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In a message dated 3/9/2003 5:22:55 PM Eastern Standard Time,

dougn200@... writes:

> I have

> started to watch what I eat and from looking at the store sheleves

> and the labels there is not many options everthing has sugar in it.

>

Hi Doug,

Welcome to the group.

I know how overwhelmed you must be, but I promise it will not take long for

you to find out what you can and cannot eat.

Until you meet with your educator and start testing, I would recommend

cutting back on the starchy foods - white rice, white potatoes, pasta, white

bread, etc and of course, soft drinks and desserts. Most other foods can be

eaten in moderation.

If you are not already exercising, you may want to ask your doctor about an

exercise program. Sometimes, even a 10 minute walk after eating will help to

lower blood glucose (bg's).

Please ask any questions you may have.

Eunice

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A good start is to try to eat food that is as unrefined as possible - for

instance, multigrain bread rather than white, real fruit rather than fruit

juice. Try to add more vegetables to your meals. Go out for a walk every day

for 1/2 hour or more. Be good to yourself and get enough sleep!

Take care,

Deanna

I guess my question is should I be doing anything now?

Doug

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>I have

started to watch what I eat and from looking at the store sheleves

and the labels there is not many options everthing has sugar in it.

any suggestions ,I can use all the help i can get.<

I was were you are at 5 weeks back. I changed my diet to chicken thighs,

skinless, set on top a bed of spinach and broccoli with sugar free red wine

vinaigrette dressing. I bought low carb bread and had tuna fish sandwiches with

minced garlic and celery held together with a tablespoon of fat free mayo.

Mornings consisted of oatmeal or egg, now I use egg-free stuff, on a piece of

toast. And last of all EXERCISE. Face it, this thing really woke me up.

What I have found in the 5 weeks, I was eating less than I should, but I did

lose weight. I did get my blood glucose under control and have expanded my

meals, but it's a day to day thing. I have discovered rice brings my bg's up,

but a small red potato, no real problems. 1/2 Apple or 1/2 Banana with each

meal are ok for me, Strawberries, another baddie, so I guess each body is

different.

What I have learned in the diabetes class, eat each meal with roughage,

(spinach, cabbage, broccoli, cauliflower, anything with fiber), cut your protein

portion down to 2oz maybe 3oz per meal, eggs count as 1oz so does cheese. Have

some carbs with each meal also, I usually have a slice of low carb bread or

tortilla (low card also), 1/2 glass, 4oz - 5oz, of non-fat milk and 1/2 fruit.

Each item you eat does break down to glucose in your body, some faster than

others, but fiber slows the glucose breakdown. Carbohydrates are bad for you for

they break down to glucose real fast. You are doing the correct thing by

getting reading the labels. Just remember also look at the serving numbers and

divide the numbers by the serving numbers, i.e.. 3 servings equal 15

carbohydrates, that means 1 serving equals 5 carbohydrates.

Welcome aboard.

Steve L.

Sails Call M25

Southern California

Newbie

Hi All,

Just wanted to a second and introduce myself. I was just newly

diagnosed at a physical I finally had after several years. Boy was i

surprized. My reading was at 224 which I guess is high because he

was telling me that normal was under 110. I have not yet met with my

nutritionist or diebetic nurse can't get into them for another week,

I guess my question is should I be doing anything now? I have

started to watch what I eat and from looking at the store sheleves

and the labels there is not many options everthing has sugar in it.

any suggestions ,I can use all the help i can get.

Thanks,

Doug

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Hi Doug, I am a newbie too. I was diagnosed 3 months ago. I was

scared about what to eat, when, how. My doctor put me on Avandia and

Glucophage. I have lost 22 pounds since with help of my husband and

my 2 boys. The boys always walk with me. My first reading at the

doc's office was 264. I try to vary my diet with vegies and whole

grain bread I like rye my boys don't. My advise to you is get

support from family, friends and online groups, eat wisely,

exercise, and see your doctor. God bless and good control.

purekoolkat

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In a message dated 3/10/03 8:45:20 AM Eastern Standard Time,

brucewilson@... writes:

> 2. Eat lots of lean meat, eggs, seafood, and dairy.

>

>

You are right. Every person is different and what works for one will not

necessarily work for another. My doctor told me that diabetes isn't like the

flu where the symptoms and problems are all pretty much predictable. He said

diabetes is an indication that many things are going wrong in your body and

depending on how severe your diabetes is and how long it has gone untreated,

the diet you need to be on can vary greatly from person to person.

My diabetes educator said a lot of the same things as the person who said no

juice... whole foods instead of processed foods, no white rice, potatoes or

bread... and try to eat whole grains and brown rice and sweet potatoes. The

one thing they REALLY emphasized though was to eat very small meals. For me,

that is the key. If I will eat a small amount and then exercise, I do so

much better. Even a large amount of veggies and protein without any carbs

can spike my numbers... so I keep my proteinat about 1-2 oz at a meal... and

try to work in 3 snacks. If I am doing fine, I have a fruit but if my bg's

drop or I am feeling VERY hungry or weak, I will have a little protein even

with that snack... like peanut butter.

So we are all different. My doctor and diabetes educator both are against a

high protein, low carb diet for diabetics because they feel it will cause

long term kidney damage down the road. However, I have learned from this

list that diabetes cannot be put in a box so easily and that we sometimes

have to try many things out to see what works for us individually. I used to

be adamantly against the Atkins Diet but the longer I go as a diabetic, the

more I see that I don't have all the answers and am learning that we need to

be supportive of each other as we make our own personal decisions about how

to get better.

Shirley

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Each person is unique, and I would listen to what the educator and/or nurse

says, BUT this has worked for me:

1. Cut out white bread, potatoes, white pasta, and white rice. Eat some whole

wheat bread and pasta and brown rice.

2. Eat lots of lean meat, eggs, seafood, and dairy.

3. Eat lots of vegetables, but go sparingly on root vegetables and winter

squash.

4. Avoid processed fruit and fruit juice, but eat some whole fruit, especially

berries.

5. Get as much exercise as you can. Try working it into your daily routine.

(For example, when going on an errand ask yourself if you could walk or ride

your bicycle; if it is possible, do so.)

Newbie

Hi All,

Just wanted to a second and introduce myself. I was just newly

diagnosed at a physical I finally had after several years. Boy was i

surprized. My reading was at 224 which I guess is high because he

was telling me that normal was under 110. I have not yet met with my

nutritionist or diebetic nurse can't get into them for another week,

I guess my question is should I be doing anything now? I have

started to watch what I eat and from looking at the store sheleves

and the labels there is not many options everthing has sugar in it.

any suggestions ,I can use all the help i can get.

Thanks,

Doug

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Mel,

I'm 21 & last year when I was 19, I found a lump in my left breast &

had to have surgery to have it removed & thankfully it was benign, but

I know exactly what you're going through about being scared. How is

your mom handling this? We are here for you if you need our support &

welcome to the group

> Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet been

> diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed my right

> breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to my

> pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a manual exam,

> he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an MRI (to

> be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be done on

> the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am  having a

> really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought that I

> might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people who have

> been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

>                                         HUGS!

>                                               MEL

>                                          

>

>

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>

>

>

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Hi and welcome to the group. You did the right thing by going to the

doctor right away. I am glad he is having it checked further.

Try to remember that IF its breast cancer that breast cancer is NOT the

death sentence it was once thought to be. The youngest person I have ever

heard of with breast cancer was 18.

I had a modified radical mastectomy May 1990 and I am doing fine. There are

ladies here that are past 13yrs. Early detection is the key and it seems to

me that IF there is any cancer it will be caught in the early stages.

You will be in my prayers and please keep us posted.

Hugs

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> Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet been

> diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed my right

> breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to my

> pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a manual exam,

> he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an MRI (to

> be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be done on

> the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am having a

> really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought that I

> might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people who have

> been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

> HUGS!

> MEL

>

>

>

>

>

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Dear Mel:

This is so terrible for you.. to have to deal with

you are so young.. I am very sorry.... this is the first club

I joined.. and you will receive much help and support, as well as love

here. You know it could be just nothing at all. Try to hang in..

I have you in my prayers tonight..

and do come back here any time.. Im away .. this weekend

but there are many others here.. always ..

for you.

Angel..

> Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet been

> diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed my

right

> breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to my

> pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a manual

exam,

> he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an MRI (to

> be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be done on

> the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am having a

> really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought that I

> might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people who

have

> been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

> HUGS!

> MEL

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Mel,

Have you told your Youth Pastor about what's going on also? See if

while you're on the trip you and your youth pastor can pray about this

alone or with your group. Where are you from? I'm from the Detroit, MI

area.

Hope you have a good time next week! Where r u going with your Youth

Group?

Hope to hear from you soon!

> Thanks Kerri, nne and Angel for the responses. It makes me feel

> better knowing that I'm not alone in this and that many others have

> gone through the exact same thing. Kerri, my mom is worried, but

> she's trying to remain emotionally " stable " until we find out the

> results. I'm really scared but I try not to show it around my family

> because I don't want them to worry or get really upset and I know

> they will if they see that I am. I'll be away tomorrow and the whole

> week next week with my youth group, but I'll be back on saturday the

> 18th.Thanks for ALL of the support! It really helps!!!

>                                                   MEL

>

> > > Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet

> been

> > > diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed my

> > right

> > > breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to my

> > > pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a manual

> > exam,

> > > he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an MRI

> (to

> > > be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be done

> on

> > > the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am 

> having a

> > > really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought that I

> > > might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people who

> > have

> > > been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

> > >                                         HUGS!

> > >                                               MEL

>

>

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>

>

>

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Thanks Kerri, nne and Angel for the responses. It makes me feel

better knowing that I'm not alone in this and that many others have

gone through the exact same thing. Kerri, my mom is worried, but

she's trying to remain emotionally " stable " until we find out the

results. I'm really scared but I try not to show it around my family

because I don't want them to worry or get really upset and I know

they will if they see that I am. I'll be away tomorrow and the whole

week next week with my youth group, but I'll be back on saturday the

18th.Thanks for ALL of the support! It really helps!!!

MEL

> > Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet

been

> > diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed my

> right

> > breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to my

> > pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a manual

> exam,

> > he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an MRI

(to

> > be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be done

on

> > the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am

having a

> > really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought that I

> > might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people who

> have

> > been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

> > HUGS!

> > MEL

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Kerri,

Yes, I've told my youth pastor about this as well as my friends

(youth group) we're all pretty close so I felt comfortable telling

them. We plan on setting apart a time to pray for this next week. I'm

from San , TX. My dad's military so the good part about it is

I am being treated at BAMC ( Army Medical Center) and the army

covers all of the expenses, so that's a little stress taken off of my

parents. We're going to Jekyll Island Georgia. The beach down there

is really pretty and so is the island, so I'm pretty sure we'll have

a good time! :) How did you handle the stress of not knowing if your

lump was cancerous or not???? Hope to hear from you soon!

MEL

> > > > Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet

> > been

> > > > diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed

my

> > > right

> > > > breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to

my

> > > > pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a

manual

> > > exam,

> > > > he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an

MRI

> > (to

> > > > be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be

done

> > on

> > > > the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am 

> > having a

> > > > really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought

that I

> > > > might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people

who

> > > have

> > > > been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

> > > >                                         HUGS!

> > > >                                               MEL

> >

> >

> <image.tiff>

> >

> >

> >

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I just left it up to God & prayed a lot about it. I had first found the

lump in January & got it checked out and my doctor had me get a

ultrasound. She called me a week later & said everything was fine & to

have a follow-up ultrasound in 3 months & then I had it & I got home

from class the week after I had the 3 month follow-up sonogram to find

a message on my machine from my doctor asking me to call her back and

when I called her back she said that it looks like it could be benign

BUT..... because my mom had been diagnosed with breast cancer just a

year before, she wanted me to see the surgeon.

If you want to read my journal, go to www.swdconsulting.com/cg to read

more about my scare and how I dealt with my mom going through her

treatment

> Kerri,

>       Yes, I've told my youth pastor about this as well as my friends

> (youth group) we're all pretty close so I felt comfortable telling

> them. We plan on setting apart a time to pray for this next week. I'm

> from San , TX. My dad's military so the good part about it is

> I am being treated at BAMC ( Army Medical Center) and the army

> covers all of the expenses, so that's a little stress taken off of my

> parents. We're going to Jekyll Island Georgia. The beach down there

> is really pretty and so is the island, so I'm pretty sure we'll have

> a good time! :) How did you handle the stress of not knowing if your

> lump was cancerous or not???? Hope to hear from you soon!

>                                                   MEL

>

> > > > > Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet

> > > been

> > > > > diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed

> my

> > > > right

> > > > > breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to

> my

> > > > > pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a

> manual

> > > > exam,

> > > > > he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an

> MRI

> > > (to

> > > > > be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be

> done

> > > on

> > > > > the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am 

> > > having a

> > > > > really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought

> that I

> > > > > might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people

> who

> > > > have

> > > > > been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

> > > > >                                         HUGS!

> > > > >                                               MEL

> > >

> > >

> > <image.tiff>

> > >

> > >

> > >

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Hi - what a scary time for you! I am a fifty three year old Kindergarten teacher with four grown sons and a grandson and I was still scared to death before my biopsy was done. Hopefully, yours will just be some type of infection and the MRI and ultrasound will confirm that for you. In the mean time, stay brave - it sounds like you have lots of friends and family to support you. Don't be afraid to say you're afraid, either - you don't ALWAYS have to be Miss Strong!! Let those who love you hold you up a little if you need it. You will be in my thoughts and prayers - keep in touch with us

vicki in PA

Newbie

Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet been diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed my right breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to my pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a manual exam, he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an MRI (to be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be done on the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am having a really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought that I might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people who have been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon! HUGS! MEL

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Thanks Kerri and Vicki. I'm gonna go check your journal out. Vicki,

you teach kindergarten? THAT'S COOL! Kerri, was your mom going

through cancer when you found your lump??

MEL

> Hi - what a scary time for you! I am a fifty three year old

Kindergarten teacher with four grown sons and a grandson and I was

still scared to death before my biopsy was done. Hopefully, yours

will just be some type of infection and the MRI and ultrasound will

confirm that for you. In the mean time, stay brave - it sounds like

you have lots of friends and family to support you. Don't be afraid

to say you're afraid, either - you don't ALWAYS have to be Miss

Strong!! Let those who love you hold you up a little if you need it.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers - keep in touch with us

> vicki in PA

> Newbie

>

>

> Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet

been

> diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed my

right

> breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to my

> pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a manual

exam,

> he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an MRI

(to

> be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be done

on

> the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am

having a

> really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought that I

> might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people who

have

> been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

> HUGS!

> MEL

>

>

>

>

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Yep, I'm on Yahoo Messenger! My yahoo ID is collegegrl4god

I need your id first before you can add me to your list!

> It really helps when your church is really supportive. So your mom is

> all better??? No, I'm not on msn, do you have yahoo messenger??

>                                      HUGS,

>                                           MEL                    ---

> In breastcancer2 , Kerri Saikin <ksaikin@c...> wrote:

> > No, she was all done with her treatment when I found my lump. We

> both

> > had the same surgeon. Our church has been very supportive.

> >

> >

> > P.S. Are you on MSN Messenger? If so, I am too!

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > > Thanks Kerri and Vicki. I'm gonna go check your journal out.

> Vicki,

> > > you teach kindergarten? THAT'S COOL! Kerri, was your mom going

> > > through cancer when you found your lump??

> > >                                         MEL

> > >                                    

> > >

> > > > Hi - what a scary time for you! I am a fifty three year

> old

> > > Kindergarten teacher with four grown sons and a grandson and I was

> > > still scared to death before my biopsy was done.  Hopefully, yours

> > > will just be some type of infection and the MRI and ultrasound

> will

> > > confirm that for you.  In the mean time, stay brave - it sounds

> like

> > > you have lots of friends and family to support you.  Don't be

> afraid

> > > to say you're afraid, either - you don't ALWAYS have to be Miss

> > > Strong!! Let those who love you hold you up a little if you need

> it. 

> > > You will be in my thoughts and prayers - keep in touch with us

> > > > vicki in PA

> > > >   Newbie

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >   Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have not yet

> > > been

> > > >   diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I noticed

> my

> > > right

> > > >   breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I went to

> my

> > > >   pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a

> manual

> > > exam,

> > > >   he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled an

> MRI

> > > (to

> > > >   be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to be

> done

> > > on

> > > >   the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and am 

> > > having a

> > > >   really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought

> that I

> > > >   might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from people

> who

> > > have

> > > >   been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya soon!

> > > >                                           HUGS!

> > > >                                                 MEL

> > > >                                            

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >        

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My id is krug_melanie!

> > > > > Hi - what a scary time for you! I am a fifty three

year

> > old

> > > > Kindergarten teacher with four grown sons and a grandson and

I was

> > > > still scared to death before my biopsy was done.  Hopefully,

yours

> > > > will just be some type of infection and the MRI and ultrasound

> > will

> > > > confirm that for you.  In the mean time, stay brave - it

sounds

> > like

> > > > you have lots of friends and family to support you.  Don't be

> > afraid

> > > > to say you're afraid, either - you don't ALWAYS have to be

Miss

> > > > Strong!! Let those who love you hold you up a little if you

need

> > it. 

> > > > You will be in my thoughts and prayers - keep in touch with us

> > > > > vicki in PA

> > > > >   Newbie

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >   Hey everyone, I'm new here. I am 16 years old and have

not yet

> > > > been

> > > > >   diagnosed with breast cancer BUT, about 1 week ago I

noticed

> > my

> > > > right

> > > > >   breast was swollen and the areola looked different. I

went to

> > my

> > > > >   pediatrician who specializes in teen OB/GYN and he did a

> > manual

> > > > exam,

> > > > >   he noticed the same thing that I did and so he scheduled

an

> > MRI

> > > > (to

> > > > >   be done on the 20th of this month) and an ultrasound (to

be

> > done

> > > > on

> > > > >   the 28th of this month) Right now I'm really scared and

am 

> > > > having a

> > > > >   really hard time dealing with all of this and the thought

> > that I

> > > > >   might have breast cancer. It's inspiring to hear from

people

> > who

> > > > have

> > > > >   been through it and survived it. Hope to hear from ya

soon!

> > > > >                                           HUGS!

> > > > >                                                 MEL

> > > > >                                            

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >        

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  • 2 weeks later...

Thank you, Doris.

My sister has done pretty good so far. She gets a bit overwhelmed sometimes and I have told her that is to be expected. She comes from strong stock and I know she will do just fine with all of this. When I finally got her to admit to herself and to me that she had cancer it was a turning point fro her. She has told her doctors do what you have to because I want to be around to see all of my grand kids walk down the aisle.

They said they got all of the cancer, the chemo is a preventative. She will have 6 treatments 3 weeks apart. Just amother bump in the road.

Hugs,

PS :Thank you for the site info. Several people have told me about it ,they just didn't have the name right.

Sheri

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Sheri, Your sister is indeed fortunate to have you. I don't know what

to tell you about getting her children to get involved...it seems that

" wanting to be involved " takes an effort on the part of so many and

they may or may not decide to take a part in her recovery. I am glad

you joined this group. I did not have a radical mastectomy...mine was

modified so I am sure she has more recovery time facing her than I

did. Ask any questions you want answered...we will do our best to

answer them...not all of us have had the same type of b.c. so someone

in our group will probably know the answers to your questins...if not,

we may know where you can get help. I would suggest that you go to

www.komen.org for a lot of information. Doris

> Hi, My name is Sheri and the reason for joining this group is because

> on Sept. 5th my sister got her results from her biopsy done on

> Sept.,2nd. She had infiltrating ductal carcinoma. On Sept.,11th she

> under went a radical mastectomy.This past Monday she had a port

> inserted in her chest and will begin chemo on the 30th.She will be

> having 6 treatments 3 weeks apart.

> Sandy doesn't have a PC and I told her I joined a couple of groups

> and if she has any questions I would ask. This email is to say hello

> and get to know you and let you get to know me.I have been reading

> everything I can get my hands on then passing on the information to

> Sandy.Here;s a little about Sandy. She is 62, divorced for many years

> and lives a lone. She has a 4 kids,2 of which live less then 2 miles

> from her.Her son is useless to her as he a very selfish being. Her

> daughter helps a little but she has 4 young kids of her own and is

> very busy. Until this cancer came about, unless the kids could gain

> something for themselves they left their mother alone.The son still

> does. The daughter is doing better.I guess you could say I have been

> her number one support.I live about an hour from her but have been

> with her through everythihg so far.That's why I joined this

> group...to get some support for myself and be able to pass that on to

> Sandy.

> Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can help her through

> this and maybe get her kids more involved.

> Sorry this is so long.Once I started I guess I couldn't stop.

> Anyhow, thanks for having me and any suggestions or advice would be

> greatly appreciated.

> Sheri

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Hello

My mom was diagnosed on Sept 4th that she had cancer and had a radical mastectomy Sept 29th

She had complications so we had to readmit her to hospital sept 13 and she got out that Friday.

I have 3 brothers and 1 sister and no one has helped me at all so I know how it feels. I guess people are afraid and some just don't help out for what ever reason. I have had the most difficult time myself. We cant make people do what they wont but don't get burned out like I have, I broke down the other day from exhaustion. You have to look after you to.Our patients can do some thing for themselves.No hard work but they need to be up and about in the house. mom cooks simple meals now because she wants to but no housework........

I am here for you.I just joined her about a week ago and there are some of the best people you will ever meet here.

Keep praying and we will pray for you too.

Hugs Debbie

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Hi Sheri and welcome. I am glad you joined the group. We will do everything

we can to help you and Sandy.

I had a mastectomy May 1990 for infitratring ductal carcinoma. I had 6

months of chemo, no radiation and no reconstruction and had 1 bad lymph node

out of 23.

You are doing the best thing you can by being there for your sister. Just

being with her and listening is a big help to the patient. Also if you can

bring her some dinners she can make little servings out of and freeze for

the days she might not be feeling well I know thats a big help, helping run

errands, some housework, going to the dr with her is great. Breast cancer is

not the death sentence it was once thought to be. It will be 13 1/2 yrs for

me next month and there are ladies here that are farther along than I am.

As far as the kids go I don't know what to tell you. If her son is like that

he may cause her more aggravation if he is around.

Please tell her I will keep her in my prayers and feel free to ask any

questions and we will do our best to answer them or point you in the right

direction.

Hugs

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> Hi, My name is Sheri and the reason for joining this group is because

> on Sept. 5th my sister got her results from her biopsy done on

> Sept.,2nd. She had infiltrating ductal carcinoma. On Sept.,11th she

> under went a radical mastectomy.This past Monday she had a port

> inserted in her chest and will begin chemo on the 30th.She will be

> having 6 treatments 3 weeks apart.

> Sandy doesn't have a PC and I told her I joined a couple of groups

> and if she has any questions I would ask. This email is to say hello

> and get to know you and let you get to know me.I have been reading

> everything I can get my hands on then passing on the information to

> Sandy.Here;s a little about Sandy. She is 62, divorced for many years

> and lives a lone. She has a 4 kids,2 of which live less then 2 miles

> from her.Her son is useless to her as he a very selfish being. Her

> daughter helps a little but she has 4 young kids of her own and is

> very busy. Until this cancer came about, unless the kids could gain

> something for themselves they left their mother alone.The son still

> does. The daughter is doing better.I guess you could say I have been

> her number one support.I live about an hour from her but have been

> with her through everythihg so far.That's why I joined this

> group...to get some support for myself and be able to pass that on to

> Sandy.

> Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can help her through

> this and maybe get her kids more involved.

> Sorry this is so long.Once I started I guess I couldn't stop.

> Anyhow, thanks for having me and any suggestions or advice would be

> greatly appreciated.

> Sheri

>

>

>

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nne,

Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I know Sandy will get through this with flying colors. I will do what I can to help her. What you said about her son is very true..more aggravation than it is worth. Hopefully with time he will come around and do what is right by his Mom.

This has been a terrible year for my family. It started in March with my mother-in-law passing away. In April my brother had the front right lobe of his lung removed. It wasn't cancer. It was a fungus from his line of work (plumber) and could have turned to cancer eventually. In May my dad (87) had surgery on his intestines. They found Crohn's disease. I was in FL for 7 weeks for that. Also found out this week dad needs another surgery because he has a hernia on his incision. Then in Sept. Sandy found out about her cancer. The greatest thing for this year is on Oct. 4th I became a Gramma for the first time to a beautiful baby boy named Cameron.

Thank God I have such an understanding husband because I figured out that I have been away from home for at least 31/2 months so far this year. I have basically grounded myself. I have let everyone know that unless it is life or death I am staying home. I just can't go anymore. I am under doctors care for major depression and other problems but my reserve of inner strength has been depleted. My counselor told me yesterday to tell anyone that asks to tell them I can't go anywhere..doctors orders. I love that man.

Sorry to babble on this way. I guess I am just over whelmed with all the happening of this year and there is more but I won't get into that.

Thanks for listening and thank you for the support.

Hugs,

PS: Congratulations on your doing so well. Stories like yours makes this bump in the road a little easier to see the other side.

Sheri

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Hi Debbie,

I guess we are sort of in the same boat. Your mother, my sister. But for many years my sister was like a second Mom to me. She's 16 years older than I am. I was an aunt at 4. Her kids and I grew up together. I used to spend summers with her. This is actually the first time in our lives we have lived in the same state and all calls are local. LOL

I told her recently that it took me awhile, many years to figure out she was just my sister and she really couldn't tell me what to do anymore. It turns out that I am the strong one of the bunch but that's OK. We have lost 2 brothers so now it is 1 brother 1 sister and me. I think our brother is in denial on all fronts. He has a hard time dealing with our parents age and their problems. He lives 3 hours from them. I live 8 but it is me that does the traveling. When Mom called to tell me that dad had to have another surgery she was very adamant that I would not be there. She called my brother and he said he would come up for 3-4 days but he is already complaining about it but not to our parents. I just hope he does the right thing.

I keep hoping that if I stay away from my sisters that her kids will pitch in more. Her daughter has done pretty good so far but 2 days after having her mastectomy we were at her daughters house because she was cooking for everyone. Sandy should have been at home, resting but didn't want to let her kids down. she paid the price for the next couple of days. Supper should have been brought to her and the kids should have gone to her house. I do hope and pray they come around and do right by their Mom. I just can't do it all.

Thanks for listening.

Hugs

PS: Take care of yourself.

Sheri

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Oh my you certainly have been thorugh a lot. We had that back in the late 60s. My Mother died Feb.10, my Grandpa, her father died May 6th, we lost a cousin in Aug. it just sometimes like its never going to end.

I am gald your counsellor told you to stay home unless its a matter of life and death. You need to take care of YOU. If you get too run down your immune system gets run down and then that could lead to trouble. Please feel free to post as much as you want here ad/or email me at moochie@... I am usually home all day everyday. Mon. and Tues I will be gone part of each day but the first thing I do is check my email.

Lots of prayers for you and Sandy.

Hugs

nne

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nne, Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I know Sandy will get through this with flying colors. I will do what I can to help her. What you said about her son is very true..more aggravation than it is worth. Hopefully with time he will come around and do what is right by his Mom.This has been a terrible year for my family. It started in March with my mother-in-law passing away. In April my brother had the front right lobe of his lung removed. It wasn't cancer. It was a fungus from his line of work (plumber) and could have turned to cancer eventually. In May my dad (87) had surgery on his intestines. They found Crohn's disease. I was in FL for 7 weeks for that. Also found out this week dad needs another surgery because he has a hernia on his incision. Then in Sept. Sandy found out about her cancer. The greatest thing for this year is on Oct. 4th I became a Gramma for the first time to a beautiful baby boy named Cameron.Thank God I have such an understanding husband because I figured out that I have been away from home for at least 31/2 months so far this year. I have basically grounded myself. I have let everyone know that unless it is life or death I am staying home. I just can't go anymore. I am under doctors care for major depression and other problems but my reserve of inner strength has been depleted. My counselor told me yesterday to tell anyone that asks to tell them I can't go anywhere..doctors orders. I love that man.Sorry to babble on this way. I guess I am just over whelmed with all the happening of this year and there is more but I won't get into that.Thanks for listening and thank you for the support.Hugs,PS: Congratulations on your doing so well. Stories like yours makes this bump in the road a little easier to see the other side.

Sheri

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I know what you mean about it all.I was suffering from major depression 2 and 3 years ago but with a great doc and medicine it helped but I am falling again, I am depressed.

My dad is always sick, he is a 7 years colon cancer survivor with a colostomy but has many health problems but wont do anything about the probs until its too late. he is like a child, he is 78 but is more like 12.

My parents live upstairs form me so I am always the one here doing no matter what.I am a single mom of 4; 23,20,15,and 14 and they all still live at home.

just keep up the faith and think about you for awhile, this is one of those reasons you have to stop and take care of you.Last sunday I was in the bathroom crying,and shaking and sick to my stomach with stress of trying to do it all by myself.the ladies here made me realize I can only do what i can do and that I have to take care of me too.

Ill do anything for my parents but I have to take care of me to or I wont be any good to anyone.

hugs, Debbie

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