Re: OT Re: Chicken Choices, insurances and more,

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

> I completely agree. I have no pride in where our family is or is not

> because I understand that it is not primarily what I have done that

> has gotten us here. A number of people have pointed out that my

> posts have been empathetic and compassionate - my own family has been

> in these situations and are currently in some of them.

I didn't mean to be making any specific criticisms of your posts. I

unfortunately have not been able to read most of the posts in this

thread, though I'll try to come back to it when I can.

Regarding confronting people about their thoughts, I agree one can do

it with compassion. I don't think there is any rule about it, as if

it is inherently uncompassionate to do so, or inherently more

compassionate to do so. Sometimes the point will help and sometimes

it will not, or do worse. Sometimes one can make a genuinely

concerned post about all the things other should or could do but it

will come across as a lack of empathy and it doesn't do any good. Or

sometimes we can do that and be completely right, but then it does

something not so good to us because we are spending all our time

talking about other people's faults. On the other hand if no one ever

criticized anyone an awful lot of learning opportunities would be

foregone.

Chris

[Guest guest]

Chris-

> It also is much easier to say something " made me cry " than something

> " elicited a crying response from me " and most people would interpret

> it the right way. If say, " ha, that made me laugh, " not many people

> would point out that whatever it was did not physically force me to

> laugh.

Yes, well, that's much too obvious a point for me to have thought of

it. ;-)

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[Guest guest]

As a mature adult and my feelings are mine - no one makes me laugh or cry,

or any other expression of emotion. I choose how to respond to stimulus.

Kathy

Re: OT Re: Chicken Choices, insurances and more,

Chris-

> It also is much easier to say something " made me cry " than something

> " elicited a crying response from me " and most people would interpret

> it the right way. If say, " ha, that made me laugh, " not many people

> would point out that whatever it was did not physically force me to

> laugh.

Yes, well, that's much too obvious a point for me to have thought of

it. ;-)

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[Guest guest]

,

> Yes, well, that's much too obvious a point for me to have thought of

> it. ;-)

They don't call me Captain Obvious for nothing, Skipper.

Chris