a little surprised

[Guest guest]

I'm wondering if anyone has had this happen to them. I got into my

nursing program (LPN), I hadn't told anyone in my family I was

planning on doing it until I knew I was accepted. Apparently my

parents have told all my siblings, etc. In the last few days, my

sister, brother-in-law, and sister-in-law have all thrown digs at me

about this at various times. Apparently I have upset the apple cart.

This isn't a big huge deal, I'm just mildly disappointed that

something really good happened, that I worked really hard for, is

something threatening to them. I really didn't think anyone cared,

at most I thought (when I told them, because I thought I'd get to

tell them but my dad the blabbermouth told everyone, he's the

gatekeeper) I might get a disinterested congratulations, but instead

people are making weird comments and back-handed insults. It's so

weird because they seem to have so much, they all have good jobs

(except my SIL who refuses to work). It's just bizarre. I realize

now I apparently am supposed to be the loser/black sheep forever

more in my family. Maybe the one they look at and go 'well, we

aren't great, but at least we are better than her'...or something. I

didn't realize any of this until some zingers were thrown my way.

And now I'm angry because I'm like, what is it with you people, you

have everything and I work really hard for this one little thing and

what, I'm supposed to remain a loser my entire life just so you can

have someone to feel better than? It's so disenheartening. But at

the same time, stuff like this makes it really clear to me that the

family with a bpd/npd is a really sick *system*, it's not just one

person, everyone places a role, everyone has their place in the

pecking order, and a vested interest in keeping the one at the

bottom (the painted black KO) down there.