The fun continues

June 30, 2008

Here's the latest email to my brother...and who's the " abusive " one?(Brother is

Matt and I am Dawn.)

A painter will be over tomorrow to do some more painting. He feels so

embarrassed that I have a so-called son who treats his mom the way you do me.

Wait till I tell him that you threatened to call the police on me. Do you have

any idea how sick that is? When are you going to take your skirt off and put

some pants on so Dawn doesn't have to take care of you any more. You have hurt

so many people by not being responsible. You have no idea how sorry you are

going to be some day and then for the rest of your life.

Chapter 11 ... " you may wonder why, if abusive men feel so justified in their

actions, they distort their stories so much when seeking support. First, an

abuser doesn " t want to have to explain his worst behaviors ..... his outright

cruelty, for example, to people who might find those acts distasteful, and he

may not feel confident that his jujstifications will be accepted. Second, he

may carry guilt or shame about his worst acts, as most abusers do: his desire to

esvape thaose feelings is part of why he looks for validation from other people

(Dawn in particular), which relieves any nagging self-doubt. He considers his

guilt feelings a weakness to be overcome. And, last, he may lie bcause he has

convinced himself of his own distortions. He believes his fabrications to be

real especially if he is narcissistic. " Anyone think you are narcissistic

Matt? Does your wife think you are?

I hate you for hurting so many people. I wanted so much to be a grandma. Two

little innocent girls are paying the price because you are a coward Matt. Dawn

will pay the price later. Now I have to re-identify who I am and start a new

life. I feel absolutely no love for you right now. You have always been a

spoiled brat. You have always been a self-sentered, selfish bully.

Run to Dawn now so she can take care of you.

Take Care Of You,

JaneSoul

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