New to the group

[Guest guest]

Barbara C.

Welcome to the group. I hope that you will be comforted here. I know that

finding this group was a huge help to me. I just wish I would've found it

sooner.

Amy

[Guest guest]

Hie To All New Members

Welcome to all of you, its sad that we have to meet like this BUT HEY isn't

it great that we can be there for each other when we have all lost the most

precious gift a woman can have.

I am sorry for what you have gone through and the pain and loss you feel

right now. I can identify with what you guys are feeling , i have lost two

babies myself through ep. It is a very painful thing to go through. Then

there is the worry that the pain may never go away because one thing you

know for sure, is you dont want to forget that you carried a baby ,the fear

that you may never have a baby to hold and share your future with, the fear

of going through the same experience and when to start ttc.

The good thing is that there are ALL the wonderful people in this group to

offer emotional support and i am glad to have found this group.

Love

Shamiso

[Guest guest]

Welcome to our group. While I am sorry you have a reason to be here, I am

glad you found us.

It is terrifying waiting each month for AF's arrival. While we all want to

be pg again, the fear of what could happen can be paralyzing. There is

nothing any of us can do to stop these feelings of terror. But when you

are scared or just feeling down, know that you can turn to us.

I'll be thinking of you.

Tara

New to the group

Hi everyone, I am so glad I found this group, on February 12th after

7

hours in the ER I had laproscopic surgery to remove my baby from my

right tube. I have been an emotional wreck ever since. This would

have been my second pregnancy, I have a two year old little girl..

I am scared to death right now because we got the okay to try again

and we tried last week. Now the waiting game begins, which I am

terrible at. I wish we didn't have to wait until the 6th week to

find

out...

Thanks for listening

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[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group, Joanne. This is a great place to ask questions and get

support.

Vicki

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/3/2003 2:37:34 PM Eastern Standard Time,

jmc0803@... writes:

> I am really looking forward to warmer weather when I can be outside

> working

Hi Joanne,

Welcome to the group. I also love to bake. In fact, I'll be making cookies

this week for a friend. I have a very strong will-power now that I've lost

weight. I can't afford to gain all the weight back, since I've given away

all my " fat " clothes, so I make cookies for others. Sometimes, I may eat one

of them, but that is all. Have you tried baking with Splenda?

I'm looking forward to warmer weather also. When I work outside, I find I

can eat more carbs.

Eunice

[Guest guest]

Joanne

you didn't say how far north but in the thumb it is cold enough to burn off some

of those carbs just keeping warm especially in an old farm house on a hill.

Splenda is a great substitute for converting recipies but if you are

experimenting take heed it make things a little drier. Also using applesauce in

place of the fat and cutting the amount of sweetener is a good way to cut carbs

and sugar out of baked things.

Carolyn

[Guest guest]

Re: New to the group

Joanne

you didn't say how far north but in the thumb it is cold enough to burn off

some of those carbs just keeping warm especially in an old farm house on a hill.

I remember growing up in MN & WI.

Splenda is a great substitute for converting recipies but if you are

experimenting take heed it make things a little drier. Also using applesauce in

place of the fat and cutting the amount of sweetener is a good way to cut carbs

and sugar out of baked things.

Carolyn

If you are doing yeast baking, remember you cannot use sugar substitute; the

yeast will eat most of the sugar anyway. The applesauce trick doesn't always

work with yeast baking either. (Sometimes it does.)

[Guest guest]

Welcome! I hope we can help.

> Hello...

> I am new to this group as well as on-line groups in general.

> My mother, I believe, suffers from BP. There has been no offical

> diagnosis, but since reading UBM I am quite certain that this is the

> problem.

> I carry around so much guilt and anxiety that it is almost

> intolerable at times. I am also concerned that I am exhibiting some

> (although not nearly all) of the same characteristics.

> Does anyone else feel this way?

> I can not trust her.

> I don't want my children to be around her, but they love her and her

> new husband.

> Does therapy really help? I've tried it a couple of times before,

> but it was long before I learned about BPD.

> Perhaps I should go back now that I have this knowledge.

> Here is what prompted my joining this group:

> I have not spoken with my mother since the Friday after Mother's

> Day. I invited her and my sister over for brunch on Mother's Day

> (which is ALWAYS a scary holiday for me!). Brunch went nicely, but

> the conversation was all fake. After we ate, she started telling my

> sister and me about some health problems, etc. My sister and I

> suggested counseling (yet again) and she became quite angry. She

> started yelling at me (not my sister) and asking me, " What have I

> ever done to you? " I started to tell her, but soon remembered that

> I had tried this before. It got really ugly.

> Since reading UBM I have realized that it is possible that she can

> not remember what she has done. We do not share the same past. I

> used to think I was crazy until I started dating the man who is now

> my husband. As he was around more, he started to notice her

> episodes. I thank God for him.

> Any advice, comments or guidance would be greatly appreciated.

> Thanks!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group.  I've been here for a couple of months and it has been an

amazing experience.  To address some of questions/observations...yes therapy can

really help but make sure you find someone who you can really reust.  Also, that

feeling that you are the crazy is something that a lot of us share.  It comes

from your mother's denial of her behavior.  Also, I think that a lot of us

grapple with seeing some of the bpd triats in ourselves.  It isn't that we are

BPD it is a reaction to the behavior that we saw growing up.  Keep posting all

of your concerns and you will get wonderful feedback.

new to the group

Hello...

I am new to this group as well as on-line groups in general.

My mother, I believe, suffers from BP. There has been no offical

diagnosis, but since reading UBM I am quite certain that this is the

problem.

I carry around so much guilt and anxiety that it is almost

intolerable at times. I am also concerned that I am exhibiting some

(although not nearly all) of the same characteristics.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I can not trust her.

I don't want my children to be around her, but they love her and her

new husband.

Does therapy really help? I've tried it a couple of times before,

but it was long before I learned about BPD.

Perhaps I should go back now that I have this knowledge.

Here is what prompted my joining this group:

I have not spoken with my mother since the Friday after Mother's

Day. I invited her and my sister over for brunch on Mother's Day

(which is ALWAYS a scary holiday for me!). Brunch went nicely, but

the conversation was all fake. After we ate, she started telling my

sister and me about some health problems, etc. My sister and I

suggested counseling (yet again) and she became quite angry. She

started yelling at me (not my sister) and asking me, " What have I

ever done to you? " I started to tell her, but soon remembered that

I had tried this before. It got really ugly.

Since reading UBM I have realized that it is possible that she can

not remember what she has done. We do not share the same past. I

used to think I was crazy until I started dating the man who is now

my husband. As he was around more, he started to notice her

episodes. I thank God for him.

Any advice, comments or guidance would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

I am new to the group. I have been on and off medications for the

past 17 years. I have never been given the same diagnosis by any

doctor. Being that I was so desperate to be " normal " I was put on

meds at 18. At 27 after 6 years on paxil I went through the worst

hell of my life trying to get off of it. Not because I wanted to but

because we had moved to a new state with my husbands job and I could

not get into a doctor to get a refill for 4 months. I know that I am

ADD and have finally found the right med for that. However with that

I am going off the mood stabilizer trileptal and anti depressant

lexapro. My pdoc is aware of this but just says that I am going to be

manic (which I have never been.) He also didn't bother to say I

needed to wean, he was ok with reducing amount for a few days and

then stopping.

So here I am in the worst state possible. I finally took 5 mg of

lexapro and 150 mg of trileptal today to help subside some of what I

have been feeling. My original dose for them were 600mg trileptal and

20mg Lexapro. I have only been on the lexapro for a month. It was

celexa before that for the past year.

Today I went to my natural health food store and they recommended Sam

E along with the fish oil, vitamin b complex and multi vitamin. I

already take flax seed and the multivitamin. My sleep is horrible now

with this so I am back on melatonin to try to help that out.

Thank you for letting me join.