Yipes--new fleas on me.

[Guest guest]

Has anyone else in this group noticed an over-reaction to people

" invading " you or " enmeshing " you . . .even when they're not. My

husband just came back into town after being away for a while and I'm

glad to have him back, but I'm kind of freaking out/over-reacting

about his influence on my life.

Examples: when I drive and he rides along he has this automatic

(slightly annoying) tendency to tell me where to turn, remind me

lights are green or tell me a lane is clear for passing. I tell him

it's annoying and that I can drive and ask him what he thinks I do

when I drive alone without him? The thing that I know all to well is

that he doesn't think about it--it's just this bad habit that's not a

reflection on me and that he's struggling to stop with my frequent

reminders. BUT it reminds me of learning to drive with my nada who

would micromanage and really make me insane and who would make me feel

like she was a brain trying to hi-jack and operate my body. My blood

still boils over it.

Also, today DH and I planned to walk to a nearby shop and pick out a

video . . . and then he wanted to take a route that I don't really

like . . .and that just happened to lead us by an electronics store.

When I told him later that he should have mentioned this to me first,

he said " It only took a minute " and he was absolutely right, but I

couldn't stop thinking about the way my nada would trick me into going

on all her errands with her all day like some kind of ride along puppy.

I just have this awful feeling of being directionless or almost of not

existing in my own rite when things like this happen. DH can't

understand that. But it makes simple, slightly annoying behavior

almost unbearable for me.

Anyone else deal with this?

Trish