What was this about?

[Guest guest]

Several times, my narc sister had tried to get me to go to an

Al anon type support group...just to learn the lessons taught there.

Which, is fine.

And she was doing this in the name of " caring " and

being " supportive. "

This was just after my ex BPD and I seperated.

I was the fool who finally went with her to this group. Turns out

it was a group for women who's husbands are addicted to porn/sex

etc.

So, I go and women are talking about these men in their lives who

they are thinking of leaving. I say a few things about my past (very

personal) about an old boyfriend I had wanted to marry, and I

mention a few things about my x (not much). Well, my narc sister

somehow decided that since I had brought up this old boyfriend, I

must be having an affair with him now. She went on to tell everyone

this in the family. Then, as you know, she had called my ex BPD

husband to tell him that she was on his side. Needless to say, I

never went to another meeting with her. To this day, she may not

get why I wouldn't go. Or, why I am absent when she is around-NC!

But, I don't get her whole inviting me in the first place...just to

create an elaborate schmear campaign? Just to appear to be trying to

help someone and have the " inside " scoop on my life. Which, really

she knows nothing about. It just seems that the whole thing was

meant to make me look bad and make her look like she knows what she's

saying when she lies about me...so she can appear the " all knowing "

Queen she feels she is.

She has always, for years tried to get me into therapy. Of course,

offering to go with me. She somehow got a hold of (my ex bpd

probably gave her) the phone number to our marraige therapist and

told him " she's mentally ill-don't believe anything she sais. " Well,

the therapist was smarter than that. He didn't believe it and

confronted my ex for having people call to say that and for saying

that himself when obviously I'm not mentally ill.

The therapist told me to leave him. That in itself was a great thing

to hear coming out of a therapists mouth.

I don't know why I'm rambling on about this. I guess no matter how

hard you try to understand the workings of a NARC-it's impossible.

They just don't think like everyone else.