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Hello. I'm . I just joined this group because I can't stand being

alone anymore. My mother clearly has BPD, although she won't admit to

it.

She always has had it, but as a young kid, I thought it was just her

cocaine addiction, as did everyone else in my family. She finally

overcame her addiction, but she still acts almost the same way, which

lead me to believe that there may be something else.

Since I am the only person in my disfunctional family to realize that

there is something wrong with her, I feel alone in my quest for help. I

am frightened that I may develop the same behaviour. I don't want my

children to suffer the same way I did.

I'm not sure what else to say, so I'll stop for now.

[Guest guest]

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> Hello. I'm . I just joined this group because I can't stand

being

> alone anymore. My mother clearly has BPD, although she won't admit to

> it.

> She always has had it, but as a young kid, I thought it was just her

> cocaine addiction, as did everyone else in my family. She finally

> overcame her addiction, but she still acts almost the same way, which

> lead me to believe that there may be something else.

> Since I am the only person in my disfunctional family to realize that

> there is something wrong with her, I feel alone in my quest for help.

I

> am frightened that I may develop the same behaviour. I don't want my

> children to suffer the same way I did.

> I'm not sure what else to say, so I'll stop for now.

I am pretty much in the same boat. My nada clearly has all the signs of

having BPD, but denies it saying it is depression. However, it confuses

me that she is on a disability pension when depression is treatable. I

am the only one in my dysfunctional family to realise that she has

mental problems that dont conform to being diagnosed with depression.

One thing I do know is that you either have BPD or you dont, there is

not much of a chance of developing it as an adult as it tends to

manifest itself early in life, or is genetically ingrained. Chances are

too that if you are in a quest for help, you do not have BPD as those

with the illness are the last to realize they have the problem and dont

tend to seek treatment. Protect your children from her to reduce the

likelihood that they will suffer as you have.