Re: Time for ourselves

[Guest guest]

Dear Debra,

I'm sorry this not is awhile in comming. I'm back to work this week,

and that means I'm not able to keep up with my e-mail's in a timely manner!

I am so glad that you were OK with my note, and to hear you've

started 'working' already. In answer to your question about what treatment

would involve, it should be twofold. Yes, therapy is the place to start.

After you've consulted with someone, you and they would discuss whether

medication would be a helpful adjunct to therapy. I say adjunct, because

it's been shown that medication alone isn't effective.

It sounds like you're aware this is what you need. And I most certainly

hear what you're saying about the guilt part. I'd be interested in what other

parents have to say, but it seems to me that guilt is a big part of what we must

all struggle with. For myself, I remember going over and over things I'd done,

eaten, been exposed to during my pregnancy. The idea of hurting my child is

horrifying to me, as it is to all of us. But I think part of this (guilt) is

that we can feel

somewhat in control if we can be responsible. (Good news and bad.) The truth

is we're not in control of what happened, and never were. Not one of us would

have chosen this for our children. I think this issue is important not only for

ourselves,

but for our children too. If our energy is going 'down the drain'....... of

guilt, it's not

available for them, in a more pro-active way. Just some thoughts from an " old

t-timer " .

Stay in touch, you're in my thoughts.

Fondly,