UPDATE: Re: Angry/Annoyed when I probably shouldn't be

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Yesterday my sister came to visit me at work since she works across

the street and had some time to kill before her shift.

It was a nice little visit, she wanted to see my new car.

Then she started talking about her car, and she brought up NADa, not

me, saying things in a " matter of fact " tone. She said things

like " yeah, mom likes to get involved because it makes her feel good

to help out and be involved in my life, so I just said ok when she

wanted to send me the money " .

I didn't bring it up, but she did, and it seemed like she felt the

need to justify herself taking money from NADA.

It was weird. But it just makes the theory that she is enjoying

being " all good " make even more sense. She said that part of the

reason she is taking the money from NADA is because it makes NADA

feel better. Not because it helps her out.

Growing up, my sister was black and i was white. I guess now that

she is getting a taste of what its like to be white things may be

different for her for a long time.

This " reversal of colors " is not something I've ever thought about.

It's so strange to me.

~Sara Jo

>

> I was talking with my sister last night and she's been having some

> car problems. Really she just needs a tune up, but she is really

> worried. It might be a fuel problem though, she doesn't know and

> needs to get it checked out.

> Anywho, I kept telling her that my and my husband will help her

out

> if she needed it, and to calm down because her stomach was hurting

> her from being so stressed out. I wanted to make sure she was

okay.

>

> Today she tells me that she is getting her car fixed at the end of

> the week because NADA is sending her money. WTF???

>

> NADA has no money, she gets like $600 a month from disability and

> has nothing else.

>

> Also, NADA lives 11 hours away. I live down the street from my

> sister. Why didn't my sister come to me? I could have given her

the

> money right away.

> Instead she asks NADA for it and is waiting for it in the mail.

But

> I'm right here. We even work across the street from each other. I

> can see her building out of my office window.

>

> my sister has admit in the past that nothing comes from NADA

without

> a heavy price.

>

> I think my sister is being fooled by NADA. Ever since NADA

banished

> me from the family and started her little smear campaign, she has

> been EXTRA nice to my little sister. my sister even sent me an

email

> a couple weeks ago taking up for NADA a little bit saying that

NADA

> has changed and is nicer etc.

>

> Why would she do that?

>

> I just can't understand it.

>

> Someone help me make sense of this. Why take money from your mom

who

> lives hours away when you have another family member here who

> respects you and is nice to you that could give it to you?

> ~Sara Jo

>