Update: Anybody with experience with Nada's in therapy?

[Guest guest]

I talked to my sister today. My Nada is frantically trying to keep her

once a week therapy sessions. She offered to pay for 1 a month

(probably all she can afford).

She mailed my sister the bill today as usual and when my sis opened it,

there was a note from Nada. She wrote:

" If you, your brother and sister can all pay for 1 session, and I pay

for 1, I can still go once a week. "

I can't begin to explain how much this pisses me off. The NERVE of this

woman to suggest that each of her kids pay $150 a month for her. She

doesnt even flinch when she puts her hand out. Not to mention, I have 3

kids under 3- if I have an extra $150 I'd like to use it for day care

so when I'm baking a 5 tiered wedding cake, I don't have to do it with

kids climbing all over me (I do custom cakes and I work out of my

home). I basically work full time AND run a damn daycare. I wake up all

night with a newborn and my husband is NEVER here. He works 80 hours a

week and his work takes him out of the area 2-3 times a week so I'm

basically a single mom. I would LOVE to have $150 to have a housekeeper

or take a spa day or have the kids in daycare while I decorate

something that has to be perfect. But nooooooo.... Nada thinks my hard

earned money is better spent on taking care of something SHE needs.

All she thinks about is herself. I could see if she truly recognized

that she has a problem and is trying to improve herself but I'm

starting to think she just is a narcissist and wants someone's

undivided attention. She feels like we owe her this therapy because she

has " sacrificed " so much for us. BS!!!!!!

My sister and I had a long talk about all the great feedback you all

offered on my last post. We still feel that we have to give the therapy

a good run. However, my sister is worried that my mom is going to

continue to go once a week, even though my sister has cut her down to

twice a month. She will just keep going and then mail my sister the

bill. This is totally something she would do.

If she does this, we agreed to cut her off completly. My sister is

going to call and officially set the boundry. She is going to say " if

you decide to continue to go, against my request, and try to send me

the bill, I will no longer pay for any sessions and the bill you sent

me will be your responsibilty. "

The therapist doesn't have any information for my sister. No social or

address. It all goes through my mom.

Personally, after reading all your posts, I am really starting to feel

like this isnt going to work. I think she is in love with therapy

because she feels like she has been so abused by those around her (us-

the children included)that she deserves it. Even writing this makes me

so angry, I want to just call her up and cuss her out (which she would

love because then she can validate her victim pity party).

There are 2 possible outcomes here. 1: She gets better. 2: She blows it

and doesn't change.

Either way it goes, we win, If she blows it, we can at least be NC

guilt free.

Sorry about the vent in the middle.

[Guest guest]

If you kids are paying, you have a right to know the progress, if there has been

any.  Also, can sis call and notify the T or his/her office that services will

only be paid for if it is X times per month?

 

Take Care Of You,

JaneSoul

Update: Anybody with experience with Nada's in

therapy?

I talked to my sister today. My Nada is frantically trying to keep her

once a week therapy sessions. She offered to pay for 1 a month

(probably all she can afford)..

She mailed my sister the bill today as usual and when my sis opened it,

there was a note from Nada. She wrote:

" If you, your brother and sister can all pay for 1 session, and I pay

for 1, I can still go once a week. "

I can't begin to explain how much this pisses me off. The NERVE of this

woman to suggest that each of her kids pay $150 a month for her. She

doesnt even flinch when she puts her hand out. Not to mention, I have 3

kids under 3- if I have an extra $150 I'd like to use it for day care

so when I'm baking a 5 tiered wedding cake, I don't have to do it with

kids climbing all over me (I do custom cakes and I work out of my

home). I basically work full time AND run a damn daycare. I wake up all

night with a newborn and my husband is NEVER here. He works 80 hours a

week and his work takes him out of the area 2-3 times a week so I'm

basically a single mom. I would LOVE to have $150 to have a housekeeper

or take a spa day or have the kids in daycare while I decorate

something that has to be perfect. But nooooooo.... Nada thinks my hard

earned money is better spent on taking care of something SHE needs.

All she thinks about is herself. I could see if she truly recognized

that she has a problem and is trying to improve herself but I'm

starting to think she just is a narcissist and wants someone's

undivided attention. She feels like we owe her this therapy because she

has " sacrificed " so much for us. BS!!!!!!

My sister and I had a long talk about all the great feedback you all

offered on my last post. We still feel that we have to give the therapy

a good run. However, my sister is worried that my mom is going to

continue to go once a week, even though my sister has cut her down to

twice a month. She will just keep going and then mail my sister the

bill. This is totally something she would do.

If she does this, we agreed to cut her off completly. My sister is

going to call and officially set the boundry. She is going to say " if

you decide to continue to go, against my request, and try to send me

the bill, I will no longer pay for any sessions and the bill you sent

me will be your responsibilty. "

The therapist doesn't have any information for my sister. No social or

address. It all goes through my mom.

Personally, after reading all your posts, I am really starting to feel

like this isnt going to work. I think she is in love with therapy

because she feels like she has been so abused by those around her (us-

the children included)that she deserves it. Even writing this makes me

so angry, I want to just call her up and cuss her out (which she would

love because then she can validate her victim pity party).

There are 2 possible outcomes here. 1: She gets better. 2: She blows it

and doesn't change.

Either way it goes, we win, If she blows it, we can at least be NC

guilt free.

Sorry about the vent in the middle.