Guest guest Posted March 6, 2002 Report Share Posted March 6, 2002 Today while waiting for at school, I was chatting with some of the moms in his class. I see them every school day, and everyone just chats. But during THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY all know each other's phone numbers and personal lives! So once again, there I was on the outside, wondering why I'm on the outside. Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't know what people's problems are. *I* like you a lot. " I said, " It's not even that they don't like me -- they don't even get to KNOW me. " I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering about it, and saying, " what is it about me that makes people not bother to get to know me, " and Marc answered with what is probably the truth of the matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're The Special Needs Mom. " And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure the asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all through my life before now there have been special people who have been willing to keep calling me, and dropping by, and calling me more, until I become their friend. All of the friends I still have in my life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it their mission to be my friend, however apathetic to the idea I may have seemed. People who just kept calling, even when I didn't call back. And I love those people because they never gave up -- they WANTED me to be their friend. I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to be that attractive to potential friends, which leaves only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off those who might have befriended me otherwise. WHY? I don't understand. What is so frightening about being friendly and personal with the mother of an autistic child? Do they think he's contagious? Or do they think I might be a horrible person who DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd need to treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not want their kids to be overly exposed to my kid, thinking their kid can learn enough acceptance and tolerance just by sitting in circle time with him at school? I could go on for hours... Jacquie mom to , 5 Parenting Autism moderator " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are. " --Greta Ehrlich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > Today while waiting for at school, I was chatting with some of the moms in his class. I see them every school day, and everyone just chats. But during THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY all know each other's phone numbers and personal lives! > YOu know Jacquie - I see this too. I've always been very friendly with the parents (even with 's school) and yet they all seem to *know* each other a lot better. I never understood it either. But I " m also not the type to necessarily reach out to someone I don't know well and say Hi I'm Kerri, what's your number let's get together. I dunno.. Kerri But WE LOVE YOU! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 Oh, I have felt the exact same way! Long before Kep got his dx even. That's why I love this neighborhood. There are other special needs moms and we cling to each other! I think the reason they keep their distance is because they are scared. Not of your son, not of autism catching and certainly not of you. They are simply ignorant so they don't know what to say or do, so they choose to do nothing. I really, really think that is the reason. The best thing about the new mom in the neighborhood? When she heard Kep was autistic, she immediately started asking questions. She was comfortable right away. Most people aren't that way though. Disabilities scare them because they don't know how to handle it. Should they act different? Offer pity? People just don't get it. Honestly Jacquie, if they are too afraid to approach you and ask simple questions, then they are not worth knowing all that well. Amy H--in Michigan Kepler 4 1/2 ASD and Bethany 6 NT " Harmony breeds ignorance. It is the dissonant chords of life that lead us to wisdom. " ~me _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com/intl.asp. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have very few friends myself. I have many aquaintances, but only one friend that I do things with besides my husband or my family. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing unless you are not satisfied with your life as it is. I don't really want the obligation that a lot of friends involves. I don't like to go places much. I like to stay home with my family and not have to call people all the time and feel obligated to " get together " with so and so. Ya know? I guess it's not too surprising that I have a special needs daughter huh? When I write stuff like this I think...jeesh, am I really like that? Then I think....YUP! I sure am. Tamara --- The Hunny Family wrote: > Today while waiting for at school, I was > chatting with some of the moms in his class. I see > them every school day, and everyone just chats. But > during THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY > all know each other's phone numbers and personal > lives! > > So once again, there I was on the outside, wondering > why I'm on the outside. > > Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He > prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't know > what people's problems are. *I* like you a lot. " I > said, " It's not even that they don't like me -- they > don't even get to KNOW me. " > > I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering > about it, and saying, " what is it about me that > makes people not bother to get to know me, " and Marc > answered with what is probably the truth of the > matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're The > Special Needs Mom. " > > And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure the > asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all through > my life before now there have been special people > who have been willing to keep calling me, and > dropping by, and calling me more, until I become > their friend. All of the friends I still have in my > life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it their > mission to be my friend, however apathetic to the > idea I may have seemed. People who just kept > calling, even when I didn't call back. And I love > those people because they never gave up -- they > WANTED me to be their friend. > > I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to be > that attractive to potential friends, which leaves > only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off those > who might have befriended me otherwise. > > WHY? I don't understand. What is so frightening > about being friendly and personal with the mother of > an autistic child? Do they think he's contagious? > Or do they think I might be a horrible person who > DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd need to > treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not want > their kids to be overly exposed to my kid, thinking > their kid can learn enough acceptance and tolerance > just by sitting in circle time with him at school? > > I could go on for hours... > > Jacquie > mom to , 5 > Parenting Autism moderator > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be > what we are. " > --Greta Ehrlich > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 You could, but don't! I think you are WAY off base. I always felt so sad, bad and alone because no one ever approached me, I was never involved in the little cliques, etc. But you know what? I think it's just your personality and, dare I say, Aspergers. People like you and I do not communicate on the same level as the soccer-mom-wheres-my-cell-phone-does-my-hair-look-ok type of Mom. So, naturally, if we were to actually " get " into conversations with these people, we'd tune them out immediately (no offense, folks, really) It's not . You are not flawed. You are who you are and I for one would sit and talk with you forever on the playground. :-D Penny >>>>>>> I could go on for hours... Jacquie mom to , 5 Parenting Autism moderator " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are. " --Greta Ehrlich <<<<<<< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have > very few friends myself. I have many aquaintances, > but only one friend that I do things with besides my > husband or my family. You have a friend to do things with??? You're ahead of me. I have one friend whose house I visit so the kids can play, but we don't socialize on our own. My best friends are both hours away. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 Now I am a wee bit concerned. Are you people actually going to SPEAK to me while at the conference? LOL I mean... it's okay if I TALK with you guys, yes? No? Yes??? ;o) Grace Re: I'm pretty upset. (but it will pass) > Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have > very few friends myself. I have many aquaintances, > but only one friend that I do things with besides my > husband or my family. I don't think it's necessarily > a bad thing unless you are not satisfied with your > life as it is. I don't really want the obligation > that a lot of friends involves. I don't like to go > places much. I like to stay home with my family and > not have to call people all the time and feel > obligated to " get together " with so and so. Ya know? > I guess it's not too surprising that I have a special > needs daughter huh? When I write stuff like this I > think...jeesh, am I really like that? Then I > think....YUP! I sure am. > Tamara > > --- The Hunny Family wrote: > > Today while waiting for at school, I was > > chatting with some of the moms in his class. I see > > them every school day, and everyone just chats. But > > during THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY > > all know each other's phone numbers and personal > > lives! > > > > So once again, there I was on the outside, wondering > > why I'm on the outside. > > > > Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He > > prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't know > > what people's problems are. *I* like you a lot. " I > > said, " It's not even that they don't like me -- they > > don't even get to KNOW me. " > > > > I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering > > about it, and saying, " what is it about me that > > makes people not bother to get to know me, " and Marc > > answered with what is probably the truth of the > > matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're The > > Special Needs Mom. " > > > > And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure the > > asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all through > > my life before now there have been special people > > who have been willing to keep calling me, and > > dropping by, and calling me more, until I become > > their friend. All of the friends I still have in my > > life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it their > > mission to be my friend, however apathetic to the > > idea I may have seemed. People who just kept > > calling, even when I didn't call back. And I love > > those people because they never gave up -- they > > WANTED me to be their friend. > > > > I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to be > > that attractive to potential friends, which leaves > > only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off those > > who might have befriended me otherwise. > > > > WHY? I don't understand. What is so frightening > > about being friendly and personal with the mother of > > an autistic child? Do they think he's contagious? > > Or do they think I might be a horrible person who > > DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd need to > > treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not want > > their kids to be overly exposed to my kid, thinking > > their kid can learn enough acceptance and tolerance > > just by sitting in circle time with him at school? > > > > I could go on for hours... > > > > Jacquie > > mom to , 5 > > Parenting Autism moderator > > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be > > what we are. " > > --Greta Ehrlich > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > You could, but don't! I think you are WAY off base. > > I always felt so sad, bad and alone because no one ever approached me, I was > never involved in the little cliques, etc. But you know what? I think it's > just your personality and, dare I say, Aspergers. More and more as things come up in my life, I realize that the informal Asperger's dx is probably right on. People like you and I do > not communicate on the same level as the > soccer-mom-wheres-my-cell-phone-does-my-hair-look-ok type of Mom. So, > naturally, if we were to actually " get " into conversations with these > people, we'd tune them out immediately (no offense, folks, really) I do know you're right about the communication impasse. I also know that I tend to speak too plainly for most people. I don't mean simply, I mean in-your-face blatantcy (if such a word exists). And I offer too much personal information. I feel like the rest of the world has a secret code way of talking, like they're foloowing some rules of social interaction that I just don't know. I've said this for years; it's not just the knowledge of ASD that's making me say it now. I used to cry and say, " why didn't anybody teach ME??? " Which stikes me as ironic, because now *I'm* supposed to be teaching it to MY kid! LOL > It's not . You are not flawed. You are who you are and I for one would > sit and talk with you forever on the playground. You have no idea how happy that makes me. And it goes both ways! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > Are you people actually going to SPEAK to me while at the conference? LOL > I mean... it's okay if I TALK with you guys, yes? No? Yes??? > YES! But (I've been waiting for an opportunity to bring this up) DON'T hug me first! LOL. If *I* hug you, that's great, and I hope you'll hug me back. If you ASK to hug me, or TELL me you're about to hug me, that's great. But if just hug me without any warning whatsoever, I will be incredibly uncomfortable. Don't ask why, I don't know why. It's just how I am! :-P Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 I feel faint. Now I am convinced. Nobody is going to talk to me at this conference. All of you are going to communicate on whatever level y'all communicate on and leave me out in lalaland or something. Grace RE: I'm pretty upset. (but it will pass) > You could, but don't! I think you are WAY off base. > > I always felt so sad, bad and alone because no one ever approached me, I was > never involved in the little cliques, etc. But you know what? I think it's > just your personality and, dare I say, Aspergers. People like you and I do > not communicate on the same level as the > soccer-mom-wheres-my-cell-phone-does-my-hair-look-ok type of Mom. So, > naturally, if we were to actually " get " into conversations with these > people, we'd tune them out immediately (no offense, folks, really) > > It's not . You are not flawed. You are who you are and I for one would > sit and talk with you forever on the playground. > > :-D > Penny > > > >>>>>>> > I could go on for hours... > > Jacquie > mom to , 5 > Parenting Autism moderator > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are. " > --Greta Ehrlich > > <<<<<<< > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 Well, it is never nice to feel left out, and I know I have felt that way at baseball and soccer games although I don't really care deeply. They would sometimes ask why I couldn't watch the games properly instead of roaming all over with Putter. There is no real way to explain that " watching the games properly " would mean holding a strong struggling Putter and perhaps Robbie too during the game. I suspect I can see more of the game while roaming than I would under those circumstances! And imagine the stares! Most people have little idea of what we live through; people of little imagination have even less. And Amy is right that they don't know what to say. We are the embodiment of all their bad dreams. No one wants to talk to a nightmare. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 Grace...you are too too funny!!!! LOLOL Of course I will talk to you. I already know you. It's new friends that I have a problem with. And maintainance of everyday face to face friendships. It's usually too much work. My entire time there will be dedicated to socializing. So fear not....we will be having a good time!!!! This post seriously cracked me up!!! You are hilarious. Tamara --- Grace Keh wrote: > Now I am a wee bit concerned. > > Are you people actually going to SPEAK to me while > at the conference? LOL > I mean... it's okay if I TALK with you guys, yes? > No? Yes??? > > ;o) > > Grace > Re: I'm pretty upset. > (but it will pass) > > > > Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have > > very few friends myself. I have many > aquaintances, > > but only one friend that I do things with besides > my > > husband or my family. I don't think it's > necessarily > > a bad thing unless you are not satisfied with your > > life as it is. I don't really want the obligation > > that a lot of friends involves. I don't like to > go > > places much. I like to stay home with my family > and > > not have to call people all the time and feel > > obligated to " get together " with so and so. Ya > know? > > I guess it's not too surprising that I have a > special > > needs daughter huh? When I write stuff like this > I > > think...jeesh, am I really like that? Then I > > think....YUP! I sure am. > > Tamara > > > > --- The Hunny Family wrote: > > > Today while waiting for at school, I was > > > chatting with some of the moms in his class. I > see > > > them every school day, and everyone just chats. > But > > > during THIS particular chat, I discovered that > THEY > > > all know each other's phone numbers and personal > > > lives! > > > > > > So once again, there I was on the outside, > wondering > > > why I'm on the outside. > > > > > > Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He > > > prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't > know > > > what people's problems are. *I* like you a > lot. " I > > > said, " It's not even that they don't like me -- > they > > > don't even get to KNOW me. " > > > > > > I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering > > > about it, and saying, " what is it about me that > > > makes people not bother to get to know me, " and > Marc > > > answered with what is probably the truth of the > > > matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're > The > > > Special Needs Mom. " > > > > > > And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure > the > > > asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all > through > > > my life before now there have been special > people > > > who have been willing to keep calling me, and > > > dropping by, and calling me more, until I become > > > their friend. All of the friends I still have > in my > > > life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it > their > > > mission to be my friend, however apathetic to > the > > > idea I may have seemed. People who just kept > > > calling, even when I didn't call back. And I > love > > > those people because they never gave up -- they > > > WANTED me to be their friend. > > > > > > I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to > be > > > that attractive to potential friends, which > leaves > > > only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off > those > > > who might have befriended me otherwise. > > > > > > WHY? I don't understand. What is so > frightening > > > about being friendly and personal with the > mother of > > > an autistic child? Do they think he's > contagious? > > > Or do they think I might be a horrible person > who > > > DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd > need to > > > treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not > want > > > their kids to be overly exposed to my kid, > thinking > > > their kid can learn enough acceptance and > tolerance > > > just by sitting in circle time with him at > school? > > > > > > I could go on for hours... > > > > > > Jacquie > > > mom to , 5 > > > Parenting Autism moderator > > > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to > be > > > what we are. " > > > --Greta Ehrlich > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > > Don't ask why, I don't know why. It's just how I am! :-P > I sympathize, Jacquie. I am not a hugger by nature (I don't even give cyber-hugs). Of course, I won't be there but now you know I wouldn't make you uncomfortable if I were! Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > I feel faint. > Now I am convinced. Nobody is going to talk to me at this conference. All > of you are going to communicate on whatever level y'all communicate on and > leave me out in lalaland or something. > Trust me, grace -- I will TALK. I will talk so long and so much that you will be wishing I'd just shut the hell up. Trust me. I babble with the best of 'em. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 --- The Hunny Family wrote: But during THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY all know each other's phone numbers and personal lives! So once again, there I was on the outside, wondering why I'm on the outside. I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering about it, and saying, " what is it about me that makes people not bother to get to know me, " and Marc answered with what is probably the truth of the matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're The Special Needs Mom.<<<<< That's me! That's so totally ME! I can't tell you how many times I've felt like everyone's part of a secret club. Except me. And I don't know why either. Sigh. Tuna ===== When a person responds to the joys and sorrows of others as if they were his own, he has attained the highest state of spiritual union. -Bhagavad Gita 6:32 ______________________________________________________________________ Find, Connect, Date! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 But Tamara, I am dead serious - and not trying to be funny. I am not familiar with " your kind " <Referring to you, Jacquie, and whoever else is in your club>.... I'm probably going to screw up from minute one or something and be the odd man out for the whole trip. Y'all will go out for breakfast for Wilkes Barre bagels and leave me in my room, waiting for you to call me out or something. I'm afraid! Grace Re: I'm pretty upset. > > (but it will pass) > > > > > > > Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have > > > very few friends myself. I have many > > aquaintances, > > > but only one friend that I do things with besides > > my > > > husband or my family. I don't think it's > > necessarily > > > a bad thing unless you are not satisfied with your > > > life as it is. I don't really want the obligation > > > that a lot of friends involves. I don't like to > > go > > > places much. I like to stay home with my family > > and > > > not have to call people all the time and feel > > > obligated to " get together " with so and so. Ya > > know? > > > I guess it's not too surprising that I have a > > special > > > needs daughter huh? When I write stuff like this > > I > > > think...jeesh, am I really like that? Then I > > > think....YUP! I sure am. > > > Tamara > > > > > > --- The Hunny Family wrote: > > > > Today while waiting for at school, I was > > > > chatting with some of the moms in his class. I > > see > > > > them every school day, and everyone just chats. > > But > > > > during THIS particular chat, I discovered that > > THEY > > > > all know each other's phone numbers and personal > > > > lives! > > > > > > > > So once again, there I was on the outside, > > wondering > > > > why I'm on the outside. > > > > > > > > Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He > > > > prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't > > know > > > > what people's problems are. *I* like you a > > lot. " I > > > > said, " It's not even that they don't like me -- > > they > > > > don't even get to KNOW me. " > > > > > > > > I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering > > > > about it, and saying, " what is it about me that > > > > makes people not bother to get to know me, " and > > Marc > > > > answered with what is probably the truth of the > > > > matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're > > The > > > > Special Needs Mom. " > > > > > > > > And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure > > the > > > > asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all > > through > > > > my life before now there have been special > > people > > > > who have been willing to keep calling me, and > > > > dropping by, and calling me more, until I become > > > > their friend. All of the friends I still have > > in my > > > > life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it > > their > > > > mission to be my friend, however apathetic to > > the > > > > idea I may have seemed. People who just kept > > > > calling, even when I didn't call back. And I > > love > > > > those people because they never gave up -- they > > > > WANTED me to be their friend. > > > > > > > > I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to > > be > > > > that attractive to potential friends, which > > leaves > > > > only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off > > those > > > > who might have befriended me otherwise. > > > > > > > > WHY? I don't understand. What is so > > frightening > > > > about being friendly and personal with the > > mother of > > > > an autistic child? Do they think he's > > contagious? > > > > Or do they think I might be a horrible person > > who > > > > DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd > > need to > > > > treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not > > want > > > > their kids to be overly exposed to my kid, > > thinking > > > > their kid can learn enough acceptance and > > tolerance > > > > just by sitting in circle time with him at > > school? > > > > > > > > I could go on for hours... > > > > > > > > Jacquie > > > > mom to , 5 > > > > Parenting Autism moderator > > > > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to > > be > > > > what we are. " > > > > --Greta Ehrlich > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 >>>I feel like the rest of the world has a secret code way of talking, like they're foloowing some rules of social interaction that I just don't know. I've said this for years; it's not just the knowledge of ASD that's making me say it now. I used to cry and say, " why didn't anybody teach ME??? " Which stikes me as ironic, because now *I'm* supposed to be teaching it to MY kid! LOL<<<< Jacquie, you just described me. Again. This is getting spooky. Tuna ===== When a person responds to the joys and sorrows of others as if they were his own, he has attained the highest state of spiritual union. -Bhagavad Gita 6:32 ______________________________________________________________________ Find, Connect, Date! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 >>>Most people have little idea of what we live through; people of little imagination have even less.< Salli, Well said. Tuna ===== When a person responds to the joys and sorrows of others as if they were his own, he has attained the highest state of spiritual union. -Bhagavad Gita 6:32 ______________________________________________________________________ Find, Connect, Date! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > YES! But (I've been waiting for an opportunity to bring this up) DON'T hug me first! LOL. If *I* hug you, that's great, and I hope you'll hug me back. If you ASK to hug me, or TELL me you're about to hug me, that's great. But if just hug me without any warning whatsoever, I will be incredibly uncomfortable. > > Don't ask why, I don't know why. It's just how I am! :-P OH GEEZ. You are sounding more and more like Madison. There is hope for her yet. YOU are another story LOL. I will steer clear. I will take two steps back, holler my hellos and either wait for you to hug me, or just spit at you and walk by, telling you, " See you at dinner, girlfriend! " , OK? Oh heavens LOLOL.... <shaking head....> Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > That's me! That's so totally ME! I can't tell you how > many times I've felt like everyone's part of a secret > club. Except me. And I don't know why either. Sigh. > > Tuna Oh. My. Gawwwd. Tuna, you would not believe how many times I have used THOSE EXACT WORDS. <mouth hanging open> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > I feel faint. > Now I am convinced. Nobody is going to talk to me at this conference. All > of you are going to communicate on whatever level y'all communicate on and > leave me out in lalaland or something. > > Grace See, I should have went, cause I'd just run over and bowl you over with a big ol hug! Kerri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 See? Now Yahoo is really pissing me off. This message was written in the morning. And it just came in. Being down is one thing. Messing with the order of my message - - now that means war. Grace RE: I'm pretty upset. (but it will pass) > > > > You could, but don't! I think you are WAY off base. > > > > I always felt so sad, bad and alone because no one ever approached me, I > was > > never involved in the little cliques, etc. But you know what? I think > it's > > just your personality and, dare I say, Aspergers. People like you and I > do > > not communicate on the same level as the > > soccer-mom-wheres-my-cell-phone-does-my-hair-look-ok type of Mom. So, > > naturally, if we were to actually " get " into conversations with these > > people, we'd tune them out immediately (no offense, folks, really) > > > > It's not . You are not flawed. You are who you are and I for one > would > > sit and talk with you forever on the playground. > > > > :-D > > Penny > > > > > > >>>>>>> > > I could go on for hours... > > > > Jacquie > > mom to , 5 > > Parenting Autism moderator > > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are. " > > --Greta Ehrlich > > > > <<<<<<< > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > I'm probably going to screw up from minute one or something and be the odd > man out for the whole trip. Y'all will go out for breakfast for Wilkes > Barre bagels and leave me in my room, waiting for you to call me out or > something. BWA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ummm....the scenario is more like WE'LL be in OUR rooms, deathly afraid to come out and hoping like hell that you come and get us and pull us into the action, because we can't do it ourselves! I can't speak for anyone else, but as long as someone is friendly to me FIRST, I can function quite well. If *I* have to make the first move, well, cold day in hell and all that. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > I used to cry and say, " why didn't anybody teach ME??? " Which stikes me as ironic, because now *I'm* supposed to be teaching it to MY kid! LOL < i say that to my therapist ALL the time... Autism is not the end of the World. . . . just the beginning of a new one. - Sally Meyer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 > See, I should have went, cause I'd just run over and bowl you over with a big ol hug! < kerri!!! you could still go!!! Autism is not the end of the World. . . . just the beginning of a new one. - Sally Meyer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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