Feeling Quite full of themselves

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I wondered if any of your narc/bpd mothers ever said something like

this. My mother's motto was " you can always say hello to

everyone...you don't have to be their " bosom buddy " You don't have to

be their " friend. " But, you can always say hello. " This was said with

an air of superiority as if we know we are better than them...but, you

can say hello. This always bothered me. The basic message is

good...we should be kind to everyone. We should reach out to others.

But, the narcissitic superior crap ruins any lesson here for me. The

whole thing assumes that the other person wants you to say hello to

them in the first place. This motto is alive and well for

generations. Her father told her. She told us. My completely

narcissitic nephew does it. He always sais " hello " but, he has such

an aire of superiority about him that you want to puke. Personally,

I'm trying to figure out how to stop him from talking to me. I hate

him! I don't want to hear his voice. The guys a jerk! But, still

manages to say " hello " in a friendly manner. Prior to doing something

to stab you in the back. Eventually, I know that I will just blurt it

out...almost happened not long ago...I'll just say it, " I think your a

((* & ^. I don't want to talk to you. But, you have a nice life! "