addictive relationships

[Guest guest]

i am trying to recognize and manage my addiction to being enmeshed. it

seems like i have a hard time sticking my ground. i tend to feel

clingy around friends and dates. i also feel overtaken and secondary.

i caught myself calling an old girlfriend for support one day. right

after i got off the phone i asked myself " why did i just do that? " . i

thought about it and i realized that i was upset, feeling lonely, and

i needed some kind of mirroring or support. i realized that i

desperately wanted my mother or a mother. i feel like all my life i

have been in search of a mother that was never emotionally there. i

don't know if i will ever stop looking. i feel like i don't know what

a relationship is outside of being enmeshed. how do healthy

friendships function? how do healthy romantic relationships function?

-mutt