**My new book is available--preorder now!!

[Guest guest]

October 14, 2008

Hello everyone:

I've been talking about my new book for three years. Now that it's

almost out, it's time to tell you why it's one of the most

indispensible books you'll ever own—perhaps even more significant

than " Stop Walking on Eggshells " (New Harbinger, 1998). That's

because I've have learned a great deal in the past 10 years since

SWOE was published, and much more research has been conducted as

well.

My new book is called " The Essential Family Guide to Borderline

Personality Disorder: New Tips and Techniques to Stop Walking on

Eggshells. " I will have it for sale at www.BPDCentral.com as early as

week after next (Preorder it now, though, to assure your autographed

copy.)

" The Essential Family Guide, " which took three years for me to

research and write, educates, validates, and motivates. It's received

excellent reviews (they're all on www.BPDCentral.com) and it's fun

and interesting to read. My intent was for readers to feel like I was

walking with them hand and hand as they learned to manage their

situation.

In the first half of the book, I will take you (metaphorically)

inside the head of the person you care about and show you, first

hand, how biological impairments twist his or her thought processes

and trigger uncontrolled, intense emotions that cause characteristic

Borderline traits.

I'll also introduce you to a Borderline trait called " impulsive

aggression " —or, as I call it, the " border-lion. " The border-lion's

roar is what causes the eggshells to break and the other shoe to

drop. I'll explain why it's so hard for people with BPD to see your

side of things, why they act in such frustrating ways, and why they

don't seem to recognize or tend to your emotional needs.

The bane of every family member is finding effective professional

help. Most books focus on therapy methods, despite the fact that they

may not be locally available or have been shown to impact behaviors

that trouble family member's most.

So in addition to describing treatment methods, I will provide you

with 13 hard and soft qualities to look for in a clinician, and seven

questions that separate the BPD neophytes from those with the

necessary experience. You'll discover one of the most important—and

most overlooked—considerations in selecting the right mental health

provider.

The centerpiece of the book is in the second half. I've simplified

the most effective family member response to the disorder into five

Power Tools—together, they are a system that's easy to learn (with

practice) and fits in with other books or approaches you may be

using.

The Power Tools are:

1: Take Care of Yourself

2: Uncover What Keeps You Feeling Stuck

3: Communicate to be Heard

4: Set Limits with Love

5: Reinforce the Right Behaviors

Each Power Tool builds on the previous one and increases your sense

of mastery and self-confidence. Following are just a few benefits of

the book and the tools (you'll find more at www.BPDCentral.com): you

will:

• Feel less stressed and run down.

• Become more confident and clear about who you are and what

you need.

• Feel better about yourself and reduce your stress, guilt,

worry, and anger.

• Know where to concentrate your efforts and what to let go

because it's sapping your energy and taking you nowhere.

• Extricate yourself from non-productive, aggressive

conversations.

• Improve your problem-solving skills.

• Learn how to help your family member without rescuing them.

• Feel more self assured about setting limits without backing

down.

Here is the nuts and bolts of ordering, and why you should buy your

book from www.BPDCentral.com:

• I have it for sale at 20% off!

• You will get the book more quickly. The minute the books hit

the publisher's warehouse, they will be sent to my fulfillment

center.

• Members of Welcome to Oz, BPD family, and subscribers to

Border-Lines can get an autographed copy (it's on a bookplate that

says, " From the Desk of Randi Kreger " ) If you're ordering online,

put " send autographed copy " on the comment section (it will appear at

the end of the ordering process). If you're ordering by phone, just

add that you're a member.

• Sales will help fund Welcome to Oz. While the software is

free, I pay R. to professionally manage the lists, keeping them

safe and spam/drama-free.

To learn more and order, visit my website, www.BPDCentral.com. There

is a small microsite that includes endorsements from professionals, a

list of benefits, and an excerpt. Note that the button to order is at

the top to the right.

In the next few weeks, I'll be posting information from the book that

will help you understand your family member ( " Here's Why " ) and learn

what works ( " Here's How " ).

Do let and I know what you think. Feel free to discuss the book

on the list or contact me (Randi@...) or

(@...). (As always, if you want an answer, send it to

one of us directly--not just to the list.)

Warmly,

Randi Kreger

Stop Walking on Eggshells

The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder

www.BPDCentral.com

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