To All those with BPD Fathers

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I want to print out all the posts from  those with BPD fathers.  Could you all

post a message that I a can print out for my daughter.  She has overwhealming

feelings of worthlessness.  Yet she is a wonderful person with beautiful

qualities.  She is kind, gentle, loving, organized, intelligent, and physically

beautiful.  I am just now trying to explain to my children the complications of

having a BPD Dad.   I would appreciate any thoughts you might have that could

help her see where these feelings are coming from.  She was feeling great for

the year that she moved away but now that she is back the worthless feelings are

back. My other children struggle with similar feelings. I have my own set of

problems dealing with a BPD husband so trying to help my children with their

struggles is a challange. I only with I knew back then.

Re: MomandDad

LOL! Love the " Car to Nowhere " ! How BPD of your mom!

-Annie

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I have a situation that I wonder if others are familiar

> with.

> > > My

> > > > > father has many traits of BPD though he has never been

> diagnosed

> > > by

> > > > > anyone (other than me and my brother:)) I was living on my

> own

> > > and

> > > > > moved back into my parents house when I was 24 (was supposed

> to

> > > stay

> > > > > for a year or two). I am 29 now.. I am so conflicted by my

> living

> > > > > situation. My mother and father have a BP/non-BP

> relationship in

> > > every

> > > > > sense. I would hate to leave them alone and feel a great

> sense of

> > > > > guilt at the thought of leaving. However, my mental health is

> > > > > suffering beause I continue to stay and watch my mother be

> > > abused (and

> > > > > swallow it all to please my father). I directed my mother to

> > > > > BPDcentral and told her about Stop Walking on Eggshells. But

> my

> > > guess

> > > > > is that everything will stay the same.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > It is also hard for me because I feel as if my emotional

> state

> > > has

> > > > > reverted back to that of a teenager. My father requires a

> great

> > > deal

> > > > > of my mother's attention and she caters to his every whim.

> He

> > > says

> > > > > " jump " and " she says how high?! " He tells her she jumped the

> > > wrong way

> > > > > and she tries again. Everything revolves around him.

> Sometimes

> > > it is

> > > > > so hard to get her attention for just a minute. I get the

> > > impression

> > > > > that I am a nusance and they just want to be left alone in

> their

> > > > > miserable BP/non-BP world. I feel unwanted. My mother and I

> used

> > > to

> > > > > see a movie once every two weeks and don't even do that

> anymore.

> > > If he

> > > > > is coming home she needs to be there when he is there. It's

> not

> > > > > pleasant to go out with her at times because she becomes a

> wreck

> > > the

> > > > > closer it gets to the time he will be home.. I know he also

> > > feels hurt

> > > > > because I want to spend time with my mother...I don't want

> to

> > > spend

> > > > > time with him...its painful to be around him for just a few

> > > minutes. I

> > > > > feel for

> > > > > > her because she has both of us and my brother all wanting

> her

> > > > > attention and I know she feels pulled apart. Then I feel

> like a

> > > jerk

> > > > > for even still needing mommy's attention at my age! Is

> anyone

> > > else

> > > > > going through a similar situation?

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Dawn

> > > > > >

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