my life is upside down, and my future

is dismal. I think this came about between my fall, and the fact I have

RA. I think he doesn't want to be a caretaker in the future if I get

much, much worse. He has sure blindsided me with all this. I can't

believe he feels this way. I know I was in the hosp. for 7 weeks up

North, but that had to be. He has an identical twin brother who is in a

nursing home with Dementia/Alzheimers, goes 3 days a week for 9 hrs. at

a time. He said he will go anytime, for as long as he wants, until his

brother dies. They are both 64. He told me he has chosen his brother

over me. To say I am devistated, is putting it mildly. When my husband

found his brother in this state, we took him into our home for 3 years,

where I nutured and cared and bathed him, etc. Took him to a Neuro, had

Brain scans, etc. to confirm the diag. He smoked, drank heavily, and

wouldn't take blood pressure meds, etc., causing him to have many

strokes, and fry his brain. Prior to all this, they had nothing to do

with each other for 22 years, even though we lived a mile apart. His

twin was a fowl mouth drunk, always looking for a fight, etc. We did

not live like that, so they parted ways. My husband has given up his

life to be a slave to him now.

I am 68, and never thought this would happen to me. I have read

illnesses, diseases, etc. put a big strain on a marriage, causing them

to fall apart.

I am stressed beyond stressed. I want us to go see a Priest, marriage

councelor, or dr., someone impartial, to help us. He refuses to go.

So here I am, telling all of you what hell I am living in. Our dr. sent

him for a MRI of his Brain Sun. to see if he is starting with the same

disease. He gets the results next week.

All of our family and friends are very angry with him, and he is angry

with me because I told them. I need my family and friends so much.

What a mess this is, and all I need right now is for my RA to flare! I

am trying to go forward, but it is so hard.

Please pray for me and my marriage and that he gets his head on

straight. I can't go through anymore trauma..

Hugs,

Barbara

> >

> > Group and Tawny;

> >

> > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how hard it

is

> > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it helps

> > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> >

> > gentle hugs

> > Clora

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Barbara,

Oh Honey, what a horrible situation for you to be in.

I just can not imagine what he is thinking.

Dear God in Heaven. Please Lord, guide Barbara. She needs your

strength, and help. This is a very dark time for her full of

questions and fears. Father, please be in the middle of this so that

the outcome will be in accordance to your will and not man's.

Please comfort Barbara and take her anxieties. Give her peace with a

resolution that will benefit her and not harm her. In Jesus name,

Amen.

Barbara, I will keep you in prayer. I know that is the best thing

and most powerful thing that I could do for you and yet I wish I

could do more to comfort you.

Shirley

> > >

> > > Group and Tawny;

> > >

> > > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how

hard it

> is

> > > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it

helps

> > > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> > >

> > > gentle hugs

> > > Clora

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks a for your kind note. Just to know you are thinking of me

during this trying time, means a lot to me. I am trying so hard to stop

this worrying........I know it does us no good to do so, but I will try

harder and clear my head of these awful thoughts. I am praying that

things come out better than I think. I know things in life happen for a

reason, but..................never thought this would happen to me.

Hugs,

Barbara

> > >

> > > Group and Tawny;

> > >

> > > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how hard

it

> is

> > > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it

helps

> > > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> > >

> > > gentle hugs

> > > Clora

> > >

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Shirley: Thank you for your support and loving prayers. I know there

is nothing anyone can do to help me, but prayers will help. I sure can

use lots of prayers right now. I need to get myself in a calmer state

so I can function each day. Right now I am having lots of services at

home due to my broken shoulder and broken foot. I am having a health

aide, R.N., O.T. and P.T. 3x a week to help with my final recovery.

That is all going so good, but I will not say anything to them about my

current situation. Please keep me in your prayers as I am hurting so

much, and I want to feel better each day. I need all my strength for a

total recovery from my fall. Still trying to just do one day at a time.

God Bless you Shirley, and thanks for caring.

Hugs,

Barbara

> > > >

> > > > Group and Tawny;

> > > >

> > > > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how

> hard it

> > is

> > > > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > > > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it

> helps

> > > > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> > > >

> > > > gentle hugs

> > > > Clora

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Barbara,

I'm saddened to hear all of this.

Even if your husband doesn't want to go, please do see a priest or

other counselor on your own.

It's possible your husband does have early Alzheimer's and that's why

he's not thinking clearly. There is a strong genetic link.

I'm praying for you.

Not an MD

On Thu, Oct 16, 2008 at 2:45 AM, Barbara <bcreedon@...> wrote:

>

> Hi Clora and Tawny:

>

> Here I am at 3 a.m. wide awake, and can't sleep either. I am going

> through a situation at home with my husband, and I am either crying or

> worrying myself sick. He is thinking of leaving me after 28 years of

> marriage. He told me this 3 weeks ago while I was still in the hospital

> recovering from my fall. Right now my life is upside down, and my future

> is dismal. I think this came about between my fall, and the fact I have

> RA. I think he doesn't want to be a caretaker in the future if I get

> much, much worse. He has sure blindsided me with all this. I can't

> believe he feels this way. I know I was in the hosp. for 7 weeks up

> North, but that had to be. He has an identical twin brother who is in a

> nursing home with Dementia/Alzheimers, goes 3 days a week for 9 hrs. at

> a time. He said he will go anytime, for as long as he wants, until his

> brother dies. They are both 64. He told me he has chosen his brother

> over me. To say I am devistated, is putting it mildly. When my husband

> found his brother in this state, we took him into our home for 3 years,

> where I nutured and cared and bathed him, etc. Took him to a Neuro, had

> Brain scans, etc. to confirm the diag. He smoked, drank heavily, and

> wouldn't take blood pressure meds, etc., causing him to have many

> strokes, and fry his brain. Prior to all this, they had nothing to do

> with each other for 22 years, even though we lived a mile apart. His

> twin was a fowl mouth drunk, always looking for a fight, etc. We did

> not live like that, so they parted ways. My husband has given up his

> life to be a slave to him now.

>

> I am 68, and never thought this would happen to me. I have read

> illnesses, diseases, etc. put a big strain on a marriage, causing them

> to fall apart.

>

> I am stressed beyond stressed. I want us to go see a Priest, marriage

> councelor, or dr., someone impartial, to help us. He refuses to go.

>

> So here I am, telling all of you what hell I am living in. Our dr. sent

> him for a MRI of his Brain Sun. to see if he is starting with the same

> disease. He gets the results next week.

>

> All of our family and friends are very angry with him, and he is angry

> with me because I told them. I need my family and friends so much.

>

> What a mess this is, and all I need right now is for my RA to flare! I

> am trying to go forward, but it is so hard.

>

> Please pray for me and my marriage and that he gets his head on

> straight. I can't go through anymore trauma..

>

> Hugs,

>

> Barbara

[Guest guest]

Oh Barbara, my heart goes out to you!

That's horrible what your husband is putting you through. I agree that

you really need to talk to someone impartial about this. Will be happy

to keep you in my prayers also.

soft hugs,

Debbie L

>

>

> Hi Clora and Tawny:

>

> Here I am at 3 a.m. wide awake, and can't sleep either. I am going

> through a situation at home with my husband, and I am either crying or

> worrying myself sick. He is thinking of leaving me after 28 years of

> marriage.> >

>

[Guest guest]

Barbara,

I'm so sorry my friend. I will keep you, and family in my prayers.

Would you please write me off the board, I am here for you.

Tawny

> > >

> > > Group and Tawny;

> > >

> > > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how hard

it

> is

> > > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it

helps

> > > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> > >

> > > gentle hugs

> > > Clora

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you for your support and prayers. I need them so much. I will

def. contact you off line.

Hugs,

Barbara

> > > >

> > > > Group and Tawny;

> > > >

> > > > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how hard

> it

> > is

> > > > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > > > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it

> helps

> > > > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> > > >

> > > > gentle hugs

> > > > Clora

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Debbie for your loving support and prayers. Today was a

terrible day. I pray tomorrow will be better.

> >

> >

> > Hi Clora and Tawny:

> >

> > Here I am at 3 a.m. wide awake, and can't sleep either. I am going

> > through a situation at home with my husband, and I am either crying

or

> > worrying myself sick. He is thinking of leaving me after 28 years of

> > marriage.> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you for your kind words. I know he is genetically

pre-disposed for this illness. He will get the MRI results next week.

Yes, I intend to see our priest, even if he refuses to go.

> >

> > Hi Clora and Tawny:

> >

> > Here I am at 3 a.m. wide awake, and can't sleep either. I am going

> > through a situation at home with my husband, and I am either crying

or

> > worrying myself sick. He is thinking of leaving me after 28 years of

> > marriage. He told me this 3 weeks ago while I was still in the

hospital

> > recovering from my fall. Right now my life is upside down, and my

future

> > is dismal. I think this came about between my fall, and the fact I

have

> > RA. I think he doesn't want to be a caretaker in the future if I get

> > much, much worse. He has sure blindsided me with all this. I can't

> > believe he feels this way. I know I was in the hosp. for 7 weeks up

> > North, but that had to be. He has an identical twin brother who is

in a

> > nursing home with Dementia/Alzheimers, goes 3 days a week for 9 hrs.

at

> > a time. He said he will go anytime, for as long as he wants, until

his

> > brother dies. They are both 64. He told me he has chosen his brother

> > over me. To say I am devistated, is putting it mildly. When my

husband

> > found his brother in this state, we took him into our home for 3

years,

> > where I nutured and cared and bathed him, etc. Took him to a Neuro,

had

> > Brain scans, etc. to confirm the diag. He smoked, drank heavily, and

> > wouldn't take blood pressure meds, etc., causing him to have many

> > strokes, and fry his brain. Prior to all this, they had nothing to

do

> > with each other for 22 years, even though we lived a mile apart. His

> > twin was a fowl mouth drunk, always looking for a fight, etc. We did

> > not live like that, so they parted ways. My husband has given up his

> > life to be a slave to him now.

> >

> > I am 68, and never thought this would happen to me. I have read

> > illnesses, diseases, etc. put a big strain on a marriage, causing

them

> > to fall apart.

> >

> > I am stressed beyond stressed. I want us to go see a Priest,

marriage

> > councelor, or dr., someone impartial, to help us. He refuses to go.

> >

> > So here I am, telling all of you what hell I am living in. Our dr.

sent

> > him for a MRI of his Brain Sun. to see if he is starting with the

same

> > disease. He gets the results next week.

> >

> > All of our family and friends are very angry with him, and he is

angry

> > with me because I told them. I need my family and friends so much.

> >

> > What a mess this is, and all I need right now is for my RA to flare!

I

> > am trying to go forward, but it is so hard.

> >

> > Please pray for me and my marriage and that he gets his head on

> > straight. I can't go through anymore trauma..

> >

> > Hugs,

> >

> > Barbara

>

[Guest guest]

 Thank you for your big monster hug!!  I sure do need it today!  I think guilt

is motivating him, but what a thing to tell me now when I need him.  I am doing

great with the broken shoulder and broken foot.

I do everything for myself, do not need any help at all.  Went to the dr. today,

still wants me to keep the cast on my foot.  Also can start gentle P.T. on my

shoulder.  I am having the PT at home. 

     I never thought anything like this would happen to me.  He sure blind sided

me.  I am trying to be calm, but my head is swimming from all this.

     I was so upset last night, and just had to vent with our group..  I can't

believe I told them, but I was so miserable, and finding this too much to

handle.  I am trying to be strong and not fall apart.  Not easy to do.

     I am happy to hear from you as always.  I am so happy to be in our

wonderful group.

     God Bless you Heidi.  Thanks for caring about me.

Hugs,

Barbara

From: sposy@... <sposy@...>

Subject: Re: [ ] Re: Worrying occomplishes nothing good....

Date: Thursday, October 16, 2008, 3:49 AM

Barbara,

I just read this email of what you are going thru. I'm so sorry. You sure

did not need that. I hope things work out for you. People have a strange way

of acting when they see the people closest to them hurt. I don't pretend to

know why he's chosing his brother over you right now, guilt maybe? 22 years of

not talking? In any case, i feel for you, you sure did not need to be told

he was thinking of leaving you after all that time. Now, when you need him

the most. Things have a way of working themselves out. Try and stay

positive, keep busy, remember you always have us

Big monster sized hugs for you,

Heidi in Mass

In a message dated 10/16/2008 4:58:31 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

bcreedon (DOT) com writes:

Shirley: Thank you for your support and loving prayers. I know there

is nothing anyone can do to help me, but prayers will help. I sure can

use lots of prayers right now. I need to get myself in a calmer state

so I can function each day. Right now I am having lots of services at

home due to my broken shoulder and broken foot. I am having a health

aide, R.N., O.T. and P.T. 3x a week to help with my final recovery.

That is all going so good, but I will not say anything to them about my

current situation. Please keep me in your prayers as I am hurting so

much, and I want to feel better each day. I need all my strength for a

total recovery from my fall. Still trying to just do one day at a time.

God Bless you Shirley, and thanks for caring.

Hugs,

Barbara

> > > >

> > > > Group and Tawny;

> > > >

> > > > Great you know what I am talking about Tawny.... I know how

> hard it

> > is

> > > > to stop worrying I am sure everyone here knows that.... If I

> > > > remember,,,, worrying does not occomplish anything good,,, it

> helps

> > > > me to stop worrying... God bless you and take care..

> > > >

> > > > gentle hugs

> > > > Clora

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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BARBARA

Omg honey,,, What hell your going through... First and formost don't

blame yourself... I can see it's not your fault in any way fashion or

form... Let me also say I am very glad you told us.. Talking about

it to someone will bring it into light.. So,,, he got mad when you

told someone... I am sure he had an ulteral motive for that too...

Believe me when I say that he has not chosen his brother over you...

It's not because you have RA or need a caretaker.... He is not

telling you the truth... I am on the outside looking in.... In my

opinion you deserve better..

I have been there Barbara.. My first husband and I divorced... I

won't go into the details but it sounds similar to your delema... I

got over him and got on with my life... I had 2 children by him so

it was very hard for me to get over him..

Yes sweety see a Priest,, Doctor and/or counselor... I am sure

talking about it will help a lot... What your going through is the

second worst pain there is... First is losing a love one..

I felt that if he was dead I could take it better at least there was

not another woman in his life.. But I soon gave up on that idea..

Prison is not a pretty plase...

Barbara I am so so so sorry that you have to go through this.. Your

not alone we are here for you... I know I speak for all those that

know you here... when I say that we care very much for you.. You have

been a great help to all of us...

Try to carry on... I know I said that worrying never occomplishes

anything good... and I still mean it... but how does one not worry..

First start by everytime you think of that subject ,,, change it

immediately... the rest is easy...

Please keep me updated on your progress and send me email if you need

to talk privately... I really mean this... I will even call you if

you want me too... God bless and take care you are always in my

prayers...

gentle kind hugs

Clora May

**************************************************************

> Hi Clora and Tawny:

>

> Here I am at 3 a.m. wide awake, and can't sleep either. I am going

> through a situation at home with my husband, and I am either crying

or

> worrying myself sick. He is thinking of leaving me after 28 years

of

> marriage. He told me this 3 weeks ago while I was still in the

hospital

> recovering from my fall. Right now my life is upside down, and my

future

> is dismal. I think this came about between my fall, and the fact I

have

> RA. I think he doesn't want to be a caretaker in the future if I

get

> much, much worse. He has sure blindsided me with all this. I can't

> believe he feels this way. I know I was in the hosp. for 7 weeks up

> North, but that had to be. He has an identical twin brother who is

in a

> nursing home with Dementia/Alzheimers, goes 3 days a week for 9

hrs. at

> a time. He said he will go anytime, for as long as he wants, until

his

> brother dies. They are both 64. He told me he has chosen his

brother

> over me. To say I am devistated, is putting it mildly. When my

husband

> found his brother in this state, we took him into our home for 3

years,

> where I nutured and cared and bathed him, etc. Took him to a

Neuro, had

> Brain scans, etc. to confirm the diag. He smoked, drank heavily,

and

> wouldn't take blood pressure meds, etc., causing him to have many

> strokes, and fry his brain. Prior to all this, they had nothing to

do

> with each other for 22 years, even though we lived a mile apart.

His

> twin was a fowl mouth drunk, always looking for a fight, etc. We

did

> not live like that, so they parted ways. My husband has given up

his

> life to be a slave to him now.

>

> I am 68, and never thought this would happen to me. I have read

> illnesses, diseases, etc. put a big strain on a marriage, causing

them

> to fall apart.

>

> I am stressed beyond stressed. I want us to go see a Priest,

marriage

> councelor, or dr., someone impartial, to help us. He refuses to go.

>

> So here I am, telling all of you what hell I am living in. Our dr.

sent

> him for a MRI of his Brain Sun. to see if he is starting with the

same

> disease. He gets the results next week.

>

> All of our family and friends are very angry with him, and he is

angry

> with me because I told them. I need my family and friends so much.

>

> What a mess this is, and all I need right now is for my RA to

flare! I

> am trying to go forward, but it is so hard.

>

> Please pray for me and my marriage and that he gets his head on

> straight. I can't go through anymore trauma..

>

> Hugs,

>

> Barbara

[Guest guest]

Heavenly father I stand in agreement with this prayer from Shirley

Clora May

******************************************************************

> Barbara,

> Oh Honey, what a horrible situation for you to be in.

> I just can not imagine what he is thinking.

>

> Dear God in Heaven. Please Lord, guide Barbara. She needs your

> strength, and help. This is a very dark time for her full of

> questions and fears. Father, please be in the middle of this so

that

> the outcome will be in accordance to your will and not man's.

> Please comfort Barbara and take her anxieties. Give her peace with

a

> resolution that will benefit her and not harm her. In Jesus name,

> Amen.

>

> Barbara, I will keep you in prayer. I know that is the best thing

> and most powerful thing that I could do for you and yet I wish I

> could do more to comfort you.

> Shirley

>

>

[Guest guest]

Barbara and group;

Barbara please keep your faith.. Faith is what healed the lady with

the issue of Blood... Faith is what made the blind see and the lame

walk.. It was their faith in God that did it... I know you know this

just a reminder...

Clora

> Thanks a for your kind note. Just to know you are thinking of

me

> during this trying time, means a lot to me. I am trying so hard to

stop

> this worrying........I know it does us no good to do so, but I will

try

> harder and clear my head of these awful thoughts. I am praying that

> things come out better than I think. I know things in life happen

for a

> reason, but..................never thought this would happen to me.

>

> Hugs,

>

> Barbara

>

> >

> > Oh Barbara, hon I am so sorry, so very sorry, I know I don't have

the

> words to make you feel better, but know we all feel your hurt and

are

> thinking of you. I will just say from my own experience that

sometimes

> these things do happen for a reason that may not be apparent at the

> time. Please try not to let it get to you. a

> > [ ] Re: Worrying occomplishes nothing good....

>

[Guest guest]

Oh Clora:

Thank you for your kind, loving words. I pray so much I think I am

frying my brain, ha ha ha. I am just taking things moment by moment,

day by day. That is all I can handle right now.

I saw the Ortho. dr. yesterday, my shoulder is healing well, and I will

start more P.T. on it today. My foot is doing great, but I will need to

have the cast on for another month. I am feeling so good, my RA is

quiet (thank God), and I am happy to be home.

The weather is perfect here now, which I love. I was so sick of that

awful heat and humidity.

Went food shopping yesterday, and used the elec. cart. My God, I

crashed into shelves, people were running the other way from me. ha ha

ha. I can laugh about it now!! I have to get used to using one of

these, but it did make it so much easier to shop.

I am happy your new meds. are helping you. I hope they continue to do

so. I know you have a lot to bear each day, but I know your faith in

God helps you so much.

God Bless you always, and I am always so happy to hear from you.

Wishing you pain free days.

Hugs,

Barbara

> > >

> > > Oh Barbara, hon I am so sorry, so very sorry, I know I don't have

> the

> > words to make you feel better, but know we all feel your hurt and

> are

> > thinking of you. I will just say from my own experience that

> sometimes

> > these things do happen for a reason that may not be apparent at the

> > time. Please try not to let it get to you. a

> > > [ ] Re: Worrying occomplishes nothing good....

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Clora and Shirley:

Your prayers mean so much to me. You are both so loving and caring

people. I am glad I know you both.

God Bless you both, in all ways. Thanks so much.

Wishing you both, pain free days

Hugs,

Barbara

>

>

>

> Heavenly father I stand in agreement with this prayer from Shirley

>

> Clora May

>

> ******************************************************************

>

> > Barbara,

> > Oh Honey, what a horrible situation for you to be in.

> > I just can not imagine what he is thinking.

> >

> > Dear God in Heaven. Please Lord, guide Barbara. She needs your

> > strength, and help. This is a very dark time for her full of

> > questions and fears. Father, please be in the middle of this so

> that

> > the outcome will be in accordance to your will and not man's.

> > Please comfort Barbara and take her anxieties. Give her peace with

> a

> > resolution that will benefit her and not harm her. In Jesus name,

> > Amen.

> >

> > Barbara, I will keep you in prayer. I know that is the best thing

> > and most powerful thing that I could do for you and yet I wish I

> > could do more to comfort you.

> > Shirley

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Barbara and group;

Haaaaaaa.. I did the same thing when I first used the scooters at

walmart... Once you get use to driving the scooters they are

easier... I usually stop suddenly and my husband almost runs the

cart into the scooter haaaaaaaa...

My husband was sitting on the chair reading the newspaper,,, and I

laughted out loud... He said whats so funny,, I said my friend

Barbara ran into the shelves at the store on a scooter he laughed

too...

Your so right Barbara I need my faith also and try to keep it... I

also take one day at a time.. I just woke up about an hour ago and it

was so easy to get out of bed;;;; no struggeling moaning from the

pain,,, I just gently raised up and that was it... Thank you heavenly

father for this new day...

I am so happy to hear your healing good... Yes,,, I know how good it

feels to be home from going on a trip... I been thinking of you

through the day.... I know you are taking it an hour at a time..

since I have been through this too...

Your very welcome Barbara;;;; You have really got me through the ruff

time before I got the prednsone and than the humira... We are there

for each other... Moment bye moment is a hard way to get through the

day... As time goes it it will be day by day and than one day you

realize your not thinking about the broken heart...

Has your hubby moved out... Maybe he will come to his sences... I

wouldn't let him continueing running around while he is liveig with

you... Know what I mean wink wink.... I pray you decide quickly

cause its just dragging the pain on...

take care Barbara and keep your faith... Blessing

gentle hugs

Clora

*************************************************************

>

> Oh Clora:

>

> Thank you for your kind, loving words. I pray so much I think I am

> frying my brain, ha ha ha. I am just taking things moment by

moment,

> day by day. That is all I can handle right now.

>

> I saw the Ortho. dr. yesterday, my shoulder is healing well, and I

will

> start more P.T. on it today. My foot is doing great, but I will

need to

> have the cast on for another month. I am feeling so good, my RA is

> quiet (thank God), and I am happy to be home.

>

> The weather is perfect here now, which I love. I was so sick of

that

> awful heat and humidity.

>

> Went food shopping yesterday, and used the elec. cart. My God, I

> crashed into shelves, people were running the other way from me. ha

ha

> ha. I can laugh about it now!! I have to get used to using one of

> these, but it did make it so much easier to shop.

>

> I am happy your new meds. are helping you. I hope they continue to

do

> so. I know you have a lot to bear each day, but I know your faith

in

> God helps you so much.

>

> God Bless you always, and I am always so happy to hear from you.

>

[Guest guest]

Clora: Thank you for your kind, caring, and loving post. You are a

beautiful, caring soul. God Bless you always.

I am doing good, putting good thoughts in my mind. It does helps so

much. Thanks.

I forgot how to clear all the extra post here. It is getting to long!!

Help!!!

Hugs,

Barbara

>

> BARBARA

>

> Omg honey,,, What hell your going through... First and formost don't

> blame yourself... I can see it's not your fault in any way fashion or

> form... Let me also say I am very glad you told us.. Talking about

> it to someone will bring it into light.. So,,, he got mad when you

> told someone... I am sure he had an ulteral motive for that too...

>

> Believe me when I say that he has not chosen his brother over you...

> It's not because you have RA or need a caretaker.... He is not

> telling you the truth... I am on the outside looking in.... In my

> opinion you deserve better..

>

> I have been there Barbara.. My first husband and I divorced... I

> won't go into the details but it sounds similar to your delema... I

> got over him and got on with my life... I had 2 children by him so

> it was very hard for me to get over him..

>

> Yes sweety see a Priest,, Doctor and/or counselor... I am sure

> talking about it will help a lot... What your going through is the

> second worst pain there is... First is losing a love one..

>

> I felt that if he was dead I could take it better at least there was

> not another woman in his life.. But I soon gave up on that idea..

> Prison is not a pretty plase...

>

> Barbara I am so so so sorry that you have to go through this.. Your

> not alone we are here for you... I know I speak for all those that

> know you here... when I say that we care very much for you.. You have

> been a great help to all of us...

>

> Try to carry on... I know I said that worrying never occomplishes

> anything good... and I still mean it... but how does one not worry..

> First start by everytime you think of that subject ,,, change it

> immediately... the rest is easy...

>

> Please keep me updated on your progress and send me email if you need

> to talk privately... I really mean this... I will even call you if

> you want me too... God bless and take care you are always in my

> prayers...

>

> gentle kind hugs

> Clora May

>

> **************************************************************

>

>

> > Hi Clora and Tawny:

> >

> > Here I am at 3 a.m. wide awake, and can't sleep either. I am going

> > through a situation at home with my husband, and I am either crying

> or

> > worrying myself sick. He is thinking of leaving me after 28 years

> of

> > marriage. He told me this 3 weeks ago while I was still in the

> hospital

> > recovering from my fall. Right now my life is upside down, and my

> future

> > is dismal. I think this came about between my fall, and the fact I

> have

> > RA. I think he doesn't want to be a caretaker in the future if I

> get

> > much, much worse. He has sure blindsided me with all this. I can't

> > believe he feels this way. I know I was in the hosp. for 7 weeks up

> > North, but that had to be. He has an identical twin brother who is

> in a

> > nursing home with Dementia/Alzheimers, goes 3 days a week for 9

> hrs. at

> > a time. He said he will go anytime, for as long as he wants, until

> his

> > brother dies. They are both 64. He told me he has chosen his

> brother

> > over me. To say I am devistated, is putting it mildly. When my

> husband

> > found his brother in this state, we took him into our home for 3

> years,

> > where I nutured and cared and bathed him, etc. Took him to a

> Neuro, had

> > Brain scans, etc. to confirm the diag. He smoked, drank heavily,

> and

> > wouldn't take blood pressure meds, etc., causing him to have many

> > strokes, and fry his brain. Prior to all this, they had nothing to

> do

> > with each other for 22 years, even though we lived a mile apart.

> His

> > twin was a fowl mouth drunk, always looking for a fight, etc. We

> did

> > not live like that, so they parted ways. My husband has given up

> his

> > life to be a slave to him now.

> >

> > I am 68, and never thought this would happen to me. I have read

> > illnesses, diseases, etc. put a big strain on a marriage, causing

> them

> > to fall apart.

> >

> > I am stressed beyond stressed. I want us to go see a Priest,

> marriage

> > councelor, or dr., someone impartial, to help us. He refuses to go.

> >

> > So here I am, telling all of you what hell I am living in. Our dr.

> sent

> > him for a MRI of his Brain Sun. to see if he is starting with the

> same

> > disease. He gets the results next week.

> >

> > All of our family and friends are very angry with him, and he is

> angry

> > with me because I told them. I need my family and friends so much.

> >

> > What a mess this is, and all I need right now is for my RA to

> flare! I

> > am trying to go forward, but it is so hard.

> >

> > Please pray for me and my marriage and that he gets his head on

> > straight. I can't go through anymore trauma..

> >

> > Hugs,

> >

> > Barbara

>

[Guest guest]

Barbara and group;

Your very welcome Barbara your a very kind and caring person also...

God blesss you to hon... I know how hard it is to not think of

painful things in our lives.. The important thing is once we try each

day its gets easier...

If you have that many post just delete them and start from scratch we

would understand... I figure you got hundreds of post... If you dont

want to delete them read them and send one long post how happy we

make you feel and tell us a lot of nice things in one post instead of

writting hundreds of post (haaaaaaaaaaa) Laughing cause I said tell

us how nice we are....

We all care about you Barbara... I know cause I have been reading

some heart felt post to you... Don't worry about writting each one

just write a big ones thanking us all at one time hee hee..

gentle hugs

Clora

**************************************************************

> Clora: Thank you for your kind, caring, and loving post. You are a

> beautiful, caring soul. God Bless you always.

>

> I am doing good, putting good thoughts in my mind. It does helps so

> much. Thanks.

>

> I forgot how to clear all the extra post here. It is getting to

long!!

> Help!!!

>

> Hugs,

>

> Barbara

>

[Guest guest]

Clora and Group:

I love you all, and I am happy for your support and many prayers. I am

doing better, thanks to all your kind posts. How lucky we all are that

we have each other, in our wonderful group.

Wishing everyone pain free days. God Bless you all.

Hugs,

Barbara

>

>

>

> Barbara and group;

>

> Your very welcome Barbara your a very kind and caring person also...

> God blesss you to hon... I know how hard it is to not think of

> painful things in our lives.. The important thing is once we try each

> day its gets easier...

>

> If you have that many post just delete them and start from scratch we

> would understand... I figure you got hundreds of post... If you dont

> want to delete them read them and send one long post how happy we

> make you feel and tell us a lot of nice things in one post instead of

> writting hundreds of post (haaaaaaaaaaa) Laughing cause I said tell

> us how nice we are....

>

> We all care about you Barbara... I know cause I have been reading

> some heart felt post to you... Don't worry about writting each one

> just write a big ones thanking us all at one time hee hee..

>

> gentle hugs

> Clora

> **************************************************************

>

>

>

>

> > Clora: Thank you for your kind, caring, and loving post. You are a

> > beautiful, caring soul. God Bless you always.

> >

> > I am doing good, putting good thoughts in my mind. It does helps so

> > much. Thanks.

> >

> > I forgot how to clear all the extra post here. It is getting to

> long!!

> > Help!!!

> >

> > Hugs,

> >

> > Barbara

> >

>