Venting!--I am NOT a waitress!

[Guest guest]

Hi, DH and I just reluctantly went to my dad's surprise birthday

party. We are tired from work, we had to drive a long way and we just

saw my parents last weekend so . . .but some extended family members

were going to be there and perhaps I'm just a sucker for going.

When we arrived, nothing was done. The guests were set to show up any

time and the house was a mess. No thought had gone into planning how

people would be served food and, in fact, no horizontal surface

remained cleared of crap where food could be placed! Grrr. . . I

ended up quickly clearing out space. I know that I can say " no, " but

I feel so awkward about people arriving into our chaos and looking

around uncomfortably. And I can't stand to see my dad at his own

" surprise party " cleaning up, running around etc--which is exactly

what she had him do.

My nada took a seat on her fat ass when the guests arrived and then

they all relied on me to serve them drinks, take out the trash etc.

If anything was needed, nada yelled at me to go get it.

Then she invited herself to come visit us over my birthday weekend.

I'm pretty pissed. I'm considering being the " bad daughter " and

uninviting them. I don't feel like spending my birthday waiting on

people.

Trish