What to do?

[Guest guest]

Hello, everyone. My mother has BPD coupled with bad agoraphobia and

it's very severe, getting worse by the day. I recently got married, and

my mother has gotten more and more demanding about how much time I

spend talking to her, and claiming that " I hate her " and I never spend

any time with her. She has been calling my phone (and my work phone)

upwards of five times a day, insisting that I drop everything I do to

have a long conversation. Last week she called my phone 6 times in 3

minutes because I had decided to stop answering. Then she called my

husband's phone, and he was trying to sleep. I have become so irritated

that I ceased contact with her this past week. She keeps emailing and

calling me, crying and screaming on the phone about how her heart is

breaking and how she is going to " find someone who needs a mother. "

This saddens me because I wish my mother and I could actually get

along. Also, I miss my old dog, who lives with her and who I will

likely not see again. But I really do think that if anything will make

her see what she is doing to herself and her family, this is it. Do you

think I'm doing the right thing, or should I keep talking to her?

Namu