To Continue?

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I had another session today with my therapist. She told me that it's

almost always preferable to try to continue a relationship with a

parent. She believes that cutting my mother out of my life won't

remove any of the emotions affiliated with her or her behavior.

Excluding her will only leave more of a void.

How can this be true? Surely subjecting yourself to a lifetime of pain

couldn't be the better choice. I don't see how I can continue a

relationship with her without it hurting me more, even in small ways.

Then again, maybe it's naive to think that not having her around would

make the hurt ebb away. What is the right thing to do?

There's a very real chance that the law will define this boundary for

me. She has a warrant out for her arrest for concealment of mortgaged

property (she owes about 2,500 on an overpriced car she can't afford.

hard to pay with no job),and as I mentioned before, she's fled to her

boyfriend's house about ten states away. I don't know what kind of

time someone would do for that, but it seems like it would really help

everyone else. My grandma could get custody of my sisters more easily,

and I wouldn't have to listen to her whine about how the world is so

unfair and no one gives her a chance to better herself (like a

lifetime isn't enough).

I know exactly where she is. Sometimes it takes everything I have in

me not to just call the police and tell them. I've already given her

SSN and address to my grandma's attorney for the custody battle. I

think jail might be the only thing big enough to protect me from her

when she finds out what I've done. Sometimes I feel really bad about

it, but I know that I would do far worse if I had to to protect those

girls.