Guest guest Posted May 24, 2000 Report Share Posted May 24, 2000 , I am glad everything is great with your new niece. I can understand how you must have felt. Its great when you can pick yourself back up and know what direction you want to go in. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2000 Report Share Posted May 27, 2000 , Sounds like you handled things great! It's hard to say how we are going to react in some situations. Sometimes you can't predict what will happen. It also sounds like you have finally made peace with the situation. You also sound relieved. Good luck to you and your dh! Take care, L Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2008 Report Share Posted June 18, 2008 Hi Cheryl,I'm sure will have more to add on this.But for me, it felt weird to get emotions back, almost scary. When I was on Paxil and cipromil I didn't feel anything, didn't crywhen people close died, didn't laugh, couldn't share in my friends joy or anything, it was almost like I was looking in on everythingbut not really part of it.It's does feel strange to get your full range of emotions back, maybe this is what bothers ? Going from being completely numb to having feelings, it just feels plain wrong for a while.Maybe at the moment he is just letting go of a ton of stuff that he kept inside, there aint nothing wrong with crying, make sure he know that eh? It's a guy thing not to cry! I think would know if he were depressed, so believe him, it obviously feels different to him than his depression did.'s case is complicated so I can only tell you how I felt and hope it helps you out.Lots of love to you both, for my tuppence worth I think he's doing good.Love xHi Everyone,It's been three years since took his last dose of paxil. He's doing great (thanks to and everyone else who guided us). We have a question about something new. Over the last couple of weeks has suddenly become much more emotional than I've seen him in years. I'm talking about breaking down and crying. He swears he IS NOT depressed or sad, and doesn't understand this sudden surge of emotion. Almost anything can bring it on. This morning he broke down thinking about how fortunate he is (considering all he's been through) and how far he's come. He also says he feels bad for not being more appreciative. Anyway, we know SSRI's destroy the abiilty to feel, is it possible that this part of his brain could be making a "come back" ? And if so, do you think this will continue for very long? He really does not like it. I'm hoping this is a good sign. What do you guys think?More appreciative than you'll ever know~~Cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2008 Report Share Posted June 18, 2008 Hi Cheryl, He's still coming back hes not finished changing yet he will keep on getting his brain back more and more this crying will stop as well.Lets face it hes had a lot to cry about and if hes letting it go that's great I did the same thing and i am not a crier.I learned it's ok to be human I felt nothing while i was on paxil not even part of the same planet kind of hard to explain its like having to come back into yourself slowly its taken years things just get more real all the time.His feelings are coming back i myself keep on changing even to this day even my memory is getting a bit better Hubby sees a huge improvement in me I was about the same stage as justin is now when you first met me.I am 7 years off now just to give you an idea of how long he will keep changing Glitter is a few years ahead of me I hope i still have some improving to make I dont know what glitter has been left with as the aftermath of taking this shit. Hugs RosGas prices getting you down? Search AOL Autos for fuel-efficient used cars. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2008 Report Share Posted June 19, 2008 Hi, it is very similar with PTSD and therapy, when after sometime of being numb in life, almost dead, suddenly feelings are coming back and this is both pleasant and frightening. I was always asking my therapist " what do I do now, with the emotion I have " and his answer was: " have it " ...I had to learn how to " have it " . It took me some time. Maybe he needs to learn as well that emotions are different, that they change, that they actually last for short (if longer there is always thinking involved)... Ikam > > > Hi Everyone, > > It's been three years since took his last dose of paxil. He's > > doing great (thanks to and everyone else who guided us). > > We have a question about something new. Over the last couple of weeks > > has suddenly become much more emotional than I've seen him in > > years. I'm talking about breaking down and crying. He swears he IS > > NOT depressed or sad, and doesn't understand this sudden surge of > > emotion. Almost anything can bring it on. This morning he broke down > > thinking about how fortunate he is (considering all he's been through) > > and how far he's come. He also says he feels bad for not being more > > appreciative. > > Anyway, we know SSRI's destroy the abiilty to feel, is it possible > > that this part of his brain could be making a " come back " ? And if so, > > do you think this will continue for very long? He really does not like > > it. > > I'm hoping this is a good sign. What do you guys think? > > More appreciative than you'll ever know~~ > > Cheryl > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2008 Report Share Posted June 19, 2008 > > Hi Everyone, > It's been three years since took his last dose of paxil. He's > doing great (thanks to and everyone else who guided us). > We have a question about something new. Over the last couple of weeks > has suddenly become much more emotional than I've seen him in > years. I'm talking about breaking down and crying. He swears he IS > NOT depressed or sad, and doesn't understand this sudden surge of > emotion. Almost anything can bring it on. This morning he broke down > thinking about how fortunate he is (considering all he's been through) > and how far he's come. He also says he feels bad for not being more > appreciative. > Anyway, we know SSRI's destroy the abiilty to feel, is it possible > that this part of his brain could be making a " come back " ? And if so, > do you think this will continue for very long? He really does not like > it. > I'm hoping this is a good sign. What do you guys think?>> ** Dear Cheryl, will be fine. What he needs now is support that lets him know that it is okay to feel. When a person's emotions have been blunted for a long time, the return of them can be more extreme. He also needs to become comfortable with it. This way, he will learn to be in touch with emotions and welcome them as a part of the normal human experience. I would just reassure him that it is okay. I might also allow him to see me comfortably experience my emotions. In situations like this people often panic and end up in a doctor's office and on a drug. From an existential/astrological point of view, this is a step in emotional/spiritual growth. If he can master this (be willing to feel it) he will have taken a step forward in his growth. What this brings is richer experiences and a deeper understanding. Clif can help here, too. Men tend to be uncomfortable when feeling strong emotions that include tears. Clif may be able to tell more about this and how it is much better to be able to feel than not. Being comfortable with emotion leads us to be able to understand and be helpful to others. Regards, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2008 Report Share Posted June 20, 2008 Thanks for all the responses. Clif and I are being very supportive, and knows that I admired any man who is not ashamed to show his feelings. I told him only yesterday, that tears are a sure sign of a REAL man! I've asked Clif to speak to him, to reassure him that this is a good thing ( knows his father is able to cry and express emotion), and he said he would. has always had a sensitive side, it's just since the paxil experience that his emotions went blank. mentioned the spiritual/astrological aspect involved. Last night had this big box out that basically contains alot of his history like school papers,doctor & hospital stuff,social security/disability stuff, records I kept during the paxil nightmare, everything to do with him. He's never looked at it before,and he was fascinated with it, mentioning it's almost a miracle he's made it this far. Up until now he's always been extremely angry over the " hand life dealt him " . I'm not positive, but I think he's beginning to understand that his life experiences make him a very special person, with a very special purpose. Love you guys~~ Cheryl > > > Clif can help here, too. Men tend to be uncomfortable when feeling > > strong emotions that include tears. Clif may be able to tell > > more about this and how it is much better to be able to feel than not. > > Being comfortable with emotion leads us to be able to understand and > > be helpful to others. > > > > ~~Cheryl I can only urge you to ask Clif to do this for . I > never saw my Dad cry not ever, it would have helped me tremendously if > he had. > > I guess he must have been embarrassed by it, because he'd take the > mickey out of my Mum if she cried at films and that. > > xx > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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