Guest guest Posted October 29, 2008 Report Share Posted October 29, 2008 Your mother's repeated choices to alientate anyone close to her are not your fault. Please do not feel guilty for her bad choices. She is alone because she doesn't treat people well. When I read your email, the first thing I thought was, " Good for you! You helped give your father the strength to leave an abusive relationship! " Be proud of that - you are the healthiest, strongest person in your family and you are setting a wonderful example of how to care about yourself. Please remember that you cannot control and therefore should not feel guilty about the choices your mother makes. She will see soon enough what damage she has done. She will probably blame it on everyone else until there is no one left to blame. You are not responsible for her choices, or your sister's choice to help her. Your sister is capable of leaving the relationship, too, but has not yet chosen to leave the abuse. Don't worry about her neighbors thinking you are _________ because you don't help a horrible woman be horrible to others. If they care that much, they should go help her and will then understand why you left. Stay strong. You are doing what is right for you. (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 29, 2008 Report Share Posted October 29, 2008 Thank you so much for your e mail. I am going " home " to visit my sister and the kids and will have to see my mother as well for just a bit. Your e mail gives me great strength and encouragement. Thank you. AMG ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Wednesday, October 29, 2008 7:48:27 PM Subject: Re:Feeling guilty Your mother's repeated choices to alientate anyone close to her are not your fault. Please do not feel guilty for her bad choices. She is alone because she doesn't treat people well. When I read your email, the first thing I thought was, " Good for you! You helped give your father the strength to leave an abusive relationship! " Be proud of that - you are the healthiest, strongest person in your family and you are setting a wonderful example of how to care about yourself. Please remember that you cannot control and therefore should not feel guilty about the choices your mother makes. She will see soon enough what damage she has done. She will probably blame it on everyone else until there is no one left to blame. You are not responsible for her choices, or your sister's choice to help her. Your sister is capable of leaving the relationship, too, but has not yet chosen to leave the abuse. Don't worry about her neighbors thinking you are _________ because you don't help a horrible woman be horrible to others. If they care that much, they should go help her and will then understand why you left. Stay strong. You are doing what is right for you. (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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