Advice on daling with BPD friend

[Guest guest]

I am sure this dear friedn of mine is BPD. I've been

reading " Understanding the Borderline Mother " and while I was certainly

not looking for it, I see her to a " t " in the Waif and the " Queen " .

It's uncanny how she fits these descriptions!

Anyway, she totally ditched me for my son's b-day party this weekend

basically telling me she was far too busy for me and MY family. Now

she's just written me a note dumping on me about her financial worries

and " O how did you ever turn your own finances around? " This would be

the 100th time I've tried to give her advice that she's asked for

regarding this issue. And I think it's another " come rescue me " request

anyway. I feel so used by her all the time. she can't go out of her way

even for a second to be at my dear son's first b-day, and then she

turns around and asks for rescuing?

Sorry for venting. Anyway, how should I respond, or SHOULD I respond? I

refuse to keep getting used by her, and I feel she really needs to

start showing me she's actually MY friend too, and not just that I'm

HER friend. Suggestions? I'm pretty angry right now.

[Guest guest]

oops. " daling " = " dealing " .

>

> I am sure this dear friedn of mine is BPD. I've been

> reading " Understanding the Borderline Mother " and while I was

certainly

> not looking for it, I see her to a " t " in the Waif and

the " Queen " .

> It's uncanny how she fits these descriptions!

> Anyway, she totally ditched me for my son's b-day party this

weekend

> basically telling me she was far too busy for me and MY family. Now

> she's just written me a note dumping on me about her financial

worries

> and " O how did you ever turn your own finances around? " This would

be

> the 100th time I've tried to give her advice that she's asked for

> regarding this issue. And I think it's another " come rescue me "

request

> anyway. I feel so used by her all the time. she can't go out of her

way

> even for a second to be at my dear son's first b-day, and then she

> turns around and asks for rescuing?

> Sorry for venting. Anyway, how should I respond, or SHOULD I

respond? I

> refuse to keep getting used by her, and I feel she really needs to

> start showing me she's actually MY friend too, and not just that

I'm

> HER friend. Suggestions? I'm pretty angry right now.

>