Guest guest Posted July 14, 2008 Report Share Posted July 14, 2008 I recently found out that my father had an EKG that indicates there is a problem with his heart. Did my mother tell me? NO! Even though she tells me details of the neighbor's health problems and details about everything else that I don't care about. She didn't tell my brother either, but my SIL who she doesn't have a good relationship with and rarely talks to. What's the game? I just don't understand anymore. Just about the time I make sense of this BPD stuff, then there is a new trick. I am guessing if I confronted her about it, the answer would be something about since i moved so far away (all of 5 hours) that she didn't want to bother me. She won't stop attempting to micromanage my life or control me from 5 hours away, but I suppose I will be " punished " in situations such as this. Apparently she was talking about my father's life insurance policy in the same conversation. Unbelievable!! I cannot stay awake since I found this out. I supposedly have chronic fatigue issues, but I really wonder if I had a normal family how much fatigue I would have. I was so happy right after I moved and so energetic because I thought I had escaped, but I was wrong. I never confront my mother and until I do and continue to talk to her almost daily, I am going to feel like I have something huge pulling me down all of the time. le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2008 Report Share Posted July 14, 2008 My nada has done the same thing to me for years! I have found out after the fact that my dad has been in the hospital for heart attacks, was being treated for prostate cancer, and the topper was when I was a kid she waited an entire week to tell me that my little sister was murdered and EVERYONE including neighbors and extended family already knew and were told by her not to tell me. I figure it is just her way of rejecting and excluding me. It sends the clear message that I don't count. It really sucks and has made me very sensitive to people " not telling me " stuff. For me, the best thing I ever did was going NC with my nada and dad. I no longer feel bad about myself on a daily basis because of her. For me, being NC has allowed me the space to work on my own issues without constantly being pulled back down to her level. > > I recently found out that my father had an EKG that indicates there is > a problem with his heart. Did my mother tell me? NO! Even though > she tells me details of the neighbor's health problems and details > about everything else that I don't care about. She didn't tell my > brother either, but my SIL who she doesn't have a good relationship > with and rarely talks to. What's the game? I just don't understand > anymore. Just about the time I make sense of this BPD stuff, then > there is a new trick. I am guessing if I confronted her about it, the > answer would be something about since i moved so far away (all of 5 > hours) that she didn't want to bother me. She won't stop attempting > to micromanage my life or control me from 5 hours away, but I suppose > I will be " punished " in situations such as this. Apparently she was > talking about my father's life insurance policy in the same > conversation. Unbelievable!! > > I cannot stay awake since I found this out. I supposedly have chronic > fatigue issues, but I really wonder if I had a normal family how much > fatigue I would have. I was so happy right after I moved and so > energetic because I thought I had escaped, but I was wrong. I never > confront my mother and until I do and continue to talk to her almost > daily, I am going to feel like I have something huge pulling me down > all of the time. > > le > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2008 Report Share Posted July 14, 2008 BPDs LOVE to control information -- especially important, " dramatic " information. This is another one of the ways they keep attention on themselves, and wield power over everyone else. They LOVE this game. -Kyla > > I recently found out that my father had an EKG that indicates there is > a problem with his heart. Did my mother tell me? NO! Even though > she tells me details of the neighbor's health problems and details > about everything else that I don't care about. She didn't tell my > brother either, but my SIL who she doesn't have a good relationship > with and rarely talks to. What's the game? I just don't understand > anymore. Just about the time I make sense of this BPD stuff, then > there is a new trick. I am guessing if I confronted her about it, the > answer would be something about since i moved so far away (all of 5 > hours) that she didn't want to bother me. She won't stop attempting > to micromanage my life or control me from 5 hours away, but I suppose > I will be " punished " in situations such as this. Apparently she was > talking about my father's life insurance policy in the same > conversation. Unbelievable!! > > I cannot stay awake since I found this out. I supposedly have chronic > fatigue issues, but I really wonder if I had a normal family how much > fatigue I would have. I was so happy right after I moved and so > energetic because I thought I had escaped, but I was wrong. I never > confront my mother and until I do and continue to talk to her almost > daily, I am going to feel like I have something huge pulling me down > all of the time. > > le > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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